Money Moral Dilemma: Should we give two of our daughters cash in lieu of paying for their weddings?

Jubee

My view is the same as some above, give the others £20k in lieu on the basis that if they change their minds they fund their own weddings

BungalowBel

I would give them all the same, no strings attached.

However, I'm in the camp that says £20k on a wedding is a waste of money - I'd rather give it to them for a house deposit or similar.  But it is not my money to spend.  

Whatever you give to one, for whatever purpose, give it to the others too.