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  • foxgloves
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    Sorry to hear things are so difficult. Lobbing pooey shorts out of the window when they can only be retrieved, with difficulty, by you must have been the unwanted icing on a very unpleasant, time-consuming incident.

    Sending sympathy. I don't know how you do it.

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  • jwil
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    Sorry your evening was so tough. Hope today is better. Good luck retrieving the shorts!

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  • IzzyBee
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    SA I really don’t know how you cope you really do have it tough big hugs

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    Sorry to hear about your evening going downhill. I know I couldn't do what you do daily. Hope today is less stressful.

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  • enthusiasticsaver
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    Sorry about the 💩episode. From memory you do not have a downstairs toilet so is the issue he cannot get to the bathroom in time? Horrible for you but upsetting for him too no doubt which is why he threw his shorts out of the window out of embarrassment, anger? I expect his brain injury affects his logic/cognitive reasoning and of course he does not need to deal with the consequences. You do. I know you do not have much choice but to get on with it but you are wonderful to get on with it without much complaining and very little thanks from Mr SA no doubt. Difficult not to compare too I should think.

    Do you get carers allowance or do you earn too much? Getting away from Mr SA every so often must be a lifeline and it is a shame you do not get to do that more often.

    I hope today goes better for you.

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    Oh no. Sounds like you had an awful evening. I really don't know how you cope. I know I wouldn't. Hope Mr SA is better today.

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  • KajiKita
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    edited 27 September at 10:29AM

    That sounds horrendous. You must still be jangling after that …

    Sending hugs x

    Any ideas on how to retrieve the garment (safely!) …?

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