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Pollycat

sim2335 said:

It is freaking me out since I blocked him in January he’s still trying to get in touch I know it’s that gambler.

I had moved on from that gambler but when I get miss calls like that it brings back memories and it’s like I’m going there again, obviously not the same.

It wasn’t just the money I lent him it was consent harmsent, guilt trips manipulation gaslighting etc

I don’t know why I care so much, that he’s that desparte.

sim2335 said:

Most likely it is him, three times then once again at night, when I use to talk to him he was extremely persitant

it may be in my head, what I don’t like is people still try to get hold of me after this long and still trying to steal money

maybe I just need to be a bit more stronger, as he can’t do anything and hasn’t, since I left other then trying to re connect.

You really don't know that's who it is.
You are right, you are building this into something it might not be in your head.
Even if it is him, he's in your past.
Let him stay there/

Have you ever discussed your anxiety issues with your doctor? 

NBLondon

sim2335 said:

Most likely it is him, three times then once again at night, when I use to talk to him he was extremely persitant

Change your phone number.

Only give it to people you trust (and those who need it like your employer).

Then it can't be him in future.

Ignore any withheld numbers.

sim2335

Yes I talk to threpist about simlair things he said you overthinking it.

the reason I not chnage my number, is two reasons the hassle of telling people, and updating everything and second if he leaves a voice message etc with blackmail threat or anything at least I can do something where’s if he can’t and just does something.

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

Yes I talk to threpist about simlair things he said you overthinking it.

the reason I not chnage my number, is two reasons the hassle of telling people, and updating everything and second if he leaves a voice message etc with blackmail threat or anything at least I can do something where’s if he can’t and just does something.

Listen to your therapist.
You really need to listen to your therapist.
He's telling you the same thing that everyone on here is saying.
There is no evidence that 'the gambler' will leave a blackmail threat'.
It's 3 missed calls.
That's all.
Step away from the conspiracy theories.
For your own sanity.
Again - have you spoken to your doctor about your anxiety?
Are you taking any medication?

sim2335

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

Yes I talk to threpist about simlair things he said you overthinking it.

the reason I not chnage my number, is two reasons the hassle of telling people, and updating everything and second if he leaves a voice message etc with blackmail threat or anything at least I can do something where’s if he can’t and just does something.

Listen to your therapist.
You really need to listen to your therapist.
He's telling you the same thing that everyone on here is saying.
There is no evidence that 'the gambler' will leave a blackmail threat'.
It's 3 missed calls.
That's all.
Step away from the conspiracy theories.
For your own sanity.
Again - have you spoken to your doctor about your anxiety?
Are you taking any medication?

No not doctor, just thrpist I don’t want to take tablets, never been keen on that.

the evidence I have is what type of behaviour he use to do to get money of me, it was disgusting including harrsment, etc

and him saying if you tell people I’ve got plenty of things about you, even thou I didn’t say I was gona tell anyone.

then again it’s true I don’t have any eveidnce of either friends doing anything, they have known me for years and never once anything physical happen, threats yeah but nothing happend, if anything was gona happen it would have happend by now.

my biggest worry though is as gambling is a diesease and once it dawns on him after a few years there’s no way he will get in touch with me…and he needs to get his fix, he may escalate it to get money of me, don’t know what he could do.
then again his main aim is money to gamble, if he doesn’t get there he doesn’t care.
that’s why he use to beg me for days non stop for money, because he knew nothing could happen, if he could get it illegally of me he would have done that.

Pollycat

You have no evidence.
You know that and have admitted that. 
You do not know if the calls were from the'gambler'.
As other posters have said - you are going round in circles, ignoring any advice.
Posters are losing patience with this.

sim2335

I am listing, hence I have invite him, and other friend 
I’m just giving  update and my thoughts 

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

I am listing, hence I have invite him, and other friend 
I’m just giving  update and my thoughts 

Why do you need to 'invite him and other friend'?

74jax

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

I am listing, hence I have invite him, and other friend 
I’m just giving  update and my thoughts 

Why do you need to 'invite him and other friend'?

@Pollycat And to what? None of this make sense to me now. 

sim2335

Mistyped meant contact him