SERIOUSLY reday to leave my OH

Horace

wilkster5 wrote: »

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Yeah i'm gonna send her on the Megabus to penzance!

Yeah she has a beauty room, and she always seems to be busy...i'm just losing interest in it all now. I'm gonna pretend i lost my job...that will get her real emotions out!:T

Drop her off somewhere miles from home with 50p in her pocket, a packed lunch and her stuff. If you're feeling generous you could give her a map but not of your home town.:rotfl:

As for the beauty business well, it is hard to see why she isnt making money - perhaps she is too busy moaning about things which puts clients off. It could be that her prices are too high or she has BO (I jest not - I went somewhere once and the therapist had terrible BO so I never went again).

I have a friend who is a therapist - she once had her own shop and employed staff but on the advice of her accountant, she laid the staff off, got rid of the shop and went mobile - no overheads, no wages to sort out except her own - now she's raking it in. Your GF wants to rent a room in a hairdressing salon and then move on from there but going into a shop on your own I'd say that was a big mistake, if you're going to do it start small and mobile.

If you pretend you have lost your job she might just lamp you one so be careful. She might even boot you out of your own home.:eek:

Just think that you'll get a reduction on your council tax if she goes, plus your bills won't be so high.:D It's time to remove that tattoo you've got on your forehead - you know the one that says MUG!

Good luck Wilkster

boredofbeingathome

I'm really sorry you're in such a predicament. I know of a similar situation which happened to a mate of ours in the navy. She wanted everything when they married, and bear in mind that they have naval quarters, which are heavily subsidised and part furnished!! here's the list, wide screen hd ready tv, new flooring furniture, curtains throughout, new car - two, games, computer, clothes etc. It goes on- she's very needy in fact she wont eat if he's not about/ Anyway the story is they got married 18 months ago and filed for bankruptcy three months ago as a way out of the debt- we didn't think he could do this in the navy but they can- there are lots of other stuff going on with them, as she has walked out of every job going and when he's at home its all a poor little me act and plenty of lovey dovey. He's lost most of his mates because of her and his money- they are still together though even though advice has been along the above. i personally think that you should not enable her to live as she is doing, no one can force you to spend any money on her or you might be in the same position as our mate- just a thought!! also what exactly does she want to go on holiday for? alarm bills should be ringing about the business and also about her accounts, maybe she will be in more debt than you think and you will be the one picking up the bill!

barron_hard_up

Sounds like you're in for a life time of this, I'd get out now while it's relatively easy....

prestonlass

wilkster5 wrote: »

Prestonlass, theres no way I would show her this thread, it was just a joke, a figure of speach as such, this place was for me to come and get it off my chest, i'd be !!!!ed off if she was whinging about me behind my back to a forum, i just wanted to make sure i wasnt being unreasonable, the advice and support so far as cheered me up no end, I spoke to her tonight and she has apologised(again), but this really is the last straw, if she tries it on again i'm ofski, debt free, women free and worry free, i'll have no mortgage to pay and a good salary, life will be bliss, i'm sure there's plenty women out there who are more switched on and would be better for me!!!:A

Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not suggesting at all that you shouldn't have discussed it on here - i think that it is a good thing for you to get a clear and balanced perspective for yourself. I just meant that we should all have our private moments away from our partner - meaning on some things the right way is the keep yer gob shut way.
To anyone not Northern Gob = mouth

wilkster5

Just think that you'll get a reduction on your council tax if she goes, plus your bills won't be so high.:D It's time to remove that tattoo you've got on your forehead - you know the one that says MUG!

Good luck Wilkster[/quote]


aaaahhhh MUG, after all these years looking in the mirror I thought i had GUM tattooed on my forehead, now I see why she thinks she can get away with it!!!
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ianian99

id dump her

Jhayda

Just wanted to say good luck with whatever you decide Wilkster...

But as others have said...dump her...

Both myself and one of my best friends have men who work away...hers for a month at a time and to be honest it's tough, that's the life we've chosen and we love our men enough to be able to run our own lives while they're away...
That includes our own spending money and still having our own lives when they get back and giving them their own time and space when they need it...

She needs to grow up...

belfastgirl23

Okay I'm going to disagree with nearly everyone but bear with me.

I noticed that you're offshore a lot. I wonder if what your GF means when she's asking you to go on hol with her is that she wants to spend time with you. When you're home in the normal course of things are you running around trying to sort out all the stuff you don't get to when you're offshore?

Just reflecting some of my own experience, DH is always keen to go away for a weekend etc but it's because he knows we'll spend proper time together whereas frankly at home I'm a bit of a blue a***d fly running around doing things.

I wonder if you were to suggest a holiday at home, and really take proper time to be together, cook for each other etc would this inject a bit of the missing romance in a DF way?

In the meantime I think you should embargo any talk of £ when you're on the phone because it is really hard to have tough conversations there.

I could be wrong but it doesn't sound like you really want to leave her, just that you want to sort this out.

Anyhow maybe I've got it totally wrong in which case ignore Good luck with it however it goes...

skintas_2

shes sounds bit selfish to me,ok my oh earns more than me, i have his bank card every week i give him pocket money daily. my wages go on bills and debts. he complains sometimes thinks i do it on myself....how can i when i dont have nothing to show for it.i pay all the bills to do with the house he pays the rent.i work part time and we have 2 young kids 8 and 5..i dont know anyone who can afford to go on holiday in january, money is always tight..........good luck

jm28cardiff

I feel another haiku coming on! -

The ladies do like
Equality, except when
Picking up the tab!