Progress not Perfection

liselle

Can I ask, how long can you go on doing everything yourself? What about your health and well -being?

Sun_Addict

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I seem to have an override switch that glosses over that. It’s the same at work, everyone seems to think I know the answer to everything. The amount of emails/messages I get saying ‘someone’ said you’d know the answer to this 😐 I do try to prioritise my wellbeing with exercise, reading, catch ups with friends and self care. It’s a non negotiable for me.

liselle

You are amazing and I think it’s very inspirational the way that you always fit in your exercise time, socialising, etc,around everything else you have to do.So important to do so.

I get asked all sorts of things too and I hate to say but it gets worse when you get older! I’m expected to remember every film star there ever was, who starred in what, and when…..lots of my older friends struggle with their hearing, so I’m also the interpreter! If I go to a talk I have someone in each ear asking, What did he say?!If I’m daydreaming and say, sorry, I missed that I was miles away, I get such a disgusted look!

Sun_Addict

Morning all and here we are back on Monday.

WFH today and it was definitely a good decision as I'm still exhausted. I feel very overwhelmed by it all today, not just Saturday's fall but the hospital appointments this month, when he fell off his scooter last Saturday and his fall in the garden. I still need to either phone or pop into the doctors to sort out the blood test his gastroenterologist has ordered and the clinician needs to ring him for a prescription meds review this week or he'll run out of meds before the weekend. It's all so stressful and Mr SA appears to be blissfully unaware of the chaos he causes.

I need to go to Lid! today. I really wish I'd picked up the things I need on Friday but then I wasn't to know what would happen at the weekend.

Payday eve and usual Monday finance check done, cc balance has been cleared and an oddment of £8.41 has gone to the Christmas pot.

The holiday payment hasn't cleared on the cc yet and the majority of the money is in a 6 months regular saver that doesn't mature until August. However I have £450 in another holiday pot and sufficient funds in other pots to lend myself the remainder until August. I've just booked the time off work although I'd already provisionally put in my work calendar. I absolutely love declining meetings and saying sorry I'm on holiday, sometimes I leave it to the last minute to decline so they don't rearrange it for when I get back 🤣

Today's exercise plan is walking to/from Lid!, a short strength training session on Fit On and live Zumba at 6pm.

Tonight's dinner is sweet potato, chickpea and spinach curry, all ingredients are things that need using up. Using up stocks is going to be my main focus for July's meal plan.

Today's housework task is cleaning the living room. I've also done a load of washing so there'll be a bit of ironing to do later. Will try and fit in a garden task too although as the garden waste bin is full and doesn't get emptied until Thursday it might be just be watering and deadheading.

Cherryfudge

Sending a virtual hugs or two (if wanted. If you're not a huggy person, I can offer to put the kettle on instead), because it inevitably takes it out of you when you get deprived of sleep, especially on top of Mr SA's falls. I wonder whether the hot weather affects him too?

Do you find it helps to write all the appointments out in chronological order and cross them off as done? For some people the fact of putting them down on paper (or a spreadsheet) means the brain isn't holding on trying to remember what's still to do, so it's a bit of a de-stressor. I imagine it's something you do anyway, as you are an organised person, but I thought I'd mention it just in case. It's a lot to feel responsible for, and seeing it all looming up as a whole month's worth makes that worse. Could you park anything that doesn't have to be sorted this week, or even today? Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof, if you see what I mean. Things that loom on the horizon can't be dealt with yet.

I absolutely love declining meetings and saying sorry I'm on holiday, sometimes I leave it to the last minute to decline so they don't rearrange it for when I get back 🤣

I love the tactical thinking! Undoubtedly time off leads to things piling up immediately after you return - so you could also book an extra couple of days of leave at the end of your holiday then withdraw them at the last minute so you get a calmer re-entry. 😊

I'm looking forward to your Ibiza holiday vicariously. I've only been there once and it was beautiful. I bet it's hot there at the moment!

Sun_Addict

I called in at the surgery rather than try to call as it's often impossible to get through. So he's all sorted and has an appointment next week for the blood test and the clinician is going to call re the prescription. Something else ticked off the list.

beanielou

Not surprised that you are tired and overwhelmed. Take care of yourself xx

satchmo1

Would Mr SA refuse carers? A close neighbour has what seems like an army of carers, 2 at a time, 3 times a day. It means her husband can go out for a short while which helps him recalibrate. I'd imagine Mr SA would be stroppy about it at first? But his falls/accidents/phone-calls are noticeably more frequent lately. Said with love x

liselle

Yes as above and also respite day care?

Sun_Addict

He had a carer when he first came out of hospital but this ended after a year at his request. He was getting fed up of someone supervising him and social services no longer classed him as being a danger to himself. He doesn’t really need a carer and adult health and social care won’t fund one as he’s able to get out on his scooter and can take reasonable care of himself with my supervision. He can get himself up and washed/dressed and can make his own breakfast albeit in a fashion. He wouldn’t go to respite day care. I can get out on my own so wouldn’t be classed as tied to the house.

Of course if his health got worse it would be a different story.