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Watty1

As ever I am in awe of you Redo and the way you are managing.

Sun_Addict

Exactly what watty says. You’re doing really well. I’m sure no one would expect a Christmas card from you this year so well done for doing them anyway. My cousin lost her husband suddenly earlier this year and has signed her card with her name and family which she’s always done anyway. 

Seasidegal58

I've just caught up with your diary redo after being off the boards for a while. I admire you so much for coping as you have done and how you are managing. 

Hugs from me. Xxx

redofromstart

Thank you all.  I freely admit that there are still times when I just don't function at all, and I know and accept that this is 'normal' for grief.  Waves is the still the best description anyone has given me.  Accepting it for what it is helps - it does me anyway.  

EssexHebridean

Yep - normal is that there is no normal isn't it - everyone is different and deals with things in their own way. I've always thought that getting to the stage of being able to remind yourself about that is a key step forwards. 

Good plan with the card to have done the "big thing" part first as well - and yes, of course it is a big thing. Mum tends to just write our names on our presents from her now, and not who they're from at all, as she still finds it quite hard to write just "Mum" without "...& Dad" I think. Not surprising - I find it quite hard to see it as well. 

redofromstart

In the words of Granny Weatherwax 'I aten't dead', but equally not honestly, particularly, truely, firing on every cylinder currently.  

Normal service will, no doubt, resume shortly. 

WelshmansDaughter

Yup. If one could somehow skip Christmas while also celebrating it…

rtandon27

redofromstart said:

In the words of Granny Weatherwax 'I aten't dead', but equally not honestly, particularly, truely, firing on every cylinder currently.  

Normal service will, no doubt, resume shortly. 

I hope you've dusted off your sign and displayed it prominently xoxox  - sending over supportive virtual hugs!

KajiKita

Cylinder misfires are entirely expected. Be kind to yourself.

KK x

Cherryfudge

Hibernation is justified, so long as you wake yourself up if the sun shines and go for a wander out of doors. The first signs of spring will be here in a matter of weeks but in the meantime, be gentle on yourself.