The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

Grumpelstiltskin

Buffy something has to give, do you want it to be you collapsed in hospital?

stymied

Why do you have to be up until your mum goes to bed? The bedtime medicines can be put out ready in a bowl/pot.

Ask your sister to ‘try’ another range of meal deliveries and like them this time!

Sorry if this sounds harsh, we all care about you xx

beanielou

Buffster.  I do not know what the answer is but you CANNOT go on like this.
What am I missing that you cannot go to bed until your mum does? xx

Sun_Addict

I’m sorry things are tough at the minute. You need to be firm with your mum. You’re working full time she’ll have to eat what’s easy for you. One of the many things I’ve learned as a carer is not to pander to their every whim. Take care xx

RosaBernicia

Buffy...

If I told you about a friend whose partner expects her to cook a roast dinner every day after full time work, walk the dogs, get the shopping, organise his medical care, pay his mortgage while giving her no rights to the house, is consistently rude and critical, and insists that she stay up until he wishes to sleep even when she is exhausted and sick... what words would you use to describe that relationship?

beanielou

RosaBernicia said:

Buffy...

If I told you about a friend whose partner expects her to cook a roast dinner every day after full time work, walk the dogs, get the shopping, organise his medical care, pay his mortgage while giving her no rights to the house, is consistently rude and critical, and insists that she stay up until he wishes to sleep even when she is exhausted and sick... what words would you use to describe that relationship?

This, Buffy. this.

Buffythedebtslayer

Ok. It is really silly but Mum has an electric blanket  and she can't unplug it, I tried a timer but she was convinced it wouldn't go off and got me up to unplug - this was when she was very ill tho - she isn't that out of it now to be fair. She also didn't like the noise the timer made.... She is actually so much better then she was really, talkative and can follow the tv more easily. However it is a situation we have - she can plug in but needs me to unplug it. 

I know you are all correct, I am working a full time job and have no life at all. None. It is very miserable right, I think that is why losing D head is so bloody hard and the house rabbit. His photobook came yesterday.. There is so much to do here and no time to do it. I have no joy in my life. 

I have arranged a meeting with the financial advisor guy in half term. I am trying I promise. 

I haven't done my walk. !!!!!!. 

stymied

Don’t worry about the walk.

Please just make your mum a hottie, unplug the electric blanket (tell her it will stay warm for a while anyway) and go to bed x

RosaBernicia

[bangs head on desk]

Buffy, we can all quite imagine that there is some tiny annoyance or preference that means your mum would rather you stay up.  What we don't understand is why this should be prioritised over the impact on you.  And we worry because it appears to be part of a consistent pattern. 

Hands up everyone who will happily sleep with the noise of a timer tonight, if it means Buffy gets to go to bed with her migraine?

1.  Me (stranger on the internet)

Four_Seasons

2. Another stranger (on the Internet)