Weekly Flylady Thread 1 July 2024

Valli

roundtuit said:

Scuse me. Have you all gone somewhere else and forgotten to tell me about it?

Valli - are you OK only I notice we didn't get a list for today. 

I'm soooo lonely here.....😭

Rxx

oh i did do one…obviously forgot to press the post button (again). sorry

roundtuit

roundtuit said:

Round 1
Get dressed ✅
Feed the birds ✅
Fill the birdbath ✅
Put out rubbish and recycling ✅
Put new bin bags in bins ✅
Sort washing into loads ✅
Set first load swishing ✅
WUDUPA ✅
Order repeat prescription ✅

😊 That feels better 

Rxx

roundtuit

Valli said:

roundtuit said:

Scuse me. Have you all gone somewhere else and forgotten to tell me about it?

Valli - are you OK only I notice we didn't get a list for today. 

I'm soooo lonely here.....😭

Rxx

oh i did do one…obviously forgot to press the post button (again). sorry

Not a problem. As long as you are OK that's all I was concerned about. 

Rxx

Valli

roundtuit said:

Valli said:

roundtuit said:

Scuse me. Have you all gone somewhere else and forgotten to tell me about it?

Valli - are you OK only I notice we didn't get a list for today. 

I'm soooo lonely here.....😭

Rxx

oh i did do one…obviously forgot to press the post button (again). sorry

Not a problem. As long as you are OK that's all I was concerned about. 

Rxx

Thanks for checking...I am fine x

roundtuit

First load draped on the airer. Second load has finished swishing and is having an extra spin before going on the airer too.

Finished reading the book that I started yesterday. Book now in bag ready to be returned to P's sister.

TdF and British GP qualifying this afternoon.

Rxx

Jazee

Me again.  

The flower festival was amazing.  If I'm honest I wasn't expecting much but the displays were ingenious and there was artwork too.  I bought some plants which I've placed in the garden so that will count for flying today as I'm going to have a read a book afternoon.

The one wash load can go on the airer as we're still expecting rain.

Cloth_of_Gold

Valli said:

CoG… very similar, but mine has either Amaretto or Brandy in, too

Washing dried beautifully, so it’s either been folded or ironed.  

Narco… are there any social groups or day centres Mum can attend?  I know The Stroke Association do stuff hereabouts, they have a minibus.  

I didn't used to add Amaretto but I bought a bottle for another dish a while ago and as I shan't drink it I decided to add some to the crushed amaretti and, as you know, it works very well. My other 'tweak' is to poach the peaches in pudding wine, which I then use as a sauce to go with them; it works very well too. It's one of those dishes that gives you a lot of taste bang for your effort and skill requirements buck, so to speak, isn't it?

A had his third stent fitted yesterday. They tried widening the artery by doing a balloon angioplasty but that wasn't successful so they did another stent instead, which they said beforehand is what might happen. It went very well and he rang me at 6 to say he was ready to come home. Whilst he was in I washed and dried all the towels.

Minimal flying today - just a S&S in the kitchen and the usual food prep and washing up.

Narc0lepsy

Valli said:

Narco… are there any social groups or day centres Mum can attend?  I know The Stroke Association do stuff hereabouts, they have a minibus.  

She's got quite a selection of groups she usually goes to, a couple of which she gets a lift to, so as soon as the fatigue improves a bit (fingers crossed) she will return to those. I've got some info about the local stroke association, so if any of her usual groups need 'replacing' I will check them out. I know a couple of hers are with U3A and they don't run in the summer so it would be good to find something else.  Thanks for suggesting it.

Here, we had a reasonable day yesterday but today was terrible and Mum was very depressed all day. I did manage to coerce her out to the end of the garden (she said she didn't want to go out or talk to anyone but seemed to want to just sit in a chair whimpering - I know the feeling (sorry if that sounds heartless) but I was really out of my depth with her low mood.  However, at the front gate she went out and we bumped into NDN, his son, DIL and grandchild so she chatted a little to them. After a very short walk, I said now we're out shall we just get in the car and get that microwave bought, then it's done. Much to my surprise she agreed. Was very subdued, but she chose one and paid for it.  Mr N had arrived very late last night - I'm wondering whether that reminded her that I do actually have a life beyond her; who knows, we all get down days and there isn't much really any family/friends can do at the time.   Mr N and I had arranged to visit BIL for the afternoon, as Mum had a friend visiting.  We weren't out long but of course she thought it was ages and she'd been waiting for us 'forever'.  OK enough of me moaning, sorry. 

Flying today has comprised mainly tidying, small amount of shopping, loading DW and cooking. And caring but feeling inadequate and panicky about the future. 

Cloth_of_Gold

Narc0lepsy said:

Valli said:

Narco… are there any social groups or day centres Mum can attend?  I know The Stroke Association do stuff hereabouts, they have a minibus.  

She's got quite a selection of groups she usually goes to, a couple of which she gets a lift to, so as soon as the fatigue improves a bit (fingers crossed) she will return to those. I've got some info about the local stroke association, so if any of her usual groups need 'replacing' I will check them out. I know a couple of hers are with U3A and they don't run in the summer so it would be good to find something else.  Thanks for suggesting it.

Here, we had a reasonable day yesterday but today was terrible and Mum was very depressed all day. I did manage to coerce her out to the end of the garden (she said she didn't want to go out or talk to anyone but seemed to want to just sit in a chair whimpering - I know the feeling (sorry if that sounds heartless) but I was really out of my depth with her low mood.  However, at the front gate she went out and we bumped into NDN, his son, DIL and grandchild so she chatted a little to them. After a very short walk, I said now we're out shall we just get in the car and get that microwave bought, then it's done. Much to my surprise she agreed. Was very subdued, but she chose one and paid for it.  Mr N had arrived very late last night - I'm wondering whether that reminded her that I do actually have a life beyond her; who knows, we all get down days and there isn't much really any family/friends can do at the time.   Mr N and I had arranged to visit BIL for the afternoon, as Mum had a friend visiting.  We weren't out long but of course she thought it was ages and she'd been waiting for us 'forever'.  OK enough of me moaning, sorry. 

Flying today has comprised mainly tidying, small amount of shopping, loading DW and cooking. And caring but feeling inadequate and panicky about the future. 

Caring is very difficult Narco and I think it's not uncommon to feel that whatever you do or say the person you are caring for will not feel any better for it. It can be a frustrating and sometimes demoralising experience and all any carer can do is their best, which you are doing. We don't have a magic wand to wave, all we can do is try our hardest to be understanding, kind and patient, whatever is going on inside us. Of course, we will not always totally live up to our own expectations of ourselves; 'we are but dust' after all. All we can do is try our best and in doing so not be too hard on ourselves or pay too much heed to our perceived inadequacies. Better to love and care imperfectly than not to care at all.

ionafan

Cloth_of_Gold said:

Caring is very difficult Narco... All we can do is try our best and in doing so not be too hard on ourselves or pay too much heed to our perceived inadequacies. Better to love and care imperfectly than not to care at all.

Wise words, CoG.