Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my cheating ex his half of a council tax refund?

iclayt

While giving him half might be the "right thing to do" there's absolutely no way I would be re-establishing contact with a cheating ex over £89.50. I'd keep it all if I'm being honest, but if I did feel guilty enough I'd donate their half to charity.

Loz01

If only you were listed on the council tax liability (on the account) then it’s your refund, irregardless of if you split it in a personal arrangement. Only the person named is liable whether you’re in a couple or not! 

ripongrammargirl

Not a chance in Hell would I contact a cheating ex to give them any amount of money. He ruined your relationship by not keeping his hands and other bits to himself/just for you, so you keep the £89.50 and have a great night out with friends or a new man. He didn’t feel guilty by being a cheat so why should you feel bad for keeping a bit of cash?!

gerrag

If the bill is in your name, keep it. If it's in joint names, and your conscience bothers you, give it to charity.

Bonnypitlad

Keep it and enjoy it 
You seem like a much better person than him
Is it possible that bills were in his name and he has received a refund and not informed you of the windfall?

WenDee

If he played fair by you financially, then it's only fair to play fair by him financially. The cheating is irrelevant to your financial relationship. Give him his share. Your wording suggests that you know this is the right course of action.

OptimisticAbby

Prioritise your own well-being. If your conscience will bother you, you could hand half back.  If contacting your ex will upset you, or put you at risk then don’t put yourself through it. It’s not a fortune and certainly not worth bringing pain from the past into the present. This isn’t really about money, it’s about your happiness. As others have suggested, you could give some to charity, but only if you want to. 

RSD7a

Don't descend to responding to cheating by cheating. You are better than that.

Spendless

No. The bill is in your name, the refund is yours. It's probably not a good idea to make contact with a cheating ex anyway. 

Linda_Masterson

Don't give him another thought -2017 was 6 years ago you've both moved on. Don't risk contacting him now. it was your account and you were responsible for it -this is your money-ENJOY.