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  • badmemory
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    I think the big problem with teens is that they are so busy trying to grow up that they forget the effects of that "push" on those around them & become just a tad self centred.  Having said that I think he is right about writing a list & dealing with just one item at a time & parking does seem to be a good one.
    Whilst it might just be one more stress for you to deal with the education forms, at least your son has someone to get him to at least get educated.  Just think about those poor kids who get pushed out of education & disappear & have no-one who will see that they do get educated.  Your son may not always think it but he is one of the lucky ones.
  • Keedie
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    Yes teenagers can be extremely self centred @badmemory, as they don't consider the impact of their actions on those around them. He's not a bad person, and I think being an only child makes that worse, but I won't lie, more consideration would be appreciated. I think he knows in his heart that he's lucky, in general and with regards to his educational options, but that unfortunately doesn't always translate to gratitude. 

    It's really sad that some children don't get any support with their education or they miss out on opportunities to carve a better life for themselves. I'm struggling to help him understand that simply turning up for lessons isn't enough. He actually has to do independent study and keep on top of things, and that's the part he's really struggling with. He's not fully understanding what he's watching or the learning format, but it's the required independence that he can't get his around. And I'm running out of steam and patience to keep pushing him, but I know that I have to. It's going to be a long academic year...

    I've found all the documents I need for the blue badge application, but the council website isn't letting me upload documents, so I will contact them tomorrow. But his list idea in terms of importance/added value was good advice.
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  • Keedie
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    Disabled Freedom Pass application done and it was really long winded and draining. I don't know what will happen as I couldn't reliably answer the questions as everything fluctuates. I had to stop the form twice and come back to it as I was getting tired and confused, but at least it's done. Fingers crossed there isn't too much follow up, but my local authority is exceptionally bureaucratic, so we'll see...

    I'm on the verge of running out money as I didn't do my sums properly before the end of the month, so I have to rework it all out. As I was super excited about the new ergonomic walking stick, but I forgot a few things that needs to be paid for, so it's back to the drawing board - oops!
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  • Keedie said:
    badmemory said:
    Always tell them about the bad days.  That is what you need passes etc for after all.
    This is very true. I told them about my worse days and I was stunned to receive an email today to say that my application has been already and I'll get the freedom pass in 10 days! That's the swiftest communication that I have had with my council ever. I don't know what's bit them, but I am not complaining  :D.
    This is really quick, congratulations!  Our local authority isn't as on the ball.
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