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Dining out - bill paying
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We'll order burger or scampi or something with a coke zero and without fail he'll follow by slapping their knees with the 'you know what, I think I fancy a steak?'... to which the waiter might follow with 'rump or sirloin sir?' to 'sod it, make it a sirloin, and can I get a pint with it, it's not a school night haha!'. His partner will usually order something from the specials menu with a couple glasses of wine.
Bill comes to £120 or whatever, they'll put £60 in the middle of the table. Don't have the heart to whip out my calculator and start working out what each party spent, but still infuriates me to no end. On the flipside, it's always in the back of my mind if I'm eating with people and my meal costs more than average - I'd always volunteer to pay more.
It's a shame because he's a really good friend otherwise, it's obviously my fault for not bringing it up to him.
I think I'd have to bring it up the next time out and say you think it a good idea to pay for what you each have.
Otherwise it would spoil the enjoyment of going out for a meal.
I think I'd be tempted to say at the start of the evening, or when a date is arranged "would you mind if we got separate bills? Mrs E and I need to economize this month" or similar.
I had this experience, i think you mean a very "clever" "friend. A genuine friend should not do this.
The friend I had this experience, when I asked him, hey when do you treat me for a change - does not bother asking me to go out for dinner. No loss to be honest, as he cheated me recently on some change getting me a drink when I gave him the money (so i could save us seats) (yet he is easily a higher rate tax payer with no mortgage or kids etc)
I used to do collections for weddings etc and organise Xmas lunches.
The worst people to get money out of were the highest paid.
Since going full accounting mode and calculating the exact cost of each order is not a proper fit for a pleasant evening among friends, you'll have to cave in and allow for a split bill from time to time. Yet, since one of you surely gets the short straw that way, then it's up to everyone to note how often that happens and try to make up to that person during the next gathering.
Of course, if the pattern repeats so much so that it throws any semblance of balance and fairness out of the window, then it's ripe for discussion and shouldn't be slept on any longer.