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Sea_Shell

If we said, don't call the number back, would you listen?

Or, as your post was from yesterday evening, have you already called it back?

I never ring back a no caller ID number on principal.   It could be anything.   If they want to talk to me, then can ring back on their dime.    I don't usually answer them either!!! 

sim2335

I’m not calling that gambler back, Should I go to police or just continue to ignore

I asssume it was gambler because I had miss call again at 10:45pm

My other friend most times is getting ready for bed then, and we rarely talk to 11 on a weekday let alone call then

Also after no contact after a while he leaves a voicemail or could have even emailed.

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

I’m not calling that gambler back, Should I go to police or just continue to ignore

I asssume it was gambler because I had miss call again at 10:45pm

My other friend most times is getting ready for bed then, and we rarely talk to 11 on a weekday let alone call then

Also after no contact after a while he leaves a voicemail or could have even emailed.

Seriously!!!!     And say what?  "someone's tried calling me, it's freaking me out, can you have a word with them"


JUST IGNORE THEM!!!      Move on with your life.

Pollycat

I agree with Sea_Shell.
What would you say to the police?
"I loaned money to somebody over a year ago and they've never paid me back. I've had 3 missed calls from an unknown number and think it might be him"?

You've now let another person inside your head (the gambler).
Stop thinking about these people.
If your friend wants to get in touch, he'll leave you a message.

Sea_Shell

Sim - I don't mean to be rude, but your posts do run the risk of being ignored, if posters feel that you are just going round and round in circles with your dilemmas.

Some have already accused you of trolling (which I don't believe you are), but you risk alienating those that have tried to give you advise, if you keep on like this.  We feel like we're banging our head against a brick wall.

I realise that this may be one of the only places that you can come to get your thoughts and feelings "on paper", but you need more help than we can give.

sim2335

It is freaking me out since I blocked him in January he’s still trying to get in touch I know it’s that gambler.

I had moved on from that gambler but when I get miss calls like that it brings back memories and it’s like I’m going there again, obviously not the same.

It wasn’t just the money I lent him it was consent harmsent, guilt trips manipulation gaslighting etc

I don’t know why I care so much, that he’s that desparte.

74jax

sim2335 said:

It is freaking me out since I blocked him in January he’s still trying to get in touch I know it’s that gambler.

I had moved on from that gambler but when I get miss calls like that it brings back memories and it’s like I’m going there again, obviously not the same.

It wasn’t just the money I lent him it was consent harmsent, guilt trips manipulation gaslighting etc

I don’t know why I care so much, that he’s that desparte.

I have commented many times on your threads regarding you going to the police and what you need to do in order to be taken seriously by the police etc for harassment.

In my Domestic Abuse case the police were amazing, and I can't think they could have done anything else than what they did.  But I had an unbelievably strong case. 

I understand your comments of getting a missed call from an unknown number and thinking its him, but you don't know this. I get anxiety, feel faint, head spin etc from hearing certain words in a certain accent, and this is 20years on. It doesn't go away, but you learn to deal with it.

Why is getting a call from an unknown number freaking you out?  You didn't take the call, speak to anyone and in reality your life is exactly the same as before that call was made. It's freaking you out because you are inventing scenarios in your head. What if, what next, what could, etc etc. Never mind the 'whats', the facts - an unknown number called, you didn't answer, you carry on. 

I have said so many times now, that repeating myself is even annoying me - YOU are allowing people to make you feel this way by giving them your head space. It's not THEM, it's YOU. if you want that and your time to be taken up that way, carry on. But don't keep posting the same thing as I agree with others, you don't seem to be able to take in what we are all saying and use it to help you. 

sim2335

Most likely it is him, three times then once again at night, when I use to talk to him he was extremely persitant

it may be in my head, what I don’t like is people still try to get hold of me after this long and still trying to steal money

maybe I just need to be a bit more stronger, as he can’t do anything and hasn’t, since I left other then trying to re connect.

powerful_Rogue

Block no caller ID numbers.

iPhone - https://www.alphr.com/iphone-block-no-caller-id/

Android - https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/tech/how-to-block-unknown-numbers-android?r=US&IR=T

sheramber

If his phone is set to number withheld  he can allow the number to be revealed by dialling 141 before he dials your number. 

So, if he wanted to speak to you he could.

Set your phone to bolck withheld number as advised, then they won't worry you.