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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay more for our holiday because it's one my partner won't like?



  • Bigphil1474
    Bigphil1474 Posts: 2,646 Forumite
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    My OH and me rarely go abroad together, although we do usually holiday in this country together once a year. My OH is retired, I work full time.
    More often than not they will go off abroad with their grown up daughter for a holiday they are both interested in, or they go with friends, maybe 2 or 3 times a year. I go abroad about every 5 years with my OH, and it is somewhere we both want to go. Suits us fine.
    I'd find it weird if we had the exact same interests and wanted to go to all the same places, but equally I'm happy if they want to spend money on a holiday when it is only they who are interested. 
    Personally, I think it's perfectly healthy for a couple to holiday separately now and again if it's about seeing places you want to see and the other one isn't interested, as opposed to both sitting on a beach in 2 different countries. Saves a lot of money as well.  
  • silvercar
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    I’ve had some amazing holidays just because my husband is far more adventurous than me and has dragged me off to places I would never have considered choosing myself. Now I just put my trust in him and let him get on with it, with only a couple of restrictions that I’ve included due to bad experiences from previous holidays eg no more places that require malaria tablets.
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  • Kimmie30
    Kimmie30 Posts: 14 Forumite
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    I say communicate this with your partner, show him the holiday, express how happy and excited you would be to do something you've been clearly wanting to do for a long time. If he throws a fit find someone else to go with maybe your best friend family member. Fair warning, this could put a rift between you but if they are no willing to compromise after you have done so many times, I'd count my blessings and move on!
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