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  • CRANKY40
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    My son needed a grade 4 which is why he chose to do the lower tier. He thought he would fail the higher tier but could possibly manage a 4 on the lower one. That may be a conversation worth having with your son if he is struggling?
  • Keedie
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    edited 8 September 2022 at 8:52PM
    Yes I will try and have the conversation again, but he thinks I don't believe in him @CRANKY40. And that I'm just being negative. He's got an assessment with a tuition centre on Tuesday that I can pay for using my childcare vouchers and they do IGCSE tuition, so he'll be doing maths, science and english tuition there each week until his exams. Maybe he will be okay with the higher paper, but I'm not so sure.

    Once he's had his assessment and has been level assessed, maybe then I can broach the subject with him again without him being so hyper sensitive. But the fact that he's so into his education again and wanting to succeed almost makes me think that he should just stick with it, but we'll see...
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  • All we can do is try to treat ourselves with the same grace and kindness that we show others. It can be hard at times but well worth it for everyone if we manage to do so.

    I love the idea of kintsugi! It will remind me that all is not lost even when I think it may be :)

    Your son seems to be moving in the right direction even though it may be 2 steps forward, 1 step back. I like to think that teenagers are still babies, just in big bodies. They need so much guidance and love as they face their futures but there is an urge to push back against authority and rules as they still want their way. It's not easy for either the parent or the child but you do what you do and hope everything turns out okay.

    Hope you have a nice weekend! 
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  • AntoMac
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    Those are very wise words indeed @cinnamon123. I also think teenagers particularly like testing boundaries with those who love them the most.
    My teenager is quite a night owl too @Keedie. I often hear her moving around in the nigh5 and when she works she always gets the really late shifts.
    I also had another decent BT come up from Sainsbury CC. Only problem is I’ve only recently maxed out my Sainsbury’s card on a very good money transfer offer already!
    Now it’s the weekend so hopefully some time for a bit of rest and for some of those cracks to repair  :)
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  • Hi @Keedie, I'm sorry I have been away so long but I have finally caught up on your diary. There's been so much going on for you but you've handled it all so well! The re-set and going back to tweak your budget is a great thing to do and don't worry if you have to go back and tweak it time again as life has a habit of getting in the way! 

    Your son is doing great and is heading in the right direction, it's hard to get the balance of showing support whilst not nagging when dealing with a teen :D  

    Hopefully the new 2yr energy fix will put your mind at rest a bit. If you're able to, could you work out your annual consumption from your Octo account and then work out projected costs? That's what I have done this morning and I feel much better about it. It took me aaaages to actually find the new cap unit rates instead of actual averages though, so if anyone wants them it's 10.3p per unit for gas, 34p per unit for elec, with standing charges of 46p per day for elec and 28p per day for gas. 

    If you ever have moments of self doubt, you should re-read sections of your diary if you don't already... you are amazing and a true inspiration. 
    Keep on smiling 
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  • AntoMac
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    That’s a right mixed bag of stuff you have going on there Keedie. I would say overall more good stuff than bad stuff, especially with the freedom pass and the blue badge. My Mum has a blue badge and it makes taking her out so much easier, just the convenience of being able to park a manageable distance away from places has been life changing.
    One other slight encouragement I can give you is that my late teen is much easier now than she was when she was a mid teen, the age your boy is now. Not something that happened overnight but hopefully something you will see happen more and more as time passes. The 2 days away does sound like a Godsend if it comes to fruition.
    Whatever happens you’re going to keep going and won’t be beaten. Loving your inspirational quotes. You’re spoiling the PADers with them! I hope they don’t expect similar from me when I’m counter upper in October….. Maybe some of my haphazard ramblings if they’re lucky …. or maybe unlucky  ;)
    Tomorrow is a Bank Holiday so take the well deserved rest. We’re away abroad for a few days from tomorrow. Flight has been booked for some time so guess it will go ahead as normal as heard nothing to the contrary.
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