Weekly Flylady Thread 14th February 2022

pigpen

YL.. thank you. I don't ever wish I had a few people less and I regularly tell them I love them and am proud of them.. I made Moomin cry saying that yesterday. I am just in so much pain and utterly devoid of energy. I saw a  friend for the first time in a while.. she asked if I was ok so I cried.. in the street.. like a nutter. I feel like I am failing eveyone because I can't do anything, I can't even do the school run and I need to go to post office and chemist still, I just couldn't face doing those things as well as the school run. I don't get enough pain meds to have enough each day to make it better.. not helped when I am having to double doses just to get any use out of them at all. My thoughts are all disordered. Honesty is what I do.. and I am thankful for you all to share with.

Thank you all.. Iona no, it just got worse.. Dot had 97 meltdowns, Twinkle lost it at bed time and I just had to pin the 2 of them to their separate beds! The bed has been uncovered but there is so much stuff to fling.. I have some stuff to drop at the tip on Sunday.. many many empty boxes, 2 binbags of clothes, 3 binbags of rubbish and 2 binbags to hopefully sell..

DW got reloaded again.. and lots of clothes were put away.

Sunday OH and I are clearing the landing so the girls clothes can fit in their cupboards.. the landing is FULL.. but my room is looking better.

OH is going to the gym after dropping the girls at school.. he had a good day on the phones.. though the last caller was a bit cross. I will vacuum the bedroom while he is out I think.

Tomorrow will be better.. it can't be a great deal worse.

That was mostly waffling.. sorry.. but my bedroom being tidier is resulting in better sleep..

so.. for my own braincells..

Friday.. vacuum bedroom and restack the last corner..
Saturday.. dance/swimming
Sunday.. Tip, landing

No school next week so I may have the girls do some much needed flinging.

Tonight.. see if I can finish this left front of the cardican without having to pull it out 8000 times.. though, my cable need is upstairs, I found it still tucked in my hair when I went up to bed!

Fayolle

Just a quick visit from me to give Piggers a hug, no matter how much she hates them. Like the others, I hope it gets better for you, and wish that there was something that I could do to help that. We are ears and thoughts, if that helps x

Stay safe vibes to you all, especially Dizzy, ASB and Honeybear. Bracing ourselves in the SW… wfh today, which is an unexpected bonus.

ps - wm running…the obligatory flying mention 😉

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Morning all

YL - MANY HAPPY RETURNS GORGEOUS GIRLIE! It sounds like you had a lovely day xx

Piggers - I echo the others - you astound me with all you do and cope with, whilst retaining your sense of humour and being a huge support to us on here xxx

Valli - you sound done in chick. Have a hug for now and a 🍷for later from me xx

Well we have about 4” of snow, no wind. It is now raining. I think stronger winds will arrive later but for those of you down south please please change phones, gather candles, prep food that can be done without an oven.

I’m not flying today, CBA 😉😉xx

Mademoiselle

Good morning lovelies.  

Happy Birthday YL, hope you get thoroughly spoilt all weekend

Thinking of all the rest of you too with the terrible weather that is forecast, even our local weather people here are talking about how the UK is going to be hit so hard. 

Hugs to all of you

We're off to the other house for 3 days and both DDs will be joining us so looking forward to a mini break.

DW unloaded
Bed made, clothes picked up
  

Mademoiselle

Narco, here are my thoughts on students getting more and more challenging.

I am not trained to asses or teach in any shape or form (except a basic EFL qualification) so this is just based on my experience and observations.   I am in the latter part of my 50s so many will say old-fashioned and out of touch

Language plays a huge part in evaluating people (I’m not talking about professional evaluations just everyday life), one of the ways we judge people is by the vocabulary they use.  We have experienced this here.  My OH is British, has lived in France for 25+ years and speaks very good French.  He has at various times had ‘character tests’ where you put words in order of most like you to least like you.  Each time it the results have been fairly true to his character except for one or two sections where everyone who knows him says ‘no way’.  These tests have always been done in French.  We have studied these at home with my DDs and it comes down to how we interpret or translate words.   Words also change over the years, I’m surprised how ‘foreign’ I feel when I’m in UK now.   Until last year I worked as a kids EFL teacher in an after-school club, great fun, we were 3 older British ladies and were joined each year by different young teaching assistants who worked for us to get a bit more money whilst they were on placement here.  It was ironic that we found it easier to fully understand the character or the Italian (who spoke perfect English) compared to the English one.  The English girl was lovely but harder to work out.  She was the same age as our kids but so different.  I was interesting as we met her parents when visiting and got on with them.   I’ve also had several run ins with psychologists here both for me and DD.  Very interesting and differing views on how language and culture influence how we are interpreted.   

I don’t know how old you are, but I think it gets harder to keep up with the times in terms of how younger people think as you get older.  The last year I worked with a very young English lady who was our new manager.  So many new thoughts on things, but she kept commenting how our experience made us confident and not worried by situations (Sick kids, severe allergic reaction, demonstrators outside and riot squad…….). 

More and more people are from mixed cultures, communities etc, we move around the country and world so much more.  60 years ago, it caused mayhem if you married someone from the other side of the Pennines.

I also think youngsters need to learn to listen more, but that means we have to teach them how to listen.  But that’s another subject.

So now I’ve gone on and on, will be interested to hear your, and other people’s thoughts. 

BadCat18

Morning all

day off for me today, woot woot! I was supposed to be taking my car in for service but have postponed it as it would mean driving 40 miles into the red zone, better to be safe! Weather here very very windy but quite bright at present, probably won’t chance pegging washing out as I’m not sure I have enough pegs to keep it on the line Lol!

Anyway my plan is to save us some time on the weekend so I will be flying… so far…
en suite shower scrubbed while I was in there
bed stripped and ready to be changed
wm x 1 swishing
gibble from bedroom rehomed
dw emptied 
cats fed, watered and trays done

dh is wfh so I will stay away from the top floor so as not to disturb him, next step is to get hoovering and dusting, lounge and bedroom first I think.

have a good day all, take care if travelling anywhere, stay safe. Back later with a bit more of a progress report x

Mademoiselle

Ironing is done, basket is empty.  At last.  I don't normally let it build up and this has reminded me why I sort clean laundry as soon as it is dry, how many socks, and there are only 2 of us in the house.  I blame the cats!

Coffee next then think about packing and lunch

kazwookie

Well we got through the night, but the wind is picking up, it is raining then sunshine for a short while.

Daily stuff done

Bins sorted

Cats sorted

OH has a day off to use up some holiday, so is muttering about the internet.

Mac and cheese cooking.

Cat been playing with the tecso envelope that arrived with my £3.50 voucher point inside!

Safe day all x

pigpen

Narco.. as an owner of young people so spending a lot of time with friends/offsprung etc.. I think the younger generation look for excuses for their laziness and they are so much more whiny than I or my friends ever were... yes some have problems, yes some have mental health issues but they routinely spew 'Mental health/undiagnosed SEND'.. are you receiving help? Are you looking for support or diagnosis? Are you doing anything at all to improve your situation and 9 times out of 10 the answer is no because they don't have those things they are just wanting to be 'let off' their responsibilities as a student or as a human being. They are entitled and unmotivated, they do not listen (which is not really a new thing for young people) they are more dependent which seems an odd one to me, but if you have them doing stuff like housework, PT jobs you are 'abusive' or a 'lazy parent' it is silly they get to adulthood without the means or skills to live independently.. I have always told my lot that when you walk into an interview the interviewers see your appearance.. first impressions DO matter, they decide in that moment if you are a face they want to see every day, representing their business.. your skin (miserable looking/approachable/happy/dirty/clean absolutely not a race thing as far as I am concerned though I am aware some employers are still in the dark ages with their mentality), hair and clothes matter.. if they pass the test the next judgement is based on how you sound.. if you sound bored, uninterested, confident, motivated, that is the next test.. if you sound bored and uninterested you will not be getting that job or that uni place even if your words say the right thing. What you actually know is less important because every role comes with training. Whether the language of your country of residence is your first or 10th you have to be able to understand and communicate in MOST circumstances.. Boog worked in a factory in the UK where ALL information was given in Polish because 99% of their workers were migrant workers. It actually put him at a huge disadvantage and dangerous because the machinery they were using had to be used safely and the instructions were in Polish!

However, the younger generation do more to bolster one another, they are more tactile and willing to compliment one another.. whether those compliments are genuine or not they say the right things. they are more supportive of one another than my generation was. I don't think they are harder work I think they are different work, and sometimes, not always, it is the older person who needs to be more flecible in how they speak to the younger generation.. having heard you with my own daughter I do not think that this is your issue. Moomin said you were lovely and listened and didn't 'huff' like many of the teachers at college who just think everyone is full of excuses. You didn't talk down to her, you spoke to her as an adult which she appreciated, being so tiny she often is spoken to like she is 10.

Thank you all.. for hugs, words and kindness.. I'm waiting for the GP to call back... *falls about laughing because it won't happen* and coincidentally the physio sent a letter.. after 2 years of silence.. with a 'final reminder'.. so I rang and raged at them. TBH I dn't even know what I want from the GP.. do I want more? do I want different? do I want something other than nothing?do I just want to moan? I have no idea..

Squeak didn't get a place at the school, I'm guessing a paying family took priority which I understand but am not happy with.. I'm going to kick the LA.. I don't think HE is doing any of us any good right now.

Lovely sunshine here again so I am going to get on with some laundry and I'm sure it will dry in no time..

Noz is running about yowling because it is windy and he is loving it.

I filled a blue bin with recycling and half a black bin.
OH cleared the table so Squeak is doing her science class in there.. water displacement.so a bit messy but the table will be clean.

 I need to have Twinkles thumb looked at by the dr next week over half term..she had a big lump of scar tissue or something on the side of her nail.. she keeps eating it and catching it on everything so it keeps bleeding
Squeak needs new shoes..

And I need to eat so I can have the second lot of medication.. yummy.. *rattle rattle*

Narc0lepsy

Just checking to make sure you are all ok.   Rainy first thing here, enough to put me off going for a run. Now the rain has stopped but about half an hour ago I watched several large twigs/small branches from the ash tree at the far end of the garden fly across; the wind is now really wild. 
I've decided that today, rather than write a list and chase my tail, I will just make some slight improvement to every room I enter (I think we used to do this a few years ago with decluttering - put away 3 items every time you enter a room).  So:
- went into en suite to clean teeth after breakfast. Cleaned handbasin and surrounding area. Emptied bin.
- went from en suite through bedroom, picking up a couple of items from my dressing table which belong in my study. Emptied waste basket from bedroom.
- went into study. Put away items. Added another bins-worth to my 'master' rubbish bag. Went round upstairs rooms emptying bins and putting bin liners in.
- did a load of washing up.  Took master bin outside to dustbin, via the hall where the shopping bags I'd used for Ald1 last night were waiting to be put back in the car. Put them in car on my way to the bin.
OK you get the idea, if I sat and listed it all day I'd get nothing done.
- rang my mum to make sure Southbourne hadn't blown away. All ok apart from windy.
- Must get at least one report finished before I come here again.   Mademoiselle interesting and worthy of further discussion when I have done some more work!