Packed lunch or school dinner?

kimwp

kezzygirl said:

Archergirl said:

Is he a healthy weight, how much money do you give him and what does he spend it on?

I wouldn't pander to him so much he seems to be a bit pampered, will he expect a wife to wait on him like you do? Really he needs to learn to do stuff for himself does he even realise how much you do for him do you think?

No he doesn't realise how much I do and does take things for granted. I'm not having him starve at school because he didn't do his packed lunch. He is very independent in the kitchen and can easily cook himself a meal with Confidence. It's the packed lunch where he falls down. Tbh rolls and sarnies every day doesn't do anything for me either. But he is definitely not a salad person or any other cold meal that I could give him. He is slim build (28 waist) and 5ft 10/11, he has the build of the men on my side of the family. He would spend about 2.50 a day maybe £3

What age do you think a person of his abilities should take responsibility for this?  

theoretica

I wonder if he would be open to a deal - you will pay for school lunches, and once a week he will cook family dinner for everyone (that meets DH's health requirements, and is on time).  Useful life skill!

kezzygirl

Blimey, didn't expect this to be added to Facebook!!

kimwp

kezzygirl said:

Blimey, didn't expect this to be added to Facebook!!

I was a bit freaked out when one of my posts was added to the front page!

Angelica123

kezzygirl said:

Archergirl said:

Is he a healthy weight, how much money do you give him and what does he spend it on?

I wouldn't pander to him so much he seems to be a bit pampered, will he expect a wife to wait on him like you do? Really he needs to learn to do stuff for himself does he even realise how much you do for him do you think?

No he doesn't realise how much I do and does take things for granted. I'm not having him starve at school because he didn't do his packed lunch. He is very independent in the kitchen and can easily cook himself a meal with Confidence. It's the packed lunch where he falls down. Tbh rolls and sarnies every day doesn't do anything for me either. But he is definitely not a salad person or any other cold meal that I could give him. He is slim build (28 waist) and 5ft 10/11, he has the build of the men on my side of the family. He would spend about 2.50 a day maybe £3

He's not making the packed lunches because he doesn't want to eat the packed lunches. You're just wasting food and money by pushing it, and having him throw away packed lunches to buy school meals. 

I would focus your energy on getting him to have healthier meals at home, and getting rid of the less nutritious snacks around the house. If he wants brioche every day then he can start saving money to buy it. 

Spendless

As others have said leave the insisting for him to make a packed lunch. In a few years time he'll either be working and very few places have workplace canteens nowadays or he'll be at Uni. Either way when his choices are to spend his wages/student loan on buying food at lunchtime or taking his own, he'll soon decide what his preferred option with.

Put enough money on for him to get at school the same as his mates are doing and rejig around what is available at home for him to eat.

twopenny

It's a tricky one because at 15 he's still bouncing around between child and adult. You've given him the chance to have meals cooked for him, not eating them and then picking at what he fancies so maybe start to reduce what's available for him to pick at.

I agree to suggest if he want's school food then he makes up the difference between packed (which you can give him) and top up with his pocket money. That seems to be the way to start him understanding the value and making choices. Going to be tricky for a while but he may realsise as he gets older that he has to pay for what he wants and the decisions that involves.

This reminds me of my neighbours son, back in his mothers tiny home at 40 and drifting back and forth with his partner and 2 children. So both women cook for him because he can't be bothered, he's in part time work because he doesn't want to work full time and does nothing else. He's spoiling his mothers new life, his partners life and he still thinks he's young.

kezzygirl

Angelica123 said:

kezzygirl said:

Archergirl said:

Is he a healthy weight, how much money do you give him and what does he spend it on?

I wouldn't pander to him so much he seems to be a bit pampered, will he expect a wife to wait on him like you do? Really he needs to learn to do stuff for himself does he even realise how much you do for him do you think?

No he doesn't realise how much I do and does take things for granted. I'm not having him starve at school because he didn't do his packed lunch. He is very independent in the kitchen and can easily cook himself a meal with Confidence. It's the packed lunch where he falls down. Tbh rolls and sarnies every day doesn't do anything for me either. But he is definitely not a salad person or any other cold meal that I could give him. He is slim build (28 waist) and 5ft 10/11, he has the build of the men on my side of the family. He would spend about 2.50 a day maybe £3

He's not making the packed lunches because he doesn't want to eat the packed lunches. You're just wasting food and money by pushing it, and having him throw away packed lunches to buy school meals. 

I would focus your energy on getting him to have healthier meals at home, and getting rid of the less nutritious snacks around the house. If he wants brioche every day then he can start saving money to buy it. 

That's the thing. He will not eat breakfast if something snacky isn't available! Hence the brioche. He won't eat toast, will eat waffles or brioche. Is it better he goes to school on an empty stomach?!!!

Wyndham

kezzygirl said:

Angelica123 said:

kezzygirl said:

Archergirl said:

Is he a healthy weight, how much money do you give him and what does he spend it on?

I wouldn't pander to him so much he seems to be a bit pampered, will he expect a wife to wait on him like you do? Really he needs to learn to do stuff for himself does he even realise how much you do for him do you think?

No he doesn't realise how much I do and does take things for granted. I'm not having him starve at school because he didn't do his packed lunch. He is very independent in the kitchen and can easily cook himself a meal with Confidence. It's the packed lunch where he falls down. Tbh rolls and sarnies every day doesn't do anything for me either. But he is definitely not a salad person or any other cold meal that I could give him. He is slim build (28 waist) and 5ft 10/11, he has the build of the men on my side of the family. He would spend about 2.50 a day maybe £3

He's not making the packed lunches because he doesn't want to eat the packed lunches. You're just wasting food and money by pushing it, and having him throw away packed lunches to buy school meals. 

I would focus your energy on getting him to have healthier meals at home, and getting rid of the less nutritious snacks around the house. If he wants brioche every day then he can start saving money to buy it. 

That's the thing. He will not eat breakfast if something snacky isn't available! Hence the brioche. He won't eat toast, will eat waffles or brioche. Is it better he goes to school on an empty stomach?!!!

Yes, actually it may be. Once he's had a day or two of an empty stomach he may well realise he doesn't like it!

theoretica

I forgot if you have said if his health is giving you concerns, or if your thoughts on healthy eating are more general ones and about habits for the future?

Brioche looks less sugary than many cereals, though perhaps by itself short on protein.