Dining out - bill paying
mutley74
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Hi
just curious how others deal with the saga of bill paying at the end of a meal with friends especially if other have unequal amounts of food and drink.
Out last night with 2 friends known for about a year, it was one's birthday. Bill came to £95.
My mains was just £16 and i had that ready as cash (I paid for drinks before the meal). One other ordered an expensive mains, lots of sides and wine (shared with the 3rd person).
They suggested going 3 ways on the bill, which meant i paid almost double of what I had. We are all working, so paying for what one had should not have been an issued. Usually would not care if i was just a few pounds here or there, but paying double was an ouch - by principal.
How do others deal with this issue when out with friends? Any tips appreciated.
just curious how others deal with the saga of bill paying at the end of a meal with friends especially if other have unequal amounts of food and drink.
Out last night with 2 friends known for about a year, it was one's birthday. Bill came to £95.
My mains was just £16 and i had that ready as cash (I paid for drinks before the meal). One other ordered an expensive mains, lots of sides and wine (shared with the 3rd person).
They suggested going 3 ways on the bill, which meant i paid almost double of what I had. We are all working, so paying for what one had should not have been an issued. Usually would not care if i was just a few pounds here or there, but paying double was an ouch - by principal.
How do others deal with this issue when out with friends? Any tips appreciated.
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Used to go for meals after work including a colleague who insisted on making a note of every sip and bite, and then calculating our exact bills at the end. Drove me mad and took the shine off what should have been a nice social occasion.
If i know a friend earns less than I'd probably wait for them to say how they want it, or split per cost. Would offer that option as well if I know I've spent considerable more than others e.g. premium steak.
If I thought someone was taking the mick and ordering loads more than the rest I'd probably push for splitting it on cost basis.
Last time i was out with person #2 we split bill within reason. But subsidising what would have been his £45 bill felt very unfair.
Lesson learnt, card burnt! Will make it clear when ordering next time!
If you want to pay for what you've had, you need to establish that up front.
Why on earth didn't you say that you were paying for your own meal and drinks?
We have friends that we eat out with and as we tend to order similar things (Chinese/Indian) and we all drink wine, it works out OK for each couple to pay half.
But beware of people underestimating their share.
We had this with a family meal.
One couple announced they wanted to pay for what they had rather than splitting the bill between 4 couples.
They missed out the aperitifs they'd had and liqueur coffees.
They also didn't include a tip in the amount they'd 'consumed'.
I called them out on it.
A big oversight and error on my side for going along with it when they suggested to split bill 3 ways. Especially as one of the others had been ordering so much on the menu on top of the most expensive mains. plus factor in cost of the birthday gift and transport! I bet i dont get that treatment on my birthday!
any tips welcome, dont want to sound like a tight pocketed but equally dont have money to waste, as have many other expenses.
I'd never order lots of stuff from a menu or order much more expensive drinks and then expect somebody else to subsidise my food/drink costs.
You wouldn't even need to bring up the subject if we were eating together.
If I wanted to order a sirloin steak and drink a bottle of Chateauneuf-Du-Pape whilst my companion ordered a plain burger and a pint of lager, I'd be saying 'let's pay for our own food & drinks'.
The fact that they didn't would make me look at them a bit closer.
Do you think they did it knowingly or just didn't consider how unfair splitting the bill 3 ways was?
Just say next time "we'll pay for our own".
You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
Anyway lessons learned and i need to stand up for what is best for me. As you say if they dont like it, then maybe they I am not suited to hand out with them. Had only budgeted for food and drinks under £25 last night but ended up paying £50!