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An in-between phase

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  • ladyholly
    ladyholly Posts: 4,096 Forumite
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    Your £19. 46 is a start. You know the saying from the Chinese philosopher Tao Te Ching "every journey starts with a single step or in MSE parlance every saving starts with a small amount. 
  • I take 'starve a fever, feed a cold' very seriously @WelshmansDaughter nom nom nom

    Thank you for your excellent medical advice @foxgloves @beanielou @Blackcats

    Thanks @ladyholly, though that has now gone out the window and I have to rejig the Aim again 😭

    Apparently relative can't lend us as much as he thought so while we still owe him an unfortunate f*ckton of money, we're back in a position of top level panic and stress as to how to pay for the essentials we're committed to.
    Fortunately I cannot be bothered to panic and have minimal levels of bother available to stress, so we shall have to see what we shall see.

    If we have to abandon build with no interiors until we can afford them that will be extremely awkward but I doubt builders will take us to court over it as long as we pay the build foundation stages, so we need £711.87 and all of Mr PIP's life savings and all our flat related pots to pay for penultimate stage, then we need £8850.
    We then need approx 80k, but we'll worry about that when we come to it.
    Oh and we'll also need an eye-watering amount to pay relative back but we're hoping at some point this mortgage will occur!

    Aim: £711.87
    Got: f all

    Hope all the people and everyone's animals are doing alright on this loud night x
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  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 98,223 Ambassador
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    Sends 87p to start you off. I’m good that way. 
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  • PennysIntoPounds
    PennysIntoPounds Posts: 5,938 Forumite
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    edited 5 November 2025 at 10:36PM
    You're having to get your new walker @beanielou, you keep yer money! 😁
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  • A rather grumpy day here, as my Microsoft Office that I bought a month ago has decided it no longer works. So now I have to find money to buy that again.

    And we have done all the sums we can and simply cannot afford the build.

    Survey cashout
    Aim: £711.87
    Got £4

    While we need all the money we can get, I have somewhat counterintuitively opened a North London pot and put a couple of quid in there, because f*ck you the build 🥂

    Usuals
    Half wussy situps
    Shower and hairwash

    Steps sending a vinted sale
    Found 10p

    Survey
    Build admin

    Resisted pub
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    'self-blame can be as egotistical as self-praise... any work worth doing is greater than we are... we must not overrate our importance to it, either for good or ill' Margaret Kennedy Lucy Carmichael
  • Blackcats
    Blackcats Posts: 4,304 Forumite
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    I'm sorry that it's been a miserable day PIP

    Are you waiting to be allowed to drawdown a mortgage for the house?  
  • We are @Blackcats. Just had another 4k bill added this evening to the list of things we can't afford, f*cking heat pump.
    I'm going to have to contact the lenders tomorrow and ask if there's some way they can delay the outstanding legal things as otherwise we're just going to have to tell the builders to cease work soon
    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6466032/an-in-between-phase/p1

    'self-blame can be as egotistical as self-praise... any work worth doing is greater than we are... we must not overrate our importance to it, either for good or ill' Margaret Kennedy Lucy Carmichael
  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 98,223 Ambassador
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    All good vibes your way. 
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    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
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  • doingitanyway
    doingitanyway Posts: 10,846 Forumite
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    Sorry you've had a grumpy day of build stress, plus tech stress. One or the other is enough, but both?!
    Positive vibes for the mortgage drawdown happening sooner rather than later
    If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them

    Emergency fund 1400/1000
    Buffer fund 100/100
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  • foxgloves
    foxgloves Posts: 13,114 Forumite
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    I don't know what 'mortgage drawdown' is, but I hope today is a better day for you PiP & the house build is able to continue. It really does sound like a hugely complicated worry-inducing process. Sending positive thoughts.
    F x

    2026's challenges: 1) To rebuild our Emergency Fund to at least £5k.
    2) To read 50 books (5/50) 3) The Re-Shrinking of Foxgloves 8.1kg/30kg
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