Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay more for our holiday because it's one my partner won't like?

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I usually let my partner decide where we go on holiday, but have found one I'd really like to go on. It's more expensive than what we usually budget for, but I'm prepared to save up so we can afford it. The catch is that the holiday won't be to my partner's liking - it's not the sort of thing he's interested in at all. Should I offer to pay more because it's more 'for me', or should we split the cost evenly like we always have because he usually decides where we go?

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  • Maat
    Maat Forumite Posts: 476
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    Given that your partner normally gets his own way with regard to holidays I'd say to not offer to pay more this time. You've had to pay several times for holidays which were more for him so it's time he did the same. If he'd asked you to pay extra I assume you would have mentioned so I'd leave it.
  • CapeTown
    CapeTown Forumite Posts: 80
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    So my partner was not a traveller.  He didn't have  a passport.  He evegot one and we travelled.  He loves Africa and France.  Totally outside his comfort zone 
  • CAlexM
    CAlexM Forumite Posts: 2
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    Isn't that part of being in a relationship? Assuming he won't absolutely hate it; go together - maybe he'll discover something new and enjoy it!
  • Bubs15
    Bubs15 Forumite Posts: 1
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    Go alone - why put someone through something they're going to hate. 


    If they agree to go fully knowing all the details and still agree to go, I would say it's their responsibility to pay.
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