Asking for money for honeymoon at our Wedding

Mrsn

We’ve been married 2 and 1/2 years now and we didn’t have a list or any requests. Some of our guests thought it was odd that we hadn’t “requested” anything. We just wanted our friends and family with us to celebrate that finally after 14 years, 2 kids a couple of houses and a dog that we were making it “official”.

As it happened our guests were incredibly kind and generous but we would have genuinely been happy to just have their company. As guests at a wedding we’ve always been happy to give cash or currency for where the honeymoon was taking place but appreciate everyone has their own views on this.

74jax

Would be nice for the OP to reply, we are now at page 5......

Pollycat

74jax said:

Would be nice for the OP to reply, we are now at page 5......

Almost like a 'real' Money Moral dilemma...

anotheruser

We asked for money.
Don't make a silly poem - just write a short couple of sentences saying you want their presence, will welcome gifts but would prefer money to help with Honeymoon - but a little nicer sounding.

It doesn't matter if someone gives £10 or someone gives £100.  It's their presence that you want more really isn't it?

I'd say these days, that's what many (most?) people want.

katkatmachine

I wouldn’t mind donating to their honeymoon pot. I think it’s a win-win for both sides. The guests won’t have to worry what gift to give and the couple would be getting what they really want. Easy and practical. 

Tammykitty

I don't think you can ask for anything
You invite people to your wedding, they accept, and then they may ask you what you would want for a gift and then you can tell them about your honeymoon list.

When we got married - we did this, and got a great mix of presents and cash, but TBH,  nearly 10 years later - I would nearly have preferred all gifts - love taking something out of the cupboard and thinking person x bought us this as a gift..

Some aunts and uncles asked my mum what we would like and she was able to point them towards some nice matching dinner sets etc.

sheramber

It very much depends on whether you have a house full of everything you require or not.

MaryNB

Almost all the weddings I've been to have been for couples who have lived together for years so I always give a cash gift. My friends wanted money for their honeymoon so said no gift but was required but if guests wanted to give something, money towards the honeymoon would be very much appreciated. 

Only once did a friend put together a gift registry. Given they were saving up for a house I would have much preferred to give them money instead of buying stuff like overpriced champagne glasses...

leonj

In would be embarrassed to ask for money towards a honeymoon , charity is OK though

Pollycat

MaryNB said:

Almost all the weddings I've been to have been for couples who have lived together for years so I always give a cash gift. My friends wanted money for their honeymoon so said no gift but was required but if guests wanted to give something, money towards the honeymoon would be very much appreciated. 

Only once did a friend put together a gift registry. Given they were saving up for a house I would have much preferred to give them money instead of buying stuff like overpriced champagne glasses...

WOW!
Saving for a home and they put champagne glasses on their wedding list...