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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I accept an expensive present from my boyfriend who owes me money?

MSE_Kelvin · 2024-02-06 12:49:19

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My boyfriend, who has been trying to sort himself out financially, got me a beautiful bike that cost £1,500 for my birthday. He says it's a larger-than-normal gift to say thank you for finding us our flat and helping him sort his life out. Yet he owes me a month's rent and…

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enthusiasticsaver Posts: 16,222 Ambassador

14 February 2024 at 8:21AM

No I would not accept the gift. I would say you appreciate the gesture but the biggest gift he can give you is to repay money he owes you for the flat deposit and rent and to sort out his finances. Buying an expensive gift when he obviously cannot afford it is the very opposite of that. Ask him to return it and then repay what you owe him. Undoubtedly he has borrowed to buy it thus compounding his mistake. This man is an idiot with money and I would be wary going forward with him.

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