Weekly Flylady Thread 2nd October 2023

flamingo747

I know what you mean asb, social interaction is so exhausting!

Forgot to make DS' bed before bedtime, oops. He's still not feeling right, and I'm not sure what's going on with him  

Fayolle

Can I have my usual seat on the Flylady bus please? I think that Round’s MIA cockwombles have relocated to my company for their holiday.

Joined the WAC at just past midnight - I ask you!! Some of you probably hadn’t gone to bed yet - looking over at Narc0 and Piggers…looking forward to chocolate malted milks and a cuppa tonight though. 

Group hug (insert the old emoji here), as everyone seems to be trying to cope with Stuff.

Well done, ASB, on the lambs, and a big squishy hug for getting through all the peopling.
Oh yes, flying? 1 load through the wm before leaving for work. Dinner done, WULTD, HHI.

pigpen

flamingo747 said:

Wow Pigpen, it's been hard enough getting support organised and in place for 1, I can't imagine! Be as gentle with yourself as you would be with another parent-carer with ASD kids. Some weeks you only have the bandwidth for the bare minimum and the disability admin, and that's absolutely enough xx

I actually think I find the non-ASD couple harder work.. they don't have routines, they do spontaneous stuff and want to go outside... stuff of nightmares. OH and I have been discussing Pixie today.. she gives so much and asks for little and I feel especially the last few weeks we have been putting more on her and not giving back as much as we should be. She is a wonderful kind, helpful 10 year old and she has said she would go to the secondary school with Dot if we want so she can look after her and bring her home safely.. she is 10 going on 40 I swear.. but I want to place her where she will do best not where it would be most helpful to have her.

I currently have a grandson mid-ASD assessment, another on the list, Squeak with half a dozen other issues and a walking stick.. on the ADHD wait list, mid-EHCP assessment, Dot just started year 7 so a lot of teething issues and EhCP review due this month but they are doing a 'mini-review' and a full review around March, Pixie with a health issue and Twinkle who I am sliding stuff into place to support an ASD assessment.. if I can get SALT and/or Sensory team to say it is needed school cannot back out.. it is all very sneaky of me. She is coeliac, hypothyroid and lactose free.. on top of that. DD1 in a crisis over the breakdown of her relationship and health/ASD issues with all 5 of hers, my mother-in-law snuffing it and SIL having a grippy sock holiday due to drink and drugs and her abusive partner dealing heroin.. and he isn't hiring out Wonder Woman.. wrong heroine lol. I also have my own health issues I am ignoring fiercely because I don't have time and the GP hasn't worked in 3 years.

If you could see the state of my house right now you would drop dead on the spot.. I need spoons and help..

Excuse offload... but 81 sleeps to christmas and I have barely touched the list.. the 4 smalls are sorted mostly.. I have some money saved.. and any excess is going on paying off the holiday.

I want an ordered house, I don't expect perfection or even tidy, just ordered. I want to sleep and have a brain.

OH is pretending to be asleep on the sofa so after sitting here all day by myself I am now sat here by myself listening to him pretend to snore.. I need to have at least a few of my needs met, I live a life of servitude and get nothing back.. I do not want Pixie to feel this way.. so I need to fit in time with her, for her.. it isn't a chore but everyone needs a piece of me and usually I have enough but my bucket needs refilling and I'm not getting that.

Apart from the house being a mess none of that is really a moan it is just how it is and it will take another turn and all come right.. I think everyone is played catchup .. 3 years of useless services and we are all in the same boat on stormy seas.. we need a nice peaceful cove to relax and recharge so we can set sail again.. one day at a time.. or one hour.. or one breath.. I wouldn't swap the chaos for 5 minutes peace really, I like the challenge and the busy.. I just get frustrated when I get tired and my bucket runneth dry.

I now have a stuffed banana and a sock puppet to sew up..

Valli

i am now feeling sorry for my self.  i have pain from the flu jab and a huge bruise from the blood test (well 1cm x 2 cm so not huge really but i don’t usually bruise) and I, apparently, am the first patient to comment on the unfortunate names of the nurses at the docs Sister Strange and Sister Wrath.

Anyway i made the juice into jelly and batch two is dripping through my jelly bag while I sleep.  Washing brought in, recycling buns out, WUALTD and DW locked and loaded.

Choc mailed milks sound delist.  G’night all

Narc0lepsy

Sounds like general hugs needed for all.
For a change recently, I actually feel I have achieved quite a lot today now my cold is somewhat improving.

- finally got through to uni manager who's been extremely busy....I now have official agreement to do just one assessment per week instead of two, so I guess I'm winding down to retirement; something I never thought I'd want to do, but it feels the right thing for me now.  So if I get my *** into gear, I can assess Wed afternoons as usual, then finish writing the report by the weekend (for those who are new to my incoherent ramblings, the last 8 yrs I've been doing an assessment Wed afternoon, crashing out tired, doing another Thurs am before rushing to drumming lesson and Pilates then being too tired to start report writing till the weekend so by the time I'm part way through, it's time to prepare for another. Then they pile up and I get stressed).  Will have to keep a sharp eye on finances but should be ok.
- did kitchen dailies.
- went to eye clinic, fully expecting to either get there and find they are running hours late or that they are all striking. Arrived to an empty waiting room bar one patient and heard them say "um I can't find your appointment on the system and we aren't booking any for this afternoon as no doctors"...heart sank. However luck was on my side as exactly one minute before my appt, a lovely ophthalmologist appeared for me and after some rather odd tests that seemed to involve filling my eye up with gel so I could see nothing, proclaimed that my eyes are fine, I don't have glaucoma, I don't need eye drops so I can just  have a checkup in a year's time. Relief. And incidentally (with yah boo to the stroppy receptionist when I tried to give them my optician reports), he was passingly interested and reassuring about my optician reports. 
- Mr N and I then had a number of fairly large purchases for the house. To cut a long story short, he has now got a new computer (he usually has my cast-off and his current snail-like PC was bought for me when I went self-employed nearly 10yrs ago); we now have 2 new rugs for the bedroom plus they were reduced. We also got other incidentals like bird fat balls, mounting card for his photos, Lemsip as I've used up most of our last box and other things we found while seeking rugs.  Came home exhausted but fairly satisfied.
- I shook my old bedside rug onto the floor in case there were earrings or goodness knows what else lurking....and was beyond horrified at the amount of dust; no wonder we cough and sneeze so much (blushes at lack of flying skills).  Really looking forward to a humungous spring clean in the next few days and ceremonial disposing of old rugs.
- Finally got login info from pension fund which I hadn't been able to get into....seems they changed my user ID and password but didn't tell me. Now it all works yippee.
- Filled bird feeders.
- Did some drum practice.

Am hoping that now things are falling into place I will get less stressed, although there are still short-term planning issues around BILs funeral (date not yet announced), a friend wanting to surprise her partner with an event involving us (they live 3-4hrs away) as well as the long-term issue of my elderly Mum whose cleaner is unreliable and garden helper terminally ill.....however I'm going to get on top of it all. Hopefully.

Tomorrow's plan:
- start bedroom blitz
- set up Mr N's computer/drag stuff off his old one
- Pilates
- Drum lesson
- sort out foliage and flowers from garden and plan font arrangement for harvest festival this weekend. 

Valli

wow Narco lots achieved.  Well done on the wind-down and good new re the eyes.

Off to the Royal Crown Derby museum today.  

roundtuit

Morning all xx 

I went to bed at 9.30 again! I was falling asleep in the chair again so seemed the sensible thing to do. But that meant that I was awake at 5.30. Which means I'm going to be tired again tonight. Oh well. It is what it is.

Refused to get out of bed until 6.30. (Why? Warm and cosy - and means the day hasn't started yet) Now I'm up, dressed, made my bed, eaten breakfast and supped a brew. Packed up my drinks and a banana- no lunch required as staff lottery winning colleague is paying for lunch for us all. I've asked for cheesy chips - I'm a cheap date 😊

I'm going to clear the airer and put it away before I poddle off. And feed the birds and put out the recycling.

Hope you all have a good day
Rxx

flamingo747

Pigpen wow  I am in awe! It sounds exhausting. Fake sleeping husband needs a poke!

Not doing too enthusiastically this morning, my get up and go has gone, which is not good!

pigpen

flamingo747 said:

Pigpen wow  I am in awe! It sounds exhausting. Fake sleeping husband needs a poke!

Not doing too enthusiastically this morning, my get up and go has gone, which is not good!

Don't be.. like everyone else I do the necessary things.. and my house is a bearpit lol..

Narco if we lived closer OH would delight intending gardens! And I have a reliable house cleaner, she used to clean student houses so an older lady would be a joy after the state of those! Why is teleportation not a thing?

I am wearing the most uncomfortable pair of undies today.. I am going to change those in a minute because while I realise that is way TMI it is the only thing my brain can focus on right now.

DW

WM

S&S kitchen

S&S bathroom

PUT THE BOX OF KITCHEN ROLL IN THE KITCHEN IS IT NOT A NEW COFFEE TABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!


ASB.. did you hear from DLA bods? I sent in Twinkles forms a few weeks ago and they just popped in my head so yours by extension lol. 

Urgh... this room is a tip... I hate my house.

flamingo747

Pigpen, have you considered setting fire to it and starting over?