2024 DECLUTTERING CAMPAIGN MrsSD

balabooberlies

tibawo said:

For some reason my phone didn’t charge last night so although i’m refreshed it has altered my plans for today!

DD2 is also not up, quite interesting reading about the anxiety as hers is linked to ADHD. She also struggles getting up. Her school were terrible trying to bribe her that if she was on time for a week they’d get her a mcD! Saying she had an attitude  etc. So glad we went doctor and got diagnosed.
TBH this lateness is something we’ve had long chats with as people just see it as being lazy. DD and doctor say it’s not that but kinda of you want to get up but your body doesn’t. I’m still getting to grips with understanding it. 

Back to decluttering… hopefully in my next update I will have been the tip and also started on a box of things. These ‘things’ have been in it for months so can’t be that useful if i’ve never  needed them?!

Hello tibawo

ADD/ADHD/LEARNING DIFFICULTIES........all present in my family.

I have a photo of my niece at about 11 years old, fully dressed for school....asleep at the top of the stairs.  Energy rhythms are different.

Many are night owls because of the quiet,lack of too much stimulation creates a feeling of safety.  It's why the first 2 lockdowns were not as stressful for me as they were to others.  I loved the quiet.

Anxiety abounds.  Processing is different. Emotions complex.

Time managent excruciating challenge.

Lazy ?  Accused of that many times.  But then I could go for 6 months working 60 hours a week in a very physical job............and then I would collapse.  Finding the balance is difficult.

It's great that your daughter has been diagnosed early.  Copng stratergies and understanding will hopefully make life smoother for all of you.

hope you don't mind me sharing.

bala

balabooberlies

Right then !

it's taken me 2 weeks to work out how to quantify my de-cluttering.

As I don't have a car it's going to be bags, trolleys, boxes.

So..........4 bags so far.

Love to all

bala x

vulpix

 Hi, I have just caught up with all the posts. Some sterling work has been done on the decluttering front. 

 I just want to say as it might help someone that it has taken me 10 years to be at the point I am at now. From a 5 bed house and huge garage to a 2 up 2 down,admittedly with a shed village.Haha I have decluttered as and when,no timescale, just as the moment arose. I imagine we have sloughed off 80% of what we had. I can't remember what has gone, I am not sorry about anything that has gone. It's great having less stuff which all has a home so the house is always tidy and easy to clean. When I started my aim wasn't to get rid of so much, I just kept going until it felt comfortable and we had a manageable amount of stuff.

 Also, I think DD2 has ADHD, she has never had a diagnosis. Her teen years were hard for her but she is now thriving as a young adult,working and living by herself. Positive vibes for all people going through it right now.

 The curtain isn't finished. Fluffy cat came and sat on my knee so I couldn't possibly disturb her, so we watched Vera together. I did my knitting instead. My fitbit thinks I walked miles yesterday but it is just me knitting!

 I seem to have the very annoying cough too.

 Vx

Wednesday2000

vulpix said:

 The curtain isn't finished. Fluffy cat came and sat on my knee so I couldn't possibly disturb her, so we watched Vera together. I did my knitting instead. My fitbit thinks I walked miles yesterday but it is just me knitting!

I'm on another forum and there are mostly people from the US on there and one woman works in a big shop (Walmart, I think) and when she is on the cash till her Fitbit thinks she is swimming.

bit_by_bit

Big hugs to those with neurodivergent children. I am glad you are able to meet people here who understand and support you but sad that there isn't the help in the system for you. I have been acting parent to  several boys with neurdivergent conditons for over 20 years now. What a rollercoaster.

DD home from Canada. Her room was sorted and bed made although I had to have help with the quilt as so weak, darn it.

I am going to the allotment today to do 5 mins of planned work. I feel like I am not getting anywhere with anything at the moment. With my current health situation I am literally going to have to do anything in very tiny bites.

On a positive note DH is doing the shpping later and I will have a bag of stuff for the charity table including cds and knitting kits to go with him. 

Have a good day all. 

flamingo747

@tibawo I'm underway with my ADHD assessment.  One of the things I try to explain to people is about how sometimes we just can't do The Thing. If you imagine you have to put your hand on a hot cooker ring, your brain would say Nope, not a chance, that will be really painful and unpleasant, we're not doing that! With ADHD brains, any task, even things we normally like, can suddenly become a hot cooker ring. Our brains refuse to do The Thing. No amount of shame or being called lazy could make a regular person put their hand in a cooker ring, and no amount of them can make us do The Thing. But generally we still feel all the shame of it, futily.  It's hard. 

I also have a big issue with lateness. Its not that I don't care, it's that I genuinely believe that I have plenty of time. Just going up the road to the shop? That's only five minutes (it's actually 12). Get ready to leave the house? One minute to brush hair, one for shoes (actually ten minutes to brush hair, check I have my phone and my purse, let the dog out, put shoes in, find key and coat). I want to be on time, but I cannot judge time well, and overestimate my own speed. This means that for things like interviews or flights, I will be so paranoid that I am there at least an hour earlier than any normal human being and have to wait around like a lemon. 

I highly recommend adhd_love on IG for leaning about the workings of adhd folks.

Nothing decluttered here, not even this cough, and junior Flamingo's melatonin didn't work so he didn't sleep until 5am. Home from school today, of course. 

nannywindow

I did the upstairs hoovering today and even got the nosey parker on the carpet edges, I also put all the dishes used at xmas in their proper place as I felt too ill to do it before now and they were just stacked in the spare bedroom. I got DH to put his tools away which were also left in the spare bedroom 🙄 This is not going to be another room of doom !! (Insert stamping foot emoji here)
I made a start in the office this afternoon which was becoming a dumping ground and sorted the xmas bag which normally lives in a built in cupboard in there. Recycled/cs bag or binned:-
1 empty xmas card box, recycled (got 2 lots into 1 box) .
2 xmas hats  
2 xmas stockings, 1 hm by "moi" many years ago but neither used for years.
2 new bottle bags
3 xmas T. shirts
1 full plastic xmas tablecloth
I'm not sure the cs will be happy to take xmas stuff yet, so may have to hang on to them for a while, I'll have to ask 🤔
Half a doz small bits of wrapping paper.
4 bits of plastic tablecloth, cut up for something 🤷‍♀️.
1 hm bingo game (the DGC are too old for it now and prefer DH's quizzes, but they still expect prizes 🤣 )
Also 5 single socks, an empty box from smellies and another from a new gorilla tripod stand for DH's camera.
Hugs to all in the TLC carriage or are struggling with work or relatives/children.
nan 

TheDoolallyDilly

I've done some shredding today, chipping away at the Great Big Paperwork Frog. I also started going through old emails. I found it quite stressful, as they are from a difficult time in my past. I don't need them but looking at them was upsetting. I deleted about 5, then had a headache so went to lie down. I'll do some more tomorrow, if I can bear it.

My handyman has confirmed he's coming tomorrow which is good 😊

bit_by_bit

Weirdly I just had some messages through supportive to comments I made last year and a week or so ago. Sorry if I haven't replied.

So planned trip to the allotment. Did a bit of tidying and 5 minutes of light digging with a lady sized spade. Feel ok.
On the way back I dropped off a bag of rags to the CS and now DD and DH have gone to do the weekly shop and taken the bag of stuff for the charity table there. I let 10 Jack Reacher books which I had on Gmtree as a job lot.

So two bags out today. 

Brie

@nannywindow
all the CSs are different of course so whether they want Christmas stuff or not will depend on storage space.  I did ask at one local to us and the specifically mention not to bring that in.  I had done as you had a year back and packed the unwanted festive bits into a box clearly marked and stored it away until mid November and they were pleased to have it at that point.