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greenbee

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82081936#Comment_82081936

If you need someone to bounce ideas of/vent to, feel free. If the unions are involved, anything like the ones I've worked with in the past, they'll make sure the process is strung out for as long as possible. It can make it stressful, but it also means everyone is employed for as long as possible. I've also found that HR aren't very good at making sure they've checked individual contracts for non-standard clauses… or older Ts & Cs… obviously they need to be careful that there's no hint of discrimination in your case, assuming they've remembered :)

Fortune_Smiles

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82077478#Comment_82077478

Well done RT! They've met their match.

Fortune x

rtandon27

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82081948#Comment_82081948

Definately @greenbee - and that offer is mutual - pm me your e-mail/number & I'll add you to teams/whatsapp! (let me know which you use more!) - I'm not at all displeased that the process is being strung out tbh. Means less private medical payments from my pocket!

…and past me is getting thanked everyday for getting our financial affairs in order so this only needs to be a blip rather than a stressor…

…my professional ego on the other hand is very bruised and will be for some time I'm sure!

rtandon27

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82082260#Comment_82082260

Hi praise indeed @Fortune_Smiles - your own prep efforts from the bull-pen are inspirational - I wish you every success in the battle itself!

rtandon27

..and in today's 'the world is a crazy place update'…

1) A black cab driver refused to assist me with the door, despite my white symbol cane, because he saw me walk to the taxi rank unaided! I told him loudly what I thought, refused to get into his vehicle and pointed out there is nothing wrong with my feet! - the SWR staff member near me was shocked by his behaviour - and I was so upset I forgot to take a picture of either his liscense or his plates!

2) The estate agent has sent me a revised terms of business that is at best 17 years old, and quotes obsolete legislation in the documnent, there are also contradicting clauses and parity issues! What kind of an idiot do they take me for? The cover e-mail also refers to a conversation we've never had and omits the answers to questions that have been asked more than once (in writing). I'm happily letting them dig themselves their own grave.

3) My dear Mom across the pond has decided to write me with all the things I've supposedly done to wrong her since the start of pandemic. I told her to pack it in and book a time in August if she wished to discuss as I don't currently have the time or the headspace for her grievances. As I've never said anything like this to her in my entire life she was shocked and has gone quiet. Suprisingly I'm feeling unapologetic! (hashtag momguilt, hashtag passive agression, hashtag first world problems)

EssexHebridean

Is that typical behaviour for your Mum RT or is that a red flag sign of cognitive issues?

Fortune_Smiles

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82084789#Comment_82084789

Oh dear RT. 'When sorrows come, they come not single spies, but in battalions.' Sending a very big virtual hug. Keep up the fight.

Fortune x

Greying_Pilgrim

Good Lord rt - how on earth do you manage to keep going?

Interesting thought on the cognitive change/decline - I was talking to a more senior member of the Fam. the other day. They'd always been forthright, but had mellowed as time, age and retirement moved on. They said two things - in and of themselves of little consequence - but it immediately made me wonder if they are showing signs of cognitive decline, as the comments were unnecessary and 'out of kilter' with the rest of the conversation.

Hoping that some sort of intervention occurs and all the folk causing you angst are magically transformed into compliant, supportive and kind human beings.

Greying X

rtandon27

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82084807#Comment_82084807

haha - no it's typical of my mom - she just picked the wrong day/time to push my buttons - love her dearly but she's been guilt tripping me since May 2006 when I first moved to the UK.

rtandon27

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/82084831#Comment_82084831

Thank you my dear - much appreciated - atm everything is getting under my skin & i more than anything i needed a good vent!