Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Js_Other_Half

'Social tariff' information :

http://www.energychoices.co.uk/social-tariffs.html

Errata

Info on how to apply for a Community Care Grant here http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Caringforsomeone/DG_10018921

Savvy_sewing

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

'Social tariff' information :

http://www.energychoices.co.uk/social-tariffs.html

I think that I will try to speak to Npower tomorrow. Thanks so much for pointing this one out. :T

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

Info on how to apply for a Community Care Grant here http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Caringforsomeone/DG_10018921

Not sure that I will be entitled to this as it says what its not for is Fuel bills! But it was worth trying to read. Perhaps I shall chat to the social workers again though. Its a thought. Time to go back to the CAB I think, or welfare rights. Also time to insist that the girls assessments are updated immediately, and that the powers that be acknowledge me some how!. Even if it is a bit of respite occassionally.
Thanks everyone for giving me a dig in the ribs to check things out and to stop taking the white wash I am getting at the moment.
:rolleyes:

Savvy_sewing

Last night we ended up having a family meeting around ten oclock.! I think i hit over load. It had to be that late as that was when everyone was back home. DS's two mates were left to their own devices in the office, and the rest of them were sent home.
Twin2 and Biggest of Mooloo's were at each others throats arguing. I had to tell them that what ever has gone wrong in the past, is that. It is in the past. But from now on. (Well the meeting on) things would have to change.
I have told them all that if things do not sort themselves out I will not be prepared to sign the next tenancy agreement, and that they can all go thier own way in the systems!! There was quite a look of horror on thier faces!.
Now I am off to get the day kick started now that thier breakfast is over.
MY MANTRA MUST BE I CANNOT GIVE IN, AND THINGS WILL GET DONE NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!

Js_Other_Half

I came across a site today called Supporting People - it may be of some use to you concerning the twins?

"The Supporting People programme offers vulnerable people the opportunity to improve their quality of life by providing a stable environment which enables greater independence.
It will deliver high quality and strategically planned housing-related services which are cost effective and reliable, and complement existing care services. The planning and development of services will be needs led. Supporting People is a working partnership of local government, service users and support agencies."

http://www.spkweb.org.uk/

Js_Other_Half

Two more sites for you:

http://www.changepeople.co.uk/


http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Publications/PublicationsPolicyAndGuidance/DH_093378

Savvy_sewing

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

I came across a site today called Supporting People - it may be of some use to you concerning the twins?

"The Supporting People programme offers vulnerable people the opportunity to improve their quality of life by providing a stable environment which enables greater independence.
It will deliver high quality and strategically planned housing-related services which are cost effective and reliable, and complement existing care services. The planning and development of services will be needs led. Supporting People is a working partnership of local government, service users and support agencies."

http://www.spkweb.org.uk/

I think that this is the sort of thing that SW were talking about for twin2. Twin 1 didnt really want to leave home.
Although I loose my rag at times, if the girls want to stay at home we should be able to be supported so that they can. However it is a difficult situation with us all under one roof at times.
My problem is that if twin2 goes into the care system willingly, then it will mean a short fall of our income pool of £600 a month, £400 that is paid for her share of the rent costs, and £50 a week that comes out of her money into the shopping/fuel/water/rates etc bills. I realise that I would not be spending as much on food and nappies etc for her, but I am not sure that the fuel bills would be that big a difference. But I am fearful as I know that I would not be able to find anymore than I already have, as my funds have now been cut considerably over the last 4 months, as I got worse healthwise. From a wage plus Childtax credits, and tax credits, my side of the income has dropped by £1,600 a month approx and is due to drop as soon as DS leaves school, and I will then only have £60.50 a week. There is no way I would be able to make up that shortfall, and DS will only be on an apprenticeship so he would not be on much?
It would therefore mean that we have to downsize, and that means moving again, with DS doing his GCSE's. I also do not have the funding anymore to put a deposit down on another property, which I would have to do before getting the deposit from here back. (Which I owe to my Dad anyway!).
I went to the council to ask them, and they will not pay the full amount of rent on this property. They would expect us to move.
This is my problem.
If everyone does seperate then I will have failed to help my family the way they had asked.
But some days I just feel it would be easier!! But in reality I dont want my family to be split up. I would really prefer to stay living in this house until the babies are grown a considerably site more, and DS settled in his adult life.
I would like to have help with the family sometimes thats all.

I just feel gutted that I am unable to hold the family together, and go out to work as I have done for the last 30 years of my life.!

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo

It never rains does it?

I think you have made a good start by standing up for yourself i guess theres always a thin line between love and devotion and door mat ?!

The health visitors and social workers obviously think you do a good job to be able to look after everyone but you must fight your corner and get them to help YOU not you help them by making their JOB easier.

They get to go home at the end of the day you must get them to help you have a little bit of the same you need a life too.

Shaz

ps speak to your provider about spreading the payments on your bill most are supportive in the end

Savvy_sewing

Its Friday night and I am finally resting up in my room. Brought the laptop to the bed instead of the desk, and layered up with quilt and throws!. Have managed to keep the twins from turning the heating up today at least.!
DS has gone out and is staying at one of his friends for tonight.
Negotiations with his homeless friends family and the council yesterday has meant the lad can go home today. with major conditions, but at least that is one Job I managed to get sorted yesterday. How come I can help others but never manage it for myself.?
Homestart have finally got back to me, someone is coming out to see us on the 5th March to see if we can go on thier waiting list! for a volunteer to come and help.
Time to really think about what it is I am asking them to do for me.! Us!
Biggest of Mooloo has gone to work in our local football club. She helps out once in a blue moon when they are stuck for staff. Our pub days coming in handy for her. Its keeping her busy since her fella left. She is worried at how long she can stop with us, so I have said she could probably go and live with my parents if it got really stuck. (But I dont think she would like that much, they are in thier 70s).
BF has said that he will come over tomorrow.
Twin2's babies Dad is coming over in the morning to see BBJ, (the one with tonsilitus).
Twin1 has managed to get BGPto sleep, she has been very ill the last 24 hours. I am hoping that she will start to keep her drinks down now.
What a day it has been.
Wanted to watch Taggart but my Digital Box is going blank on most of the channels today. Must be a signal problem.?
I called into the BHF furniture shop today, and got a small desk/dresser for DS's room and a chest freezer that I have been desperate to get. They will deliver it for me on Monday.
That will be all the things we where wanting, and the end of my pay off from work. But with a chest freezer I can do some of the more money saving batch cooking, and buy whoopsies etc when the opportunity arrises. It will hopefully pay it self off with in about 3 months I hope.!!
Ah ah, got Taggart at last.
So I am off to relax properly tonight, and after the evening "off" perhaps I will be able to collate my next moves.
Thanks for all the support. It helps keep me strong when I am feeling at the edge of the knife.