A Better Life.

Buffythedebtslayer

Sun_Addict said:

Are the carers there long term or just until she’s more mobile?

It is long term, she made LOADS of progress but basically now accepts all the help and allows the carers to do a bit to help her. I don't know she is full of surprises. She wants to do things for herself but I think she thinks it will all happen later on.. 

I am intending on leaving the house for lunch with my friends! I might treat myself to a cab as I have to go shopping too. 

Buffythedebtslayer

Crazycatlady2 said:

I don’t like being a carer much either tbh. My son is 13 but still like caring for a 2 year old in regards to constant supervision, do all personal care etc. I thought at 40 I’d have 3 teenagers but it’s not like I pictured at all x 

That must be so difficult. So so difficult. My friend has a daughter who she will need to look after for ever essentially, her life isn't the picture she hoped for. I could get on to a really negative spiral but am avoiding those thoughts, am sending love in solidarity XX 

I think it is really hard in our society, essentially if you can pay for things you are ok to an extent, I know there are issues with the being trapped no matter how much money you have but asking for help is so taboo and capitalism means everything costs. 

I need to attempt lunch for mum. 

Good news - all the deliveries came today so can finish sorting out mum's room and the conservatory. 

Crazycatlady2

Thankyou for the kind words just wanted to let you know others around that sort of understand what you going through 

enjoy your lunch out x 

enthusiasticsaver

All you full time carers out there deserve a medal. Have a great lunch out Buffy. 

beanielou

Enjoy your lunch Buffster xxx
If you were nearer we could be ladies that lunch 

beanielou

& yes if you have money it certainly helps in these situations.
SAd but true.

Crazycatlady2

Yea money deffo helps. We was awarded money towards restpite for my son but can’t actually find anywhere to send him we can employ a PA but not sure it’s appropriate and my just cause me more stress than the few hours I’d get ‘off’ would be worth 🤷‍♀️ 

its all fun and games sometimes 🤦‍♀️

beanielou

Crazycatlady2 said:

I don’t like being a carer much either tbh. My son is 13 but still like caring for a 2 year old in regards to constant supervision, do all personal care etc. I thought at 40 I’d have 3 teenagers but it’s not like I pictured at all x 

I salue you.
One of my friends son had a brain tumour & will never live independantly.  I always remember her saying she dident sigh up for this.

milann

You’re doing a great job. It’s a big change for you and you’re doing your best - can’t do any more that that 👍

Buffythedebtslayer

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Doggy door is fitted. 

Dogs can and do go through the door. 

I let the dogs out this morning. WATCHED them BOTH PEE. 

And I left them in garden with the doggy door open. 

Shut the kitchen door so they are in the conservatory. 

Carer arrived, all good, carer left 

I let the dogs out only discover that they have peed up the recycling bin and sofa. 

I don't know what to do. 

HELP!!!