Simple Funerals question.

tooldle

“What is a direct cremation?

A direct cremation, sometimes referred to as a simple cremation, is a cremation without a ceremony. There are no family, friends, minister or celebrant in attendance. Apart from that, the process itself is exactly the same as any other cremation.

A direct cremation takes place at a time and place chosen by the cremation provider. This may be early in the morning when crematoria are quieter and appointments are less expensive, or at a dedicated direct cremation venue some distance away. The time spent at the crematoria is much quicker than for a standard cremation, as there is no funeral service or ceremony. The  cremation provider will also choose a simple, inexpensive coffin.

Independent funeral directors, larger chains and specialised direct cremation services all now offer direct cremation as an option. However, if you want a simple cremation, it is worth checking that your funeral director offers this, as not all do.”

Definition from https://humanists.uk/ceremonies/funerals/blog/what-is-a-direct-cremation-and-is-it-right-for-us/

Mojisola

Cacran said:

Both my husband and I have always said to the children, that when we die, we want to have a very simple funeral.
After having a conversation with a friend who recently lost his wife, we are having second thoughts.
The funeral director that arranged the funeral of the friends wife, told him that the cheapest funerals with no frills are not what you would imagine.
Not sure if what he was told, is true.
It was that the body would be collected from the place of death along with four other bodies in the area. They are then taken to a crematorium that could be hundreds of miles away. Then they send you the ashes.
It seems a bit disrespectful, travelling long distances with other bodies.
Does anyone actually know if this is true?

It probably depends where the nearest crematorium is and how busy it is. 

Our local FD uses the local crematorium but the cremation is done at quieter times.

It's possible to have a very simple, and consequently much cheaper, funeral - discuss the options with a couple of local FDs.

Keep_pedalling

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I disagree entirely with non-traditional funerals. I abhor all the weird celebrations people want or ask for these days. 
I know that sounds rather dogmatic but just being honest about what I feel.

I feel you are in the minority there, and closure is for those left behind not the dead who are beyond caring.

I have been to 3 funerals this year, two were non religious which I found really fitting ceremonies, while one choosing Pavarotti and REM for their music choice, and the other birdsong and Pink Floyd.

The third was religious but as with dire choice of music including the dreadful All things B&B because it is the only hymn they know. 

Gers

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I have chosen everything for my funeral. They can either like it or lump it!

Do you realise that, in the end, what you have chosen and carefully planned for can be all completely ignored by those left to deal with your body?  Whatever you have suggested in your will it's not legally enforceable. 

Your executors may well abide by your plan as it's any easy route to take, if they fundamentally disagree then it goes to pot.  Not a chance of them 'lumping it'.

Gers

Just a bit of info - Simple Cremations and Pure Cremations (and probably others) are companies.  A direct cremation is sometimes called 'unattended'.

My late DM had a direct cremation (she asked for it). A local to her company and held at a local crematorium, I was given the time and date which I spent with her long-standing and also elderly friend. Later on I held a get-together, just as DM wished and I was happy to comply. I would have been very unhappy with the full 'traditional' service.  Queen Victoria has a lot to answer for.

tooldle

Perhaps Keep_pedalling is referring to commentary made by the Bishop of Leeds, some years ago now. I believe, wicked and dreadful were the words he used. 
I’m not a fan myself, due to the theme. The hymn reminds me of middle school assemblies. 

sarah1972

My husband has terminal cancer (I am 51 and he is 62) we have both said for years that we both want a no funeral funeral. My Nan paid for hers a few years back £1600, if we choose to have her ashes (which we won’t) there is an additional fee but other than that it’s all done, including paperwork. 

My grandad cremated his partner 6 years ago, no frills at all, one car and it was £4000. I went to a friends funeral 2 months ago cremation and a wake in a local pub, total cost over  £6000. Ridiculous amount of money in my opinion but I appreciate not everyone feels the same. 

marycanary

Gers said:

[Deleted User] said:

I have chosen everything for my funeral. They can either like it or lump it!

Do you realise that, in the end, what you have chosen and carefully planned for can be all completely ignored by those left to deal with your body?  Whatever you have suggested in your will it's not legally enforceable. 

Your executors may well abide by your plan as it's any easy route to take, if they fundamentally disagree then it goes to pot.  Not a chance of them 'lumping it'.

To deliberately ignore someone's known wishes, assuming it would be practical to fulfil them would be a nasty, petty and mean thing to do,  All of us can only trust that our executors will follow our wishes. 

tooldle said:

Perhaps Keep_pedalling is referring to commentary made by the Bishop of Leeds, some years ago now. I believe, wicked and dreadful were the words he used. 
I’m not a fan myself, due to the theme. The hymn reminds me of middle school assemblies. 

Isn't that the point? You and the Bishop of Leeds don't like the hymn but Baron Dale's gran did.

BikingBud

This always  makes me laugh:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_We_Did_on_Our_Holiday

Be a viking!

sheramber

It is it is unlikely a herse would travel  further than the nearest crematorium. 

Depending where you live that may 1/4 Mile up the road or a hundred miles away, as was the case with my husband’s funeral. Not a direct cremation  but the nearest crematorium was 105 miles away. Hence, most locals were buried in the local cemetery.