COVID cancel plans with friends

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

It’s not as easy as it sounds, this a friend I’ve been friends with for 16 years, and spent whole days with him and countless hours on phone and told all good and bad things.

Then all of a sudden he just disappears.

And I don’t really have any other close friends.

This doesn’t mean I won’t move on but it’s just strange why he didn’t say I’d Tom want to be firmed did tahts the case

I’ve had friends in past that stop contacting me., that’s fine I just leave it.

Then just leave it in this instance too

sim2335

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

It’s not as easy as it sounds, this a friend I’ve been friends with for 16 years, and spent whole days with him and countless hours on phone and told all good and bad things.

Then all of a sudden he just disappears.

And I don’t really have any other close friends.

This doesn’t mean I won’t move on but it’s just strange why he didn’t say I’d Tom want to be firmed did tahts the case

I’ve had friends in past that stop contacting me., that’s fine I just leave it.

Then just leave it in this instance too

I am gona, it’s up to him now.

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

It’s not as easy as it sounds, this a friend I’ve been friends with for 16 years, and spent whole days with him and countless hours on phone and told all good and bad things.

Then all of a sudden he just disappears.

And I don’t really have any other close friends.

This doesn’t mean I won’t move on but it’s just strange why he didn’t say I’d Tom want to be firmed did tahts the case

I’ve had friends in past that stop contacting me., that’s fine I just leave it.

Then just leave it in this instance too

I am gona, it’s up to him now.

But you really do need to leave it.
Don't keep obsessing about what happened, what he's thinking etc.
Leave it.

sim2335

I am gona leave it but what if he contacts me in like 4 months 

calleyw

You are doing it again you are obessing over stuff you have no control over.  Its not easy to get out of the cycle.  Not trying to be rude but you do seem to have a lot of issues in your life. And as someone has said in this thread we can't help you.  This is very much down to you.

Its like the driving (yes I have come across other threads) somethings are not for everyone.  Me, I prefer to have no friends as I have been messed over and used a number a of times.  So I have given up I would prefer to just be me, my partner and the dog.

With the dating issue you come across as very desperate.  I want a wife.  Umm thats not how it works and if you give those vibes off then you are never going to have a relationship.

I think you need to take a break from everything and everyone.  And just spend time on your own working on your self and what you want out of life. Obviously don't give up work.  But in your spare time just do things for you.  Look at what you want to achieve and how you think you can make it happen.

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

I am gona leave it but what if he contacts me in like 4 months 

That's up to you!!

Tell him to "do one" if he's basically ignored you for months.

Or forgive him, let him back in your life to be treated this way again, which he most likely will.

Rinse and repeat.

sim2335

Sea_Shell said:

sim2335 said:

I am gona leave it but what if he contacts me in like 4 months 

That's up to you!!

Tell him to "do one" if he's basically ignored you for months.

Or forgive him, let him back in your life to be treated this way again, which he most likely will.

Rinse and repeat.

I will unless he has very good reason like he wa Not all or close famiky

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

I am gona leave it but what if he contacts me in like 4 months 

Don't try to second guess.
Don't think about 'what ifs'.
Just leave it.
If he gets in touch, you deal with it when it happens.
Until it does happen, as long as you're worrying about 'what ifs', you're just a hamster running on a wheel.
Jump off and get on with your life.

74jax

He is not the one taking up the thoughts in your head.  You are the one taking up the thoughts in your head with him.

He cannot control your thoughts, you can. So change it.

No more 'what ifs', deal with the 'what ifs' when they become reality and only then.

sim2335

Just had 3 miss calls from no caller I’d 

Both that friend, and that gambler call from no caller ID, both for diffent reasons 

Friend because he uses home phone, and it’s already set like that.

Anyway had 3 missed calls from no caller ID, if I call that friend back he will think I’m desperate if it wasn’t him..not in mood to argue about why you ignored  why you lied etc.