2022 DECLUTTERING CAMPAIGN MrsSD

balabooberlies

Suffolksue said:

well well done Bala small steps .
i,too, have stalled 
I need to stop thinking of the things DH and I couldn’t/didn’t do and remember all the things we did .
not as easy as it sounds 

love you Sue

big kiss

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pollyanna_26

I read the pound a day book when it was published. I found the title rasther misleading as a lot of the time she made use of other prople to provide various things. I found an old book Round about a pound a week about a study of poor families long ago which Identified one woman on a similar low income to the others in the area who fed her children well , didn't waste precious funds paying in to a burial fund every week for her children likely to die in childhood as was common in the area.     that woman had The Knowledge and that made all the difference.

Think it was Maud Pember Reeves who wrote the book about the study by local ladies in to poverty.

polly

wort

When we really delve into the reasons why we can’t 
Let Something Go
there are only two : attachments to the past and fear of the future.
—Marie Kondo—

wort

Childhood connection
did your parents have clutter.
were you taught to clean
were you called messy or lazy as a child?

Think of how this affects your current home
then think
As an adult ,I’m in control of my own life
I'm not my parents
I'm no longer a child
i have the ability to change
I'm not messy
i am amazing

Finding your “why” 
Think about something in your home that it would be hard to get rid of, even though you don’t particularly like or use it
Why are you reluctant to let go?
does it feel wasteful to get rid of something not rubbish? Do you worry you will need to spend money to replace it one day?
do you feel guilty because it was a gift?

try writing down
an item that WOULD be hard for me to let go is......
Its hard for me to let go because...
getting rid of it makes me anxious because...

Cassandra Aarssen

-taff

I think mine, after reading the book, decluterring at the speed of life, was giving myself permission to get rid of things without feeling I had to sell them or make some money off them because that was not the ethos I was brought up with.

bit_by_bit

Thankyou @EnergyShifter. I also got them some no caller stickers.

Sorry to hear about your MiL @vulpix. 

Thankyou for your kind words @Mrs_stinkface

@stellata: it sounds like you are overwhelmed. Great advice here re strategies to get started. Mine are  are to write a list (or not) of things to do, declutter a few mins at a time or do one thing e.g. a hotspot. You have already done several boxes. That is still several boxes done. Big hugs 

So I did get some things done yesterday. One frog and a trip to the allotment where I had great therapy tearing down a fence and digging a shallow ditch. 

Later DH and I emptied the car from Sunday and I have now checked through the clothes and rebagged for the CS and Refugees. I will load them into the car in a bit and drop off on the way to a coffee with a friend this afternoon.

Before I go I want to get info sheets written out in case SiL or her husband are admitted to hospital with their medical history, meds and permission for DH or myself to speak to the hospital about medical things. This is an attempt to declutter future anxiety as the episode last year was a shambles.

In the same vein I did a financial healthcheck with them on Sunday and that is going to be written up and printed too so they can see where their money is going.

Finally today I hope to do some prep for a new fence and the hard standing I am doing on the plot for my bench.

Right, signing off as I need toget started.  :

balabooberlies

-taff said:

I think mine, after reading the book, decluterring at the speed of life, was giving myself permission to get rid of things without feeling I had to sell them or make some money off them because that was not the ethos I was brought up with.

Thank you Taff

have been struggling (because I have debts) on letting go mountains of clothes to charity shops when I could sell them.  But I think clearing the clutter is going to be more valuable to me.  In the long run.

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newlywed

If you are at the point of thinking paying someone to help you declutter might be worthwhile… then doing it yourself but give it all away for free will still be cheaper!

I had to be honest with myself… I hated listing things on fleabay, especially when someone moany didn’t look at the photos or measurements and then moaned. My stress levels are worth far more than that bit of money.


sorry to not be keeping up with the thread… trying to declutter distractions and use my electronic devices a little less.

At the weekend took a bag with baking books, jeans, tops, various bits to charity shop. 

Decluttered some more teas. It’s working well for me having just picked out a few to compare with each other… have two similar flavoured ones, and definitely prefer one over the other so will reuse that tin for the one I prefer

decluttered a load of screenshots from my iPad and some apps from my mobile phone too. Unsubscribed from some emails and moved all apps away from the main Home Screen on both devices so I have to actively go find the time wasting things! 

Doing this challenge in case anyone is interested. https://courses.bemorewithless.com/less-phone-more-life-challenge/resources/#day1

florianatwobob

pollyanna_26 said:

I found an old book Round about a pound a week about a study of poor families long ago which Identified one woman on a similar low income to the others in the area who fed her children well , didn't waste precious funds paying in to a burial fund every week for her children likely to die in childhood as was common in the area.

Having grown up with money being tight I can recognise my mum’s approach in this lady’s attitude to feeding her family. And for that matter my grandparents approach too (both sets having lived through two world wars and the depression in late 1920s)

-taff

balabooberlies said:

Thank you Taff

have been struggling (because I have debts) on letting go mountains of clothes to charity shops when I could sell them.  But I think clearing the clutter is going to be more valuable to me.  In the long run.

x

Don't thank me! This approach worked for me, but if you feel that getting rid of them en masse is the way to go, why not take them to a place that buys clothes? You don't get much but it's better than nothing....