The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

Buffythedebtslayer

milann said:

It sounds as if you have come a long way Buffy. I agree the people on here are so encouraging and non judgemental.

I think it is a magic part of the internet cos I rarely see anyone be horrible and if someone is, others defend them. 

XX 

badmemory

I too believe this is a magic part of the internet.  Even when people say it like it is (sorry guilty as charged) it is not meant to be hurtful.  Just it is what it is, sometimes sugarcoating does no-one any favours.  But some of the stuff I read on what is supposed to be news is just plain - well we will start off with embarrassing & as for what they call news, don't get me started.

Let's face it why do I hang out around here.  I've never been in debt & paid off my mortgage 20 years ago when it was definitely NOT a thing.  Back then I only knew one other person that did & she was a lot better off than me.  I have one friend who at 75 had to sell his house because he STILL hadn't paid off his mortgage, just kept doing interest only & has nothing - no money/savings nothing but still some debts, fortunately he doesn't seem to care.  If I can say something to stop anyone from landing in that situation, then I will say it.

beanielou

Sending much love Buffster  xxx

Honeysucklelou2

What a lovely post Buffy...agree that this forum is such a supportive place.

Hope your back is getting better.

Buffythedebtslayer

My back isn't better. I am a bit worried since I have so much to do. I am quite disappointed in the last two days, I fell asleep for 3 hours on both days, I have done some basic housework and cooked and cleaned for Mum. The weather has been rubbish, first rain and then wind. 

The four bunnies are doing well, I still haven't separated her. I am so 50/50 on this. She is a tiny bit braver but...  it just feels awful. She should have her own friend. 

Tomorrow since the weather is meant to be ok I am going to empty the sheds. I need to move the shelving I bought into Mum's shed as really it is needed in there, my stuff is in boxes and is now mostly pet supplies, summer clothes which will be donated since I didn't wear any last summer and sentimental things. 

I have decided to sell my small fish tanks. I had two set up in my room but they have turned green (!) and it is proving difficult to fix, bigger tanks are easier. Also still got some cages to sell. or give away. 

I need to make it so I can fit the hay in my shed and have easy access to the tools and "seasonal" pet items and house items.. 
All the stuff is in there, just needs to be less! 

Wish me luck! 

Willowtree222

Good luck. I am sure you’ll do well. From my experience pet supplies usually sell quite quickly

x

Buffythedebtslayer

Evening, 

Had a HUGE row with Mum this morning. She was incredibly patronising and dismissive of my view, knowledge and opinion. And I flipped OUT. 

Not great but you know what I have spent an entire week doing virtually everything for her, and she can't even listen to me. 

So I stormed out, after some door slamming and shouting. I only went to the chemist to collect her pills, and bought my lunch which I ate in the car after a little drive around. 

Came back, got her tea, cake, and then went upstairs for a few hours of peace , came back made her tea again, had a nap and then made dinner. She is being a martyr and "letting me" watch Have I got News for You.  

I feel quite good to be fair. I just cannot care. I am entitled to my feelings and my opinion. 

I love Victoria Coren Mitchell. She is bloody brilliant. 

Sun_Addict

Being a carer sucks 😩

RosaBernicia

Oh Buffy.

You are entitled to your feelings, your opinion, and reasonable use of the house that you pay rent for.  Including a choice of TV programme.  And actual time off to enjoy yourself. 

Totally agree VCM is aces.   

Sun_Addict

There is a FB group Unpaid Carers Support Group UK, might be worthwhile joining?