Estranged wife

elsien

It’s not half your bank balance. What’s mine is yours, and all that. It’s half the joint marital asset bank balance. And if your wife had been the primary earner with you as house husband then the situation would have been exactly the same in reverse. Or if you’d been a same sex couple. Regardless of gender. 

As to the false allegations, there is your version and her version. The truth may lie somewhere between the two. 

Lavendyr

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

 Either you are or are not guilty of the allegation against you. That is not and should not be the subject of this forum. For that, you need a solicitor. 

I just don't understand what you want from this. Do you actually want contact with your child? 

There is a child involved here. Please, please think about that. 

Pollycat

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

I was pointing out that to consider paying for legal advice against your wife and/or her friend for allegedly making false accusations against you when you are "not financially stable now" may not be the most sensible idea when you almost certainly have other costs to pay out.

What do you think you will gain by taking legal action against your wife and/or her friend?

As Elsien has pointed out - it's not half your bank account.
Didn't the solicitors you saw before posting on here make that clear to you?

RogerBareford

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Android07

RogerBareford said:

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Why should I suffer because my wife suddenly felt like leaving. She did not even have a chat about her plans or concerns. She literally went to see the Doctor and then disappeared. I made a life-term commitment to her, she it seems did not.

littlegreenparrot

Android07 said:

RogerBareford said:

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Why should I suffer because my wife suddenly felt like leaving. She did not even have a chat about her plans or concerns. She literally went to see the Doctor and then disappeared. I made a life-term commitment to her, she it seems did not.

I for one am thankful to live in a society where it is possible to change one's mind and leave a marriage if you need to. 
One does not discuss ones plans for leaving if in a relationship with a controlling partner. 

I have no way of knowing whether or not that was genuinely the case, but there is very clearly another side to this story that we haven't heard. 

It's not about making you suffer, it's about ensuring that your child can be taken care off. You would have been paying for that anyway. 

turnitround

Android07 said:

RogerBareford said:

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Why should I suffer because my wife suddenly felt like leaving. She did not even have a chat about her plans or concerns. She literally went to see the Doctor and then disappeared. I made a life-term commitment to her, she it seems did not.

No one 'Suddenly' feels like leaving. Speaking from experience I can tell you that leaving is very difficult to do, especially with a child involved.

I made a 'life-term commitment' to him as he did to me. That did not stop him from cheating, treating me terribly, getting constantly drunk and hitting me. All was fine for the first 6 years but once our much wanted child was born he suddenly decided he did not want the life of a married man or the responsibility of a child.
 
So I left 'just like that' but it was after a few years of knowing I could not go on in the marriage. No, I did not discuss it with him when the time came for me to go as I had tried many times to say how unhappy I was and was met with threats of what would happen if  I dared to leave. 

It's the hardest thing I have ever done, your wife did not take this action on a whim. It will have been coming for some time, what did you do to try to prevent it happening?

RogerBareford

Android07 said:

RogerBareford said:

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Why should I suffer because my wife suddenly felt like leaving. She did not even have a chat about her plans or concerns. She literally went to see the Doctor and then disappeared. I made a life-term commitment to her, she it seems did not.

In what way are you going to suffer?

So you would rather that your wife stayed with you when she obviously wanted to leave?

It's much better for both of you for her to leave than just stay because she feels she has too.

Pollycat

Android07 said:

RogerBareford said:

Android07 said:

Pollycat said:

Android07 said:

Ooooone more question - Should I take legal action against the family friend or my wife for making up false allegations?

Sure - if you can afford it after paying for the divorce, regular child maintenance and you may "have to give away half of" your "bank balance."

I can't believe how unfair this is. Wife makes false allegations , gets me arrested and then runs away with my child. Meanwhile, all I can do is go for a divorce and give away half my bank balance and then pay more for child maintenance.

Men have no rights anymore. We are a laughing bunch. No wonder people don't get married anymore or have kids!

So you get married which is a legal process where you both agree to share all your assets and then you complain about your wift getting her half when you divorce. Why would you get married if you didn't want to share all your assets equally?

Also why should you not have to pay to support your own child when she is looking after them?

Why should I suffer because my wife suddenly felt like leaving. She did not even have a chat about her plans or concerns. She literally went to see the Doctor and then disappeared. I made a life-term commitment to her, she it seems did not.

You seem to be very much "me me me".

What about your child?
Didn't you make a commitment to that child?
The child that you are not currently financially supporting.

sheramber

You were the one who pushed her to seeing the doctor.

You have had advice from solicitors so they should have given you the answers you need. Perhaps they did not give you the answers you wanted.

Details about getting a divorce are here

https://www.gov.uk/divorce