Weekly Flylady Thread 9th October 2023

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Good morning my lovelies xx 

Happy Anniversary to Mr & Mrs Fayolle 🥂

Thank you flamingo  for acknowledging my question re products that I've seen advertised but don't want to waste money on if they're carp xx

I'm up, made my bed, dressed, packed my lunch, eaten breakfast and I'm supping my brew. I'll feed the birds and put out the rubbish and recycling before I trudge off to the paid stuff. Which is all thanks to my autopilot morning routine as anxiety is through the roof and my stomach is in my boots 🤢 

Hope you all have a good day 
Rxx

Jazee

Morning all.

Thanks for the spoons yesterday.  I made it through the day with DGD2.  We spent most of it outside, her playing in the garden and me sitting down!

Today, I really must meet my friends later as I cancelled last week and I'm seeing the chiropodist too.  I also have black toenails from being stood on by said DGD2 and having a sit on toy car run over me!

This morning I'll do some admin, flying and walk Poppet.

Have a great day everyone.

Fayolle

Morning all,
Lots of coping vibes and hugs to Round, and anyone else dreading the day ahead x
I have stripped the bed and the wm is on. I snuck in a chapter of my book before I got up, just because I could. I think that I invented the word Guilty, as that’s how I feel about so many things, good and bad. Maybe it’s just another way of looking at anxiety. Anyhow, enough of that. Today I am trying to start small steps to positivity. Not sure how, but I think that someone here mentioned doing one small thing for yourself every day. That sounds like a good place to start. I did actually manage to complete the OU Take Five challenge for September, so am trying hard to keep the daily habits of drinking more water and eating the rainbow in place.  

DH and I are going to the village pub for lunch, which is a treat. I nearly backed out and balked at driving to another pub, as the driving was ruining the idea. So a compromise is in place. Before then, he has a hedge to finish cutting and I have to take DD’s car for a spin and fill it with petrol. 

Apart from that, Admin is the name of the game today. Unless I can find another excuse.
Have a good day all x

flamingo747

Fayolle I struggle with guilt. I don't have a job, my house is not perfect, my gardens are a mess. I feel guilt that I cannot buy a house to give my son a safe future. Guilt that I'm not able to make people happy, guilt I don't have the money to get us all the dental and mental health help we need. Guilt, shame, and anxiety are my main emotions, and a daily battle. 

I must get things done before I go out, but the sofa has me in its thrall!

pigpen

I don't own guilt.. I reconcile myself with the fact that while I am (of course) perfect I am not responsible for other peoples feelings and emotions, so many people choose to be unhappy about things they have no power over or let something from their past hold them back from living the now.. put it in a box, on a shelf, in the back of your brain, you don't need to poke it every 5 minutes to see if it still hurts.. it does.. leave it be! I have more baggage than Heathrows lost property office but it will never own me, I do trip over it sometimes but I will not go down. I am, 95% of the time pretty chill, mostly Tigger and the other 5% Uncle Fester. I get twitchy about trying new things or going new places, I always feel like I will go to the wrong place or at the wrong time and then I will feel silly. I cannot abide when people refuse to even try to help themselves or choose to live a lifestyle which hurts others. *points at the SIL* I am comfortable with who I am.

@flamingo747 .. I don't have time for a job.. I have no idea how anyone with a house to run, children esecially SEN/small children, caring responsibilities etc has time to work as well.. Can you imagine an employer putting up with my standard week? Last week for example, I had Squeak to pick up before lunch on Tuesday because she had a meltdown, Dot was sent home Thursday , we have Monday and Saturday dance class, orchestra x 2 and cello lesson on a Thursday. 4 children to get to 3 different schools, one with mobility issues and 2 with ASD/ADHD.. by the time you've dropped off, S&S'd the kitchen, got a washload in and had a cuppa it is lunch time.. you wiggle the vacuum about after lunch and you have to head out to pick them up.. then baths and homework and dinner and bed time routines.. there simply is no time.. what you do not bring in financially you save triple on the money you would have to spend for specialised childcare, transport, cleaners and dryer usage.. ditch that guilt.. you are doing the absolute best you can with the resoures you have! ..  I know I am here a lot.. I need new hips so can only for 15-20 minute stints of housey stuff before I need a rest. my house is a bear pit.. I don't touch the garden, that is OH's domain.. and as someone who once had a house repossessed.. buying a house isn't all that much fun.. I know it can give a little more stability but there are so many more important things.. love, time, meeting needs..

YL.. you too.. I know how it is with adult children at different life stages and you have to be there for them all.. DD1 and her recent split, DS1 and DIL got new jobs, children moving to secondary school, yr's 6 and 7! .. Moomins bf just went to prison for 3.5 years.. EC and the baby.. Dd2 and gF in my middle room hogging my house.. health issues and other stuff.. my Stepdads surgery, miss squizz surgery.. puppies.. it is really hard to be everything for everyone.. yet we do it.. we are amazing. We are not responsible for other peoples happiness, only our own.. which is why we must do the things which bring us joy. You cannot have sadness without having Joy as well.. we need both for balance.. oh dear.. I went all Yoda for a moment..

Anyway.. the cat has done his mad half hour and now done the worst smelling deposit I have ever had the misfortune to have my nose assaulted with so I am going to shovel that before my house turns brown!!!

I need a cuppa.. and the bes has been stripped this morning so I need to get the WM's and DW on .. I have a few parcels to sort too so I will get those together as well. I sold one of my Dr Who scarves!!!! and have a bunch of things to package.

best move....

*strategically places rocket*

ionafan

Morning..  Great to see you all!  Happy Anniversary to Fayolle and MrF xx

I have started the day well:
- no bad reactions from the flu and Covid jabs which I managed to get from our lovely local pharmacy yesterday afternoon
- showered and dressed, ate breakfast
- WMx3 (sun shining today, will have rain tomorrow)
- S&S'd kitchen
- found a tub of freezer surprise for tea
- emptied bins (again)
- paid L the dog walker for yesterday
- sent 2 emails (one of them very long)
- tried to phone 2 people, but both are out or away
- made more coffee
- sent DH to SW

I still have to
- hang out the wet towels
- go to be acupunctured: ££ but it's worth it
- wrap up DD's belated birthday present
- bake 2 cakes, scones and Twinks (all for other people)
- do some gardening before J comes to do the big stuff tomorrow (in the rain!)
- sort photos
- put the ancestors in their place (this is long overdue)

Catch up later, must dash now xxx

Jazee

Me again with an update.

Most admin done, will finish in a mo.
Bedding changed.
Sofa throws changed.
Two items ironed.
Some shelves in bedroom sorted.
Half bag sorted for charity.
Washing machine whirring.
Poppet walked.
Dailies done.

pigpen

2x WM done.. I will hang it out in a sec... while making a cuppa.

bits in the TD

Bedding in the WM.. not yet turned on

2 items for parcels found and collection sorted.. need to sort Next return.

Christmas money transferred out of various accounts and stashed in one.. I am going to use it to pay off my credit card to avoid interest and use the card I think.

Cats melted all over the floor (which needs vacuuming again)

3 coats found for uniform charity.. I really must make an effort to get that stuff dropped off. I might need to get out the wheely wagon we use for the beah.. if only I had a car.. oh, I have!.. but I can't drive it! Ggggrrrr

DW needs loading.. I might do that too.

I lOVE OH doing 9-5 during the day, I have so much day... I hate it on an evening when he is under my feet when I am trying to do dinner and pack ups.

flamingo747

Thank you for the overwhelming kindness  Pigpen 💗  I need to be as gentle to myself as to a treasured friend

Coffee and Craft done, I did a bit of art I had in my mind for ages, then went to SM for bits for dinner. Going to have to run a half wash for school uniform grr

pigpen

flamingo747 said:

Thank you for the overwhelming kindness  Pigpen 💗  I need to be as gentle to myself as to a treasured friend

It is so easy to lose ourselves in the day to day caring for others.

I need a spoon.. I have no energy to put my socks on..