Weekly Flylady Thread 6 May 2024

roundtuit

roundtuit said:

Round 1
Get dressed ✅
Peg out the washing ✅
Set second load swishing ✅
Feed the birds ✅
Fill the birdbath ✅
Put out the rubbish and recycling ✅
Put new bin bags in bins ✅
WUDUPA 

I've taken the laundry hamper back upstairs, sploshed bleach down the loo and the basin plughole, and degorillaed my legs - wearing my skirt, must be 'ot! Filled the hedgehogs water bowl. I'll WUDUPA when the sun has moved away from the kitchen window. 

Rxx

roundtuit

Second load pegged out. Goldfinch singing his/her heart out from NN's aerial.

Breakfast and coffee next 

Rxx

Natty68

Valli said:

Natty - I know you’re ok, but i am worried about your pegs 

My pegs Valli? What's wrong with my pegs...lol      

I mean it's that time of the year where I hang my washing out, and I am a bit ocd about the colour and how they are all on the line...lol

I'm sorry everyone for doing a pity me post, I'm not really sure came over me. I am feeling sorry for myself at the moment anyway as I have really injured my knee due to a silly fall over my front door step when I was heading off out.. It was probably the pain that made me feel sorry for myself..

But thank you for those that did post, and especially to Iona for the pm I will get back to you later today or tomorrow I promise.

Honey_Bear

*healing vibes* Valli.

Once again I have not posted and there are only so many weeks when sorry will cut it.  I haven't caught up on Fred this week and if I try to do so it'll be another day of not posting because ... life.

Vent \ Rant Alert

I adore Belovéd but he's managed to swerve actually taking responsibility and doing anything that looks or sounds like physical hard work for years, and this morning he managed to drink his tea in bed (made by me), have a bit of a lie-in, and disappear into his office to deal with emails, and then go to a meeting for an hour while I:

got up early

fed the cats

made that tea

put a load of WU away

walked the dog

went to the Co-op to buy pizza and spinach for tonight's meal and got cash out to pay a workman who was due at 8..00am

recycled the plastic - because apparently I didn't have enough to do, or wasn't doing enough already, and 'while you're at the Co-op' - wtaf?

organised a parking permit for the workman - which I pay for

put the cats away so they'd be safe while the work was being carried out

unlocked the security arrangements at the back of the house for the workman

worked with him shifting everything we have on the sundeck and in the yard so he could pressure wash it because it was grim out there - OH's idea, not mine, because I knew how hard it would be

washed the carpet where the pressure washer had forced an inch of grim mud under the back door

paid and said farewell to said workman

liaised with neighbours who were nosy about what was going on and pretended they had some work for the workman which turned out to be a chimera (it would be with them)

let the dog out twice to make sure she didn't puddle in the house due to all the activity

and in all spent five hours working incredibly hard while he just didn't.  'But I asked you what you wanted me to do' just doesn't cut it when I'm soaking wet and heaving stuff around on my own because he just isn't there when the work's being done, but manages to turn up fresh-faced right at the last moment.

I will probably delete this but that's pretty much what's been happening for months if not years and if I'm strictly honest with myself, it's why I'm utterly exhausted most of the time and simply don't have the energy any more to do everything that needs doing because there are two of us living here and only one who's taking responsibility for what needs doing and just doing it.  

And I need to just vent because when I pointed out that this isn't the first time he's disappeared right when he's needed to pull his weight, he manages to convince himself that I'm unkind in pointing out there's a pattern of behaviour that I'm not happy about and it's reasonable to say so.

Tbh I get the impression from a few other Flyladies that I'm not the only one who finds it hard to motivate their OH's to pull their weight which is why I am venting.  I think I'm not the only one who feels this frustrated and let down sometimes.

pigpen

That is called gaslighting HB.. you are not his mummy or his maid.. set your boundaries.. dont ask nicely tell him what your expectations are and don't sway from them. Tell him how disrespectful it is that he leaves all the hard work to you and floats around.. My argument to their 'well I work' is .. and you get to clock off at home time I didn't sit down until 10pm.. for example.. I don't motivate I ask ONCE and once only.. I'm not expecting more from OH than I expect from myself. I find housework and 'tidy' really difficult to motivate myself and I need someone to supervise me lol. Remind him often, get him a sticker chart if it helps.. DD1 has a sticker chart

OH just said 'I hope Moomin cleaned the bath and didn't leave it disgusting'

I said 'you mean like I cleaned the toilet after you used it this morning and left it disgusting?'

OH does do most of the stuff I ask him to do, though it takes FOR-E-VERRRRRR ... I have learned to give a time frame .. 'Will you empty the bins before you take Pixie to swimming please?' .. that seems to work.. and I can be grumpy if it isn't done.

OH makes us late for everything.. It is rude and really pee's me off.. he isn't perfect but he is great on the whole.. but this drives me insane. I hate being late for stuff. I am usually really early if I am without him.

Fayolle

Afternoon, all.
I’ve had a busy morning at my personal gym. Well, it sounds better than always saying the allotment anyway! Drum roll….the potatoes are finally planted. I walked back down the lane, between the tall cow parsley that has suddenly gone mad, and the first thought that came into my head was wafting in a Laura Ashley dress, trailing a liberty scarf. I’ve been hanging around with you lot for too long!
This afternoon I have another list of outdoor flying in the garden and gh, mainly triggered by the green bin being due for collection on Tuesday and it is NOT going out empty. We have friends coming round this evening, so I will have to be frugal with where I let them sit / see, due to lack of flying.
CoG - cryptic crosswords generally defeat me. My mum was a demon at them. I need the answer, then work back and go…ahhhhhh, I see.
Iona - DD sent fantastic pictures last night of the northern lights from the uni city, just before midnight, so not too far from you. Fingers crossed that you get a sighting this evening.
HB, have a hug or 3. You have my total sympathy. DH is slightly better since retiring, but only in the past month or so, and he has been retired pretty much since last June. But it is usually my fault (allegedly) for not asking, and if I ask, it is nagging. No win situation, in this house anyway.
Natty, have a hug too x And anyone else feeling despondent, down, or just thoroughly fed up.

Jazee

Afternoon all.  Just sitting down after a very busy day.  Had both DGDs this morning and went to sports this afternoon..came home early.  I was the only woman there and the men were macho and rude and I knew they would expect me to make the tea .  As DH doesn't even expect that at home, I left them to it.

Just the basics done here today although two wash loads have line dried.

kazwookie

Been out doggie walking

Kitchen done

A 3 year heap next to the shed of plastic pots etc has now been sorted, some in bin, some freecyle, some kept, all neat and tidy.

pigpen

Foundation class wanted an Incy-wincy..



C&C's washing folded.. and 2 loads out on the line.. another load swishing..

roundtuit

Washing line dried and brought in mid-afternoon in case of NN barbies being fired up. 

I've read a pile of magazines this afternoon- to be recycled. A couple more rows of knitting completed. 

I'm putting NN's chickens to bed at 9.15. And I'm watching Eurovision at the moment. The idea being that it would take me through to Northern Lights time.....but I'm not sure about that. Might surrender and read instead. We'll see.

Rxx