Money Moral Dilemma: Should my friends gift my only child more money since they each have two kids?

Sloop1954

She's still got friends?

2702

Yes absolutely.Although if they were good friends they would do it. Otherwise opt out.

elizabethhull

No - simple as that !

bikaga

I'd raise it with my friends - to be honest, I don't think my friends would expect me to pay twice as much. If it's money you can easily spare, maybe just leave it, but I would mention it anyway. Might be that people haven't really been thinking / considering your point of view.

Another one of the 19/20 MSE Moral Dilemmas that could be fixed by people talking to each other.

koalakoala

What a stupid idea. 

Just opt out and put what you want in your child’s account

CapeTown

My sister in law insisted on presents each year up to a value of £10 each. This was years ago. She has 4 children and I have three. I hate all this needless spending but went along with it because she liked traditional things.  This was fine until I discovered she had been buying in sales and was spending buttons as in a pound per gift. I immediately stopped and gave her gift vouchers for books. She carried on for a couple of years until she twigged. So what I am saying is..... stop this nonsense.  Get yours kids your stuff. Give the other kids something from a charity store 

Bladerider900

Absolutely ridiculous that this even gets forum space. Is there no common sense left in this world. 

04Felix15

I hear what you’re saying. 

Why did you agree to such a thing if you wasn’t comfortable with it? 

speak up now about how you feel if there are your friends 

You don’t have to do this honestly. 

ripongrammargirl

I just don’t get it. Each child is getting £30 so this just cancels out getting it back for your own child! Why not just give your own child the £30 and forget everyone else’s? The way this is worded makes it sound like this £30 per child is going into the household budget and not into a savings account for the child, which is why you are whining about “is this fair as my child only gets £30 and not £60 like the other families’ two children!!”
Keep the £30 and put it in your child’s account. Charity starts at home so look after your own and forget others’ children as this is obviously causing negative feelings/jealousy. Why did you all agree to this if you feel like you (not even your child) is losing out because they have no sibling? It’s just a weird thought process. Keep your cash and do an activity with the children and adults, that all will enjoy, such as a festive pantomime…. Or will that cause more friction because the friends with 2 children have to pay more for the seats than you with one child?!!! Sounds crazy when it’s phrased like this, doesn’t it?

Missy15

I have already read this answer a few times, but I am incensed enough to write it myself, the answer is, just stop this senseless idiocy.
My question back to you is, just why did anyone in your group, think this was a sensible idea for  present giving particularly for kids?