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The Mental Debt Struggle...

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  • beanielou
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    That is great news that you were able to drop 3 subjects for your DS.
    Less pressure for you both so win win.
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  • Having food in the house is definitely a key thing Keedie, it was something I wanted to focus on this month as September budget review identified this as a weakness for us in terms of eating out.  I think it's about a change of mindset and just developing the habit of going to the kitchen cupboard instead of reaching for the phone. 
    Glad you've hit your NSD target already, well done! 
    LMD x
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  • AntoMac
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    Glad to hear you are working on being kinder to yourself Keedie. Putting yourself first more often won’t stop you continuing being kind to others whatsoever.
    It’s also good that you’re working to fix some of those little spending ‘leaks’ that we can all easily succumb to.
    Another supporter of the ‘Keedie for president’ campaign here by the way  ;)
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  • Keedie
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    It is definitely a mindset change @LittleMissDetermined and I feel much better for it. Yesterday my son was asking for fish and chips for dinner as he heard my brother talking about it when we were at my mum's yesterday evening, and usually I would have had no plan for what we were doing and would have gone along with it and worried about the money later. But as I had an incredibly loose meal plan for the week, I was able to offer an alternative and I've put some spare ribs in the oven and he munched that whilst watching the Man Utd match 😁.

    So although I was a bit slow on the uptake, this is a game changer. I've also been more mindful of the amount that I am spending on groceries due to the grocery challenge, which I've not been posting in, but I've been loosely following it. So yes, plugging those 'leaks' is definitely the way to go @AntoMac. I need to work on a new list, as the AWE list is all about making my life more adaptable and accessible physically to improve my wellbeing. But I want to create a list that allows me to enjoy life more and pamper myself a little and to be more creative. I found a beauty school near me, that has fully body massages from £15 as the beauty students require the hours as part of their course so it's cheaper. I'm going with a friend next month for a facial, and hopefully we'll be able to do something like that every few months. I'm also trying to get back into my distance learning courses so that I can finally be certified as a proofreader and copywriter so that I can finally do my career change. One of the things that I've decided to do for myself to be kinder to myself, is to work on my own future prospects, rather than putting all my energy into my son's education and everyone else.

    The online school came back to me, and they're giving me a refund of £1,281.67, so when that comes through, I'll have my regular £50 payment at the end of the month, and I'll add £18.33 to round it up to £1,350 payment. That will take the debt down to £3,400 and that would 29.17% repaid. Yay.

    £100 paid to MBNA as I increased the direct debit value by reducing the Octopus Energy one. That'll bring my debt down nicely at £100 a month plus whatever is in the PAD pot and I receive from my siblings repaying their debt. It's currently at £2,795, so it's nice to be in the £2700s. PAD pot aside, by end of December, I'll be in the £2500s.

    I've been getting a bit confused about my direct debits that come out after the 24th of the month, as they were set to come out after I get paid from my employed job on 24th of the month. I've been trying to count what I need to pay for the rest of the current month, plus everything for the next month and I've been getting baffled on how to do that (yes I know it's not rocket science 😂), as my direct debits were set to my income pattern but my budget is set to a calendar month pattern. So I'm slowly moving my direct debits to the 2nd of the month that used to occur at the end of the month, so that everything will come out between 2nd and 20th of the month. So when I get paid and I am topping up the bills pot, I only have to think about what is due for the next calendar month. Hopefully that will make it easier for my little brain to work out my budget and I can tweak my spreadsheet to help me know what to put in each pot and when.

    And thanks for the presidential/prime minister support @cinnamon123 and AntoMac 🤗, I'm flattered .
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  • AntoMac
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    That’s some real good news Keedie. Things are going your way at the moment. The fee refund will make a massive dent in your outstanding balance. Maybe good karma really is a thing. Onwards and upwards  :)
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  • A lovely positive post @keedie! Things are definitely looking up and I hope that continues for you. It’s nice that there’s a bit less pressure on you now
    LMD x
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