Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my cheating ex his half of a council tax refund?

SStitanic

Depends what kind of person you want to be, if you keep it you'll be a cheater too. 

VintageBelle

Not in a million years. If he hadn't cheated maybe you'd still be together and then it would be fair to split it. Class it as emotional distress payment. Karma doesn't exist and surely having to contact the cheater would be horrible. Besides, it's not a huge amount. Enjoy it in his name hahaha.

UrbaneGeek

Contact him by email and tell him you've had a late bill for council tax and ask his views on payment. If he offers to split it then send him half the refund saying you made a mistake.

LightFlare

Amazed by some of the responses - its seems Stealing < Cheating

Some may think £85 is a small amount, but trust me, to others it could literally a life saver.

Honestly, if you are planning on keeping it, then he had a lucky escape (maybe he saw that side of you and that's why he cheated)

RSD7a

I suspect the reason you posted the question is because you know what is the right thing to do but you are hoping for support from the forum replies to keep the money for yourself.

Channz

Unless you make a big noise about it or tell someone who would tell him, it's unlikely he would know so surely the answer is really 'what kind of person do you believe yourself to be?' If you think that you treat people fairly then you should probably pay him his half or at least attempt to do so. It's very hard to keep the moral high ground on how he treated you if you treat him badly by return. You clearly will feel guilty about keeping it or you wouldn't be asking this on a forum - is he worth feeling guilty over about less than £90? 

JayD

I think you know that you should do the right thing. Be the better person. Don't let anger compromise your own moral standards. Give him his half - like it or not, it is HIS half.

jedav

The bill was in your name but he contributed half.  Arguing that the refund is only due to you only holds if only you paid whole of the bill as, by the same logic, he didn't have to contribute towards a bill that wasn't in his name, but he did.

Angelica123

What would you have done if you owed £179? Would you have contacted your ex to get them to pay half? I think if the way things were with your ex that you would have chosen to pay the full bill rather than contact them then I can understand choosing not to go out of your way to try to make contact to refund it. 

ARB1957

It’s his, no matter how much it sticks in your throat. Be the bigger person and let him him have it.