Asking for money for honeymoon at our Wedding

maman

Pollycat said:

WOW!
Saving for a home and they put champagne glasses on their wedding list...

@Pollycat but I suppose some people would like special gifts that they wouldn't buy for themselves precisely because their own money is going towards more mundane things like a house. Which sort of takes us full circle on gifts of money for 'frivolous' things like a honeymoon or champagne flutes compared with towards a house deposit.

I expect there are many people who have spent very little on a Covid wedding that now  unexpectedly have money in the bank. 🤔

Pollycat

maman said:

Pollycat said:

WOW!
Saving for a home and they put champagne glasses on their wedding list...

@Pollycat but I suppose some people would like special gifts that they wouldn't buy for themselves precisely because their own money is going towards more mundane things like a house. Which sort of takes us full circle on gifts of money for 'frivolous' things like a honeymoon or champagne flutes compared with towards a house deposit.

I expect there are many people who have spent very little on a Covid wedding that now  unexpectedly have money in the bank. 🤔

My emphasis was actually on the 'champagne' rather than glasses (flutes).

As you say, it takes us full circle and people will still have their views on whether contributing to a honeymoon is what they want to do.

MaryNB

maman said:

Pollycat said:

WOW!
Saving for a home and they put champagne glasses on their wedding list...

@Pollycat but I suppose some people would like special gifts that they wouldn't buy for themselves precisely because their own money is going towards more mundane things like a house. Which sort of takes us full circle on gifts of money for 'frivolous' things like a honeymoon or champagne flutes compared with towards a house deposit.

I expect there are many people who have spent very little on a Covid wedding that now  unexpectedly have money in the bank. 🤔

I think it was this but I know them and they're not really into fancy things at all (and definitely not regular champagne drinkers), I think they just got caught up in all the wedding hype. There was loads of stuff on that list that they didn't need (and in my opinion was way overpriced). I think they may have had a a bit of the traditional idea of getting fancy cutlery or crockery as a wedding gift which was more common for my parents' generation. 

maman

As you know them @MaryNB, then I'm sure you're right about being caught up in the hype. On a more general point though, I don't see anything wrong with putting things on a list that a couple might like to have but wouldn't buy for themselves. A couple might have a home, adequately stocked from IKEA but would really cherish some quality crockery or decent saucepans or knives or a mixer for example. As there will invariably be friends and family that like to buy a gift then having a list available isn't a bad idea just because it's old fashioned. Some guests are old fashioned too! 🤣

Surely that's why we have this 'dilemma'. because many posters would rather buy a gift than give cash for a honeymoon.

Pollycat

maman said:

As you know them @MaryNB, then I'm sure you're right about being caught up in the hype. On a more general point though, I don't see anything wrong with putting things on a list that a couple might like to have but wouldn't buy for themselves. A couple might have a home, adequately stocked from IKEA but would really cherish some quality crockery or decent saucepans or knives or a mixer for example. As there will invariably be friends and family that like to buy a gift then having a list available isn't a bad idea just because it's old fashioned. Some guests are old fashioned too! 🤣

Surely that's why we have this 'dilemma'. because many posters would rather buy a gift than give cash for a honeymoon.

I'm definitely old fashioned!
I would much rather buy some quality crockery or decent saucepans or knives or a mixer for example than give a gift of money.
I'm sure that most - if not all - couples getting married don't have everything in their home that they need/want.
Being given the option of buying something instead of funding a holiday would appeal to those old fashioned souls like me.

newdriver101

A colleague once told me she had a “fake” gift list for her wedding!!!!!  I believe it was at Harrods but this was many years ago so not sure if they still do this…
Your guests think they are getting you a fancy tea pot or champagne glasses etc. from your “gift list” but instead you are actually getting Harrods vouchers to the value of the total “gifts”…

Emmia

MaryNB said:

maman said:

Pollycat said:

WOW!
Saving for a home and they put champagne glasses on their wedding list...

@Pollycat but I suppose some people would like special gifts that they wouldn't buy for themselves precisely because their own money is going towards more mundane things like a house. Which sort of takes us full circle on gifts of money for 'frivolous' things like a honeymoon or champagne flutes compared with towards a house deposit.

I expect there are many people who have spent very little on a Covid wedding that now  unexpectedly have money in the bank. 🤔

I think it was this but I know them and they're not really into fancy things at all (and definitely not regular champagne drinkers), I think they just got caught up in all the wedding hype. There was loads of stuff on that list that they didn't need (and in my opinion was way overpriced). I think they may have had a a bit of the traditional idea of getting fancy cutlery or crockery as a wedding gift which was more common for my parents' generation. 

You can drink things other than champagne out of champagne flutes - cremant, cava, prosecco, 0% fizz, lemonade...

People who are saving for a deposit don't need to wear hair shirts, perhaps they have several bottles of bubbly that people / work has given them and that they want to enjoy. 

It's just a gift list, you're free to choose what you'd like to give, or not. Just because you think it is overpriced rubbish, that doesn't mean they have the same opinion.