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Money Moral Dilemma: Should we still give our son £1,000 instead of a puppy?

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  • Groom
    Groom Posts: 80 Forumite
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    Yes, you promised your son £1000, it isn't his fault that his brother changed his mind. Presumably you sold the extra puppy so you can then give that to the other son to buy the dog he wants. You wont be any the worse off. Perhaps the worrying thing is that, unless you are already registered breeders, you did this and that your son, knowing that was what you were doing, suddenly decided against having that breed of puppy. 
  • I agree with one of the references made about you breeding your dog so your son could have a puppy and then changed his mind , I’m just wondering why you would breed your dog for this reason surely your son could have gone and bought a dog elsewhere, the money is actually irrelevant that you promised…
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 0 Forumite
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    edited 23 July 2024 at 10:45PM
    Putting aside the obvious animal welfare issues here, you mention your youngest son is married, so clearly neither of your sons are children any longer. I can scarcely believe that an adult would change their mind about wanting one of the puppies you had specially bred for him after they were born. I also find it astonishing you felt the need to offer your other adult son the equivalent value of the puppy in cash. My own children were brought up to realise that life isn’t always 100% fair 100% of the time, so I’m sorry to say you may have made a rod for your own backs. They should both understand by this age that either may need financial help at any separate point in time. However, by giving both of them money whenever just one of them needs it - apart from being the wrong way to go about things - means you are doubling up on your expenditure every time! 

    I don’t wish to sound harsh but your younger adult son does sound rather impulsive, and if his older brother was expecting to be compensated from the outset, this too is unreasonable behaviour from an adult. Obviously your younger son is short of money, which is why you offered to breed a puppy for him. However, instead of this my advice to anyone in your situation would have been to lend some money to him to buy his own puppy, on the strict understanding he would pay you back in manageable instalments. That way you wouldn’t be facing the problem regarding whether to pay his brother the equivalent amount.

    I have no doubt you are very kind-hearted parents, but sadly this is exactly what has led to the predicament you are in. Maybe you need to toughen up a bit with your sons. 

    Good luck!
  • A grand for each puppy? Forget the kids, I'd be getting that labrador up the duff again pronto! 
  • elsien
    elsien Posts: 36,077 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper Photogenic
    Dogs are living animals. Not property to be bought and sold. You should be banned from keeping dogs.
    Legally, that’s exactly what dogs are. Property.

    Given that there is no evidence at all that they are mistreating their dogs or breaking any laws on what basis should they be banned from keeping dogs? 
    Moral objections to breeding not relevant,
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
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