Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my cheating ex his half of a council tax refund?

MSE_Sarah

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

I just received a letter saying I'm to be refunded £179 for overpaid council tax from 2016/17. I lived in that property with my now ex-boyfriend and we split the bill equally, though it was in my name. Since then he has cheated on me, which lead to us breaking up and moving out. Would you let him know about the refund if you were in my situation, or would you keep it all?

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LightFlare

If they had said you owed £179 would you be expecting him to pay half ?

ptrichardson

Ex would never know, so no.

2702

Yes you should give him his share, Cheating has nothing to do with it.

frankstead

Do the right thing. Do what you would like done to yourself. You will have to live with yourself afterwards. Be a good person

gothvixen

It's £89.50. I would keep it, as the distress it would cause to contact my ex far outweighs any guilt I might posibly feel for keeping £89.50

Jason9091

I'd definitely keep it. If you feel bad about it, give half to charity.

Of course, in this example, the amount is so low that whatever happens it is unimportant. Things would be more interesting if it were a refund for £17,000 and the other person would never know.

Southendormargate

The answer is in the question. It is "his"

HannahNP

I do believe in karma as o have seen it many times in me snd others also and more importantly I believe in honesty and clear accounts when money is involved. 

Just transfer the money to his account and a quick message,  please see return of CT 2016/ 2017.

End of story, not all yours 

Snow_Angel

No. He deserves nothing after betraying your trust and causing you emotional anguish. I wouldn't want any contact with him and it's a small amount. I'd give his half to a charity for domestic abuse, child poverty or another charity of that type, who often help partners and children of cheating spouses who are often left in financial difficulty when a partner cheats and leaves. 

bikaga

I would if I knew he really needed the money, but apart from that, no. He's caused you anguish, has wasted your time. Pretty sure the move he caused would have cost you more and I guess he didn't pay for all of that. If you feel bad about it, donate, if you don't, treat yourself.