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The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

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  • Sorry to hear about your bunny...thinking of you.
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  • thank you all XXX 

    I have found this week so hard. Mum hasn't been good. She is in a lot of pain and this makes it all so hard to do anything. Obviously Tuesday was awful, I had a terrible headache from then on. I don't even remember most of the week. Totally didn't write down what I had taught, not like me at all. so the week was a mess basically. 

    I am really quite worried about myself. And Mum oh and my BIL is ill, my sister is in touch with 111. Been so ill and so tired. Got so much to do. Really want to go to bed. 

    I need sleep but mum doesn't want to go to bed yet. Tempted to text !!!!!! Head but will not. I miss him, I miss house bun. I miss the idea that I had a future and plans. 

    XXXXX

    Nevertheless she persisted.
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    Sorry to read you’re feeling so low. Perfectly normal given the circumstances. You still have a future and plans you’ve just hit a bump in the road. I hope things start to improve soon. Take care xx
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  • It’s horrible right now, but there will be better days, there always are. You are doing a difficult job in difficult circumstances and you should be proud of all the things you are accomplishing. You will get to that best view, just now it’s the climb 🌺
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  • Thank you SA and WW XXX 

    I think I was so tired last night it was unbelievable. I slept from 11.30 till 6 and then until 8.30

    I feel better in myself today. Not so horribly tired. I get to see some friends today and I have to work out my plan for the house for the afternoon. I think it might be the garden as it is disappointing to be in such a mess.  And I need to move some things around in the shed. 

    Sunday is all about the hospital, a nap and some work. 

    XXX


    Nevertheless she persisted.
  • milann
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    Pleased you feel a bit better. You are doing amazingly juggling lots of things. Enjoy time with your friend 👍
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  • warby68
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    I would love to give you a day off. I only care for my mum from a distance but its a 24/7/365 responsibility nonetheless. 

    Do you think maybe its time to get you and mum some help with things - the obvious are a gardener and cleaner. I know you don't particularly like others seeing the house but you might need to get past that. You work full time, care for mum and a lot of animals and have a couple of health niggles yourself. Its an awful lot for one person without support. My mum resisted a cleaner for a very long time but now she is her best friend! Her gardener will also do small odd jobs - he's a bit expensive but very reliable. She is a difficult customer and I have to smooth things over a lot when he threatens to quit. She has unrealistic asks sometimes. There is no way we could manage mum's situation without them. 

    Mum also has a few aids suggested by social services which help with grip and balance and moving things around. I thought we'd done all we could ourselves but its surprising what 3rd parties pick up. 

    I don't know what your mum's issues are but mine has a degenerating spine, a lot of pain, poor balance and grip and very poor eyesight to name but a few. She has the tri-walkers everywhere and manages beautifully with them. 

    The next service we will probably use is a meals one to give her a hot meal and welfare check at lunchtime. Not there yet but I could see how that could help you, meaning only a light snack for the evening possibly.

    I really feel for you especially that your whole timetable appears to be dictated to by mum which is very difficult when you need rest and downtime. I hope you don't feel the suggestions are too pushy but I was close to overwhelmed at one stage with mum's needs after a hospital stay so I think I understand. I'm the only carer
  • I think a gardener is a really good start as this will at least deal with one of the things that you think is a mess. That might then allow you time to focus on other things. 

    Thinking of you Buffy. There isn't much I can say or do to help and reading your diary makes me want to reach out and give you a hug x
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    As Captain Tom says tomorrow will be a better day xxx

    Can only echo what others say.
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