Please Help! Im only 19!

misscomickat

Don't answer if you don't want to, but are you from different cultural/religious backgrounds?

Could you maybe look into a lift sharing scheme at work? Maybe you could give someone else a lift and get them to give you petrol money.

Perhaps long term you need to be thinking of moving away from the family home. Although that will cost you more in terms of rent/bills, it could be worth it for the benefits to your mental health.

debrag

You need to find out what ebay & paypal are asking? do they want full amounts? will they take it over a few months? You say those plus your over bank are wanting £170 intotal then DON'T see your girlfriend this weekend, put the £160 from that & £10 from the £85 left over to paying these off then you only have your cc left which you can work with better

Lisakx

you sure she's worth all this? I wouldn't let a guy pay my phone bill, unless he was my husband then that'd be one of his marital rights (joking!) if you are serious about her and wish to marry her on move in together when she finishes her education your not going to be able to get a mortgage and stuff so maybe you need to be thinking about the future. If she is worth it she will understand, if she kicks up a fuss she's not the one for you!

deehill

misscomickat wrote: »

Don't answer if you don't want to, but are you from different cultural/religious backgrounds?

Could you maybe look into a lift sharing scheme at work? Maybe you could give someone else a lift and get them to give you petrol money.

Perhaps long term you need to be thinking of moving away from the family home. Although that will cost you more in terms of rent/bills, it could be worth it for the benefits to your mental health.

Hi, no im not, itsjust some personal falling outs that have caused it.

Also, i am thinking of moving in with my g/f, it will cost less than the £600 i am spending driving to see her.

Also, please, my g/f is extremly upset that i am paying her bill, but i told her i want to.

misspixierocktastic

Deehill my apologies i didnt realise that you had already made an attempt to call them :-)

debrag

deehill wrote: »

Also, please, my g/f is extremly upset that i am paying her bill, but i told her i want to.

but you can't afford 2

[Deleted User]

I'm guessing it's a 3 tarif... can you ask if you can change the tarif to something newer? If they won't, consider knocking it down to the lowest they can go, then get a new 3 contract as the new ones are far better value.

Explain the situation, suggest that you could upgrade early .. they may want a fee but i bet it'll be cheaper long term

Can you cut the cost of the hotel down? If you stay at the same place regularly, ask them if they'll give you a discounted rate.

I do think you should be able to knock it down to every other weekend. Yes, yes, i know you're in love, but you speak all the time on the phone don't you? Just think about your future and how things will change one day

good luck

misscomickat

It sounds like a good idea to confront your fears, set up a payment plan and look to the future.

I know what it's like when families come between relationships and it's not very nice. Good luck.

deehill

misspixierocktastic wrote: »

Deehill my apologies i didnt realise that you had already made an attempt to call them :-)

Thats ok I didnt make it very clear.

I just want them to write to me, so i need to find out how to phrase a letter to them :S

misspixierocktastic

I appreciate that you want to pay your gf's phone bill bless you, you care a lot for her
Is there a reason that you are paying it for example can she not afford to pay it herself or are you just doing it because you want too