Joint inheritance moral and logistical dilemma.

Geriatricmum

sheramber said:

You say you are sure your sister will be able to manage her own affairs so what  do you envisage you would responsible for?

She needs to learn to handle her her own affairs, that takes time. She is not being taught how to do this, at 43 she's not got a clue about life admin and finances as my parents do everything for her.

I'm expected to take this role over. Will she be bothered to learn on her own? Probably not. Will she expect some else to do that stuff for her? definitely. 

LightFlare

It could be another 20 or 30 years before this becomes an actual issue.

You need to find a way to not let it govern your life untill then

Malthusian

Geriatricmum said:

She needs to learn to handle her her own affairs, that takes time. She is not being taught how to do this, at 43 she's not got a clue about life admin and finances as my parents do everything for her.

I'm expected to take this role over. Will she be bothered to learn on her own? Probably not. Will she expect some else to do that stuff for her? definitely. 

If, as you say, she is capable of learning life admin despite her learning difficulties, then whether she bothers to learn will depend on whether you do it for her. If you do then she won't. If you don't then she will.

It's difficult to get a handle on exactly how capable she is of dealing with financial matters, because in one post you say that she is capable and the issue is only that she hasn't had the chance to get hands-on experience, and in another you suggest that she will need to go into care, which would only be necessary if she was completely incapable.

It is not unusual for someone to only learn how to deal with bills etc when somebody else stops doing it for them, whether they're an 18 year old moving into their first rented property, a widow(er) who loses the spouse that did all the admin, or the child of someone who lives with their parents. Mostly they cope. It is often very stressful, often more stressful than it should have been, but they survive.