Watty's Awakening

Humdinger1

Well done dearest @Watty1 for dismantling all evidence of PPH from your life! You've got me humming 'I'm going to ŵash that man right out of my hair' now.  Good news on Wattydog and CC too! Love Humdinger xx 

Slinky

Good news on Wattydog and CC and the garden sounds like it's coming on a treat.

Has PPH moved away from the area now, or have you found a way with dealing with the thoughts of coming across him? I recall how you were concerned last year about bumping into him in a variety of situations, but you don't mention it now which seems a huge step forward.

KajiKita

Vicariously, really enjoying the symbolic stripping of PPH from your home and garden … ❤️

Well done WattyDog for being sensible and resting, good boy! 😊

KK

Watty1

Slinky said:

Has PPH moved away from the area now, or have you found a way with dealing with the thoughts of coming across him? I recall how you were concerned last year about bumping into him in a variety of situations, but you don't mention it now which seems a huge step forward.

It still crosses my mind but in passing rather than being a concern.   I understand from a friend of a friend that the girlfriend ditched him and he has a new German Shepherd and my response was simply  "gossip I love a bit of gossip but I'll park it there I don't want to know".  

This year at the County Show there were people around me who where there to support FellPony and I knew he would not approach with them so it didn't bother me.    There are two more events that are coming up.   Whether I go is more about whether WattyDog is well enough rather than him.

WattyDog way more important      

It does still bother me. I do still struggle with the disconnect between what I thought was real and what turned out to be the case, but time means less power over me.

Cherryfudge

The progress with the garden sounds amazingly heartening. You're very effectively making it your own (and all paid for by your earnings).

I hope WattyDog has a good rest and all the critters (and you) do all right with the coming hot weather.

Watty1

greenbee said:

Well done on getting rid of the TV - I don't have one at all. I couldn't afford one (or the licence) when I got my first house, and didn't miss it. As I've earned more, and moved houses, I've never felt the need. And they are ugly  

They so are ugly. The room looks better without it. A friend has this tiny projector about the size of a tin of beans, maybe smaller that works off an app on her phone. It projects onto her living room wall and she watches films and TV off that.  I loved it when I saw it and wanted one. Then I saw the price and decided I didn't really LOL

Watty1

Humdinger1 said:

Well done dearest @Watty1 for dismantling all evidence of PPH from your life! You've got me humming 'I'm going to ŵash that man right out of my hair' now.  

That made me smile, because it is how I feel.  So little of him remains here in the house now. There are memories yes and when I feel myself being sad because a memory has pulled at the heart I remind myself two things can be true at once, on one level he was charming and delightful company, on another level he was skimming the bank account.

Slinky

Watty1 said:

Slinky said:

Has PPH moved away from the area now, or have you found a way with dealing with the thoughts of coming across him? I recall how you were concerned last year about bumping into him in a variety of situations, but you don't mention it now which seems a huge step forward.

It still crosses my mind but in passing rather than being a concern.   I understand from a friend of a friend that the girlfriend ditched him and he has a new German Shepherd and my response was simply  "gossip I love a bit of gossip but I'll park it there I don't want to know".  

It probably gives your friends more joy than you.  

A friend of mine, who was with her partner for 20+ years, they moved away from their area where she sold her area-specific business to move, and moved to what was going to be their retirement home in an area they knew nobody. Big plans to turn an annexe into a holiday let. Then she found out he'd been having an affair for 3 years even before they moved, and that it was continuing. The new house had been bought partially with money left to her by her dad and sale proceeds from her busines. They weren't married. He rinsed her for a 50/50 share of the house sale. Moved in with the floosy, married her and have since split up.  I don't know anymore details than that, but the word schadenfreude for me, comes to mind.

Watty1

What a tale @Slinky  It is where the law is so wrong for cohabiting couples.   By getting her to put her money into the house he could take a share, if she had not done that she could have kept it.  Cohabiting couples do come out of relationships so badly if one has put so much into the house, as I know to my cost. PPH has my retirement plan (sigh).  

Still, hard work and  I'm making it all over again.  I'll be fine.  

Watty1

Amazingly the garden work is done. Two really nice men have cleared both patios and relayed all the paths and cleared the steps.  The bed between the paths that I had replanted with cuttings and the odd gift has had sone kind of mulch added but very sweetly they have filled in the gaps with some pink salvia and another pretty flowering somethings.   I hadn’t expected that   (It wasn’t on my job list I gave them ).      

Really pleased I went for this work now.  Still thinking I will move but this makes the house more attractive and whatever happens more traces of ex gone.