2024 DECLUTTERING CAMPAIGN MrsSD

Siebrie

@ilovetea If the scales don't make you happy, why keep them?

Out: T-shirt that was already 'promoted' to nightwear and getting flubby; pair of pants that lost its elasticity.

daisy_1571

Flowerpot its very hard to persuade others to declutter before they are ready.  Others have struggled with this. The photos are just one example of course.

If you make it a 'thing' where you are telling oh what he can and can't keep, he's feeling like he has to defend his stuff, you feel you'll never get the place cleared cos of his rubbish etc etc.  Its all tension and resentment and high feeling.   If you can find another way to reconcile your thoughts you might find he comes along of his own accord.   Its happened time after time where posters begin to report partners and children starting to let things go.

Maybe don't think of it as a grainy etc etc.  Think of it as a photo which represents a place special to your oh.  Yes its junk to you, but crucially not to him. Concentrate on your photos,  set aside a box or album and oh can keep whatever they want and you might be surprised that in time they can start to let go.

Just some thoughts as you seemed quite frustrated in your last post

Daisy   xxxx

Liverpool_Anne

Hi all, just popping in to say we have snow here in this corner of the train . It won't last but it's pretty
Take care everyone
Still 91/2024

~FlowerPot~

daisy_1571 said:

Flowerpot its very hard to persuade others to declutter before they are ready.  Others have struggled with this. The photos are just one example of course.

If you make it a 'thing' where you are telling oh what he can and can't keep, he's feeling like he has to defend his stuff, you feel you'll never get the place cleared cos of his rubbish etc etc.  Its all tension and resentment and high feeling.   If you can find another way to reconcile your thoughts you might find he comes along of his own accord.   Its happened time after time where posters begin to report partners and children starting to let things go.

Maybe don't think of it as a grainy etc etc.  Think of it as a photo which represents a place special to your oh.  Yes its junk to you, but crucially not to him. Concentrate on your photos,  set aside a box or album and oh can keep whatever they want and you might be surprised that in time they can start to let go.

Just some thoughts as you seemed quite frustrated in your last post

Daisy   xxxx

Hi Daisy, thank you for your lovely post. Your absolutely right, I can't make them throw away stuff when they are not ready. Its like this all over the house. I just somewhow thought it would be different with photos that are seemingly not special. I had decided already that I will just carry on with the photos that are mine and just put them all away when I'm done. We did have a bit of a conversation about not wanting stuff that doesn't mean anything to the children left in huge piles for them to go through ~ so the seed is sown in there somewhere

Pitlanepiglet

daisy_1571 said:

Flowerpot its very hard to persuade others to declutter before they are ready.  Others have struggled with this. The photos are just one example of course.

If you make it a 'thing' where you are telling oh what he can and can't keep, he's feeling like he has to defend his stuff, you feel you'll never get the place cleared cos of his rubbish etc etc.  Its all tension and resentment and high feeling.   If you can find another way to reconcile your thoughts you might find he comes along of his own accord.   Its happened time after time where posters begin to report partners and children starting to let things go.

Maybe don't think of it as a grainy etc etc.  Think of it as a photo which represents a place special to your oh.  Yes its junk to you, but crucially not to him. Concentrate on your photos,  set aside a box or album and oh can keep whatever they want and you might be surprised that in time they can start to let go.

Just some thoughts as you seemed quite frustrated in your last post

Daisy   xxxx

I agree with this,  my OH is the sorter outer and I'm the borderline hoarder.   I react really badly to him telling me what I should bin and tryingto control what i do (in my mind).  It freaks me out and makes me feel overwhelmed.  

I'm currently going through sorting my "stuff", slowly slowly- he clearly saw that at the weekend,  produced a box of my late dad's photos and thought as I was of the mindset I'd be up for sorting them.   I'm not ready for those,  I'm sorting clothes,  toiletries and easy stuff,  I'll get to the difficult stuff but in my own time....  

GrannyKate

Sympathies @~FlowerPot~ re the photos.  These are the biggest part of my unsorted boxes.  I have sorted mine into old, my childhood, my children's childhood, my grandchildren, MIL travels etc.  The last group I went through and got rid of more than 50% in first cull because they were unlabelled places or events she had been to.  Many were not very good (remember we just used to get the whole film printed) - I have kept particularly nice ones in which she features.  Much of the family stuff is duplicated as I have now received back late Mum and MIL copies of ones we already had in our albums.  It is a slow job but I will get there.  Going forward I download new pictures from phone every 6 weeks or so and put them in labelled folders by year.  

Pleased to have our first medal of the year even if it really belongs to DS2. Paperwork and email frogs to start the day off here.  

92-94 Three bags to CS shop
95 Dustpan and brush binned.  The one in my utility room would not stay on hook - saw a reduced one at Mr I for £1.47 which fits much better.  Old indoor one went into my greenhouse and old outdoor one went in the bin.
96 DS2 gave permission for holey socks to be binned
 
Decluttered GCs at school and went to Mr I for shopping as 10% off today for over 60s.  Came home and had porridge and bar of chocolate with tea.  Now starting on my emails. Large pile of post just delivered - realised half was for my neighbours two doors away so reposted in their door.  All of mine went straight in bin. Yesterday's post wasn't so good as included my car tax renewal, a membership renewal and CC bill!

TC77

@Siebrie love the 'promotion' to night wear:)

vulpix

ilovetea,I have the delightful image of the hedgehogs reading the papers to keep abreast of current affairs.

 Flowerpot, I have used the sewn seed method with Mr V.

Siebrie

Husband was complaining this morning about himself! He is constantly mislaying things, and cannot find them back easily. Last week: dd's bike keys (we still haven't found them); this week: an envelope with €1,200 from his sister! (To pay for her flights booked with his credit card). I keep persuading him to have fixed spots for items, he seems to slowly come around to it.

TheDoolallyDilly

My handyman cancelled because he's not feeling well which is a shame, but I'll rearrange for the next day I'm working from home, once he's recovered.

My car has gone off for its MOT,  I took a few bits out of the boot, and found a random kit of replacement head and tail light bulbs which don't fit my car, so they're gone. Then I was updating my address book, which is an old Filofax, and realised it had a whole bunch of inserts I don't want, so they've been recycled. That brings my total to 59 🙂