Simple Funerals question.

luvchocolate

I have paid for my funeral about 8 years ago. 
This is with the Co op and classed as a simple funeral...cost just short of 3,000 
Simple as no cars or wake..I live away from my son so he would be in own car anyway. 
He'll arrange whatever he likes for afterwards we are a small family. 

This is different to a direct cremation. 

I did think of what he would prefer and discussed with him. 

His father died during Covid and although limited people at the crematorium he needed that part. 

Each to their own

gwynlas

A funeral can be whatever you make it, one local specified that he wanted to be transported on a gun carriage which looked inmpressive. I recently went to one in a Catholic Church but with cardboard coffin and cremation afterwards. Another who had a pink wicker coffin and a woodland burial with non religeous celebrant.Even if you share a final journry with others every body gets an individual cremation and barring dishonest practices the cremains are returned to the family.
I have specified a simple cremation without service and to have my ashes scattered in AONB it will be up to my executors how they choose to interpret this.

Organgrinder

I want as simple a service as possible with any money saved being used by my family in whichever way they see fit.

I have no desire for a memorial or anything like that. 

If my family want to do something that is entirely up to them. 

jackieblack

p00hsticks said:

jackieblack said:

in due course, my ashes will be given to my daughter (they return by hand) and she can do whatever she wants with them. 

Just a general point, but please give some thought as to what you want to happen to the ashes as well - if you don't really care then suggest that perhaps they could be scattered in the garden of remembrance at the local crematorium (I think all crematoria have them).

 I am currently 'looking after' three sets of ashes of relatives who didn't specify what they wanted done with them and closer surviving relatives can't decide what to do with them but don't want them in the house .......

She can scatter them or bury them wherever she wants, provided it’s not any kind of Garden of Remembrance (we have had that discussion)

Mum’s ashes are in my wardrobe waiting to be buried in a double casket with my Dad’s in due course - we have purchased a plot in a village (not church) cemetery in the village where they lived for over 40 years, but that was Dad’s choice and Mum wasn’t bothered about where her ashes went.

Floss

I have specified in my will that I want a non-religious service at the local crem, followed by my ashes being scattered in the same area of the gardens as my parents. Whilst I haven't prepaid, my estate (and therefore my sons) will receive death grants from my pensions to cover the cost.

DairyQueen

My beloved brother died with little warning this spring. A week before he passed away he made it known to me (his executor) that he wanted a direct cremation, but that he wanted his ashes interred. A local firm sensitively handled the formalities. He was cremated at a local crematorium and we were able to choose the music for his entrance, and to provide the clothes for his last journey. We could have visited him beforehand but chose not to. We were given plenty of notice of the scheduled day and husband and I chose to spend that time walking on brother's favourite beach and thinking of him. The entire process was carried-out with the utmost dignity and sensitivity

His ashes were made available for interment within two weeks. He was interred in the village cemetery with just his immediate family present but we will be holding an extended family get-together to commemorate his life later this summer.

He hated fuss so I hope that we gave him the farewell that he wanted. 

This experience has reinforced my own wish to forego a funeral.

Marksfish

I have had recent experience of this. My mate died earlier this year, he had a Simple Cremations pre- payment plan. They collected him from Milton Keynes hospital and took him to a crematorium in Andover. His remains were returned by a driver to his mother's house.

ellie99

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Well as I said earlier I want a traditional funeral and never mind the cost! I have also want black clothing and weeping!  Seriously funerals are important for closure. Those of you denying your families this are in my opinion being selfish. Try to forget MSE when dead!

And that's your opinion and that's fine. It's not everyone's. Funerals are important for closure...FOR SOME PEOPLE, not all. That's why I suggested the OP ask their family what they thought.

My parents both had direct cremations. Nothing to do with cost, all about being the last of their peers, being a small family, covid restrictions in place at the time etc etc. Frankly, it was a great relief to me, and at the time of the cremations I too went for a walk at a local beach. It took a lot of pressure off me and I don't feel that I missed out on closure. I know they're gone and I can grieve without a funeral. 

Each to their own, no need to call people selfish because their views don't align with yours.

PS The OP actually asked if it was true that more than one body would be transported at the same time, and if the crematorium would be hundreds of miles away, they didn't ask for views on whether it was the right thing to do.

Organgrinder

As I said in my post, my family can do whatever they want to do.

If I leave anything behind I want them to do whatever suits them. 

For me, and I understand people may not agree, I'm being unselfish in that I would rather they do what is best for them.

They know I am not religious. They know I don't like big occasions. But, if that works for them they also know I have no objections.

Equally, if they prefer a very simple direct cremation then that's fine too.

Katiehound

Wearing black is rarely the option these days. Most folk stipulate wear something bright as they are not only going to mourn the deceased, but to celebrate their life.

Any kind of 'celebration'- funeral, party, wake, send off, whatever will bring closure for the family.

My mother said that she wanted her ashes scattered at a beauty spot in Ireland so that's what we did. It took me an age to actually do it.