Vendor is insistent on visiting after completion

Slinky

For those saying write RTS on the envelope, this will only work if there is a return address written or printed on the outside of the envelope. The days of the Post Office/Royal Mail opening letters to find out where they had come from to return it to them are long gone. If it's blank, RM will bin it.

GaleSF63

lookstraightahead said:

kdotdotdotdot said:

This sounds like a tale of culture clash.  Some people are very 'my home is my castle and no one uninvited is allowed to tread on MY ground' while others are more of the 'hail-fellow-well-met' type with a front door that's always open to everyone and anyone.  

The vendor is an older man, who's probably been very happy in that house and part of the local community for some time.  It's only been since April that he's moved away, so no wonder he's having a hard time letting go.  I'm surprised at all the posters who imagine that it's easy to let go of long friendships in just a matter of months, and just move on in life.  

It's not really that irksome to have someone popping round to pick up post, and if it is, just tell him so.  The decent thing to do is return to sender his post, and it's really not that difficult.  You don't have to do it immediately if you're busy and he'll soon get the message.  

This is how I feel.

I do see the op's side and there is a cut off point, but the man might be going through all kinds of things. 

Op aside, we seem to have this unhealthy attachment to our castles. 

If you've paid hundreds of thousands for your castle I'd call it a healthy attachment. 

General_Grant

Slinky said:

For those saying write RTS on the envelope, this will only work if there is a return address written or printed on the outside of the envelope. The days of the Post Office/Royal Mail opening letters to find out where they had come from to return it to them are long gone. If it's blank, RM will bin it.

How long is "long gone".

I had one returned to me via the RM Belfast office.  Instead of using the return address (including my surname) I had written on the back of the envelope they sent it to Belfast where they opened the letter which was personal and returned it to me (using my first name not surname as that was not on the letter) with a note which said I should have put return details on the envelope!

The_Real_Cheddar_Bob

I'd not be happy with this situation at all. Bin the mail, stop answering the phone by blocking the number and ignore the visits. 

BikingBud

I'm not sure what is legally correct or incorrect in these circumstances and it seems that many others are not sure either but after 11 pages what is clear is that there are some who consider even a minor inconvenience to help others such a significant burden that they should not and will not extend a courtesy of giving a little.

It's endemic behaviour; manners and courtesy towards others seem to be of a bygone era, on the roads, in shops, travelling on public transport, in all aspects of daily interaction, selfishness takes over.

How do we get to the stage where we are so far detached from other people and are unwilling to tolerate and give a little time and empathy for others?

Pok3mon

The_Real_Cheddar_Bob said:

I'd not be happy with this situation at all. Bin the mail, stop answering the phone by blocking the number and ignore the visits. 

this 100% give warning first.

Swasterix

BikingBud said:

I'm not sure what is legally correct or incorrect in these circumstances and it seems that many others are not sure either but after 11 pages what is clear is that there are some who consider even a minor inconvenience to help others such a significant burden that they should not and will not extend a courtesy of giving a little.

It's endemic behaviour; manners and courtesy towards others seem to be of a bygone era, on the roads, in shops, travelling on public transport, in all aspects of daily interaction, selfishness takes over.

How do we get to the stage where we are so far detached from other people and are unwilling to tolerate and give a little time and empathy for others?

Turning that on its head, where has the gentleman in question shown any empathy for the new owners of his property? Why should OP tolerate his obvious unwillingness to help himself?

prowla

BikingBud said:

I'm not sure what is legally correct or incorrect in these circumstances and it seems that many others are not sure either but after 11 pages what is clear is that there are some who consider even a minor inconvenience to help others such a significant burden that they should not and will not extend a courtesy of giving a little.

It's endemic behaviour; manners and courtesy towards others seem to be of a bygone era, on the roads, in shops, travelling on public transport, in all aspects of daily interaction, selfishness takes over.

How do we get to the stage where we are so far detached from other people and are unwilling to tolerate and give a little time and empathy for others?

I'd say that the continued intrusion of a stranger is not a minor inconvenience.

MaryNB

BikingBud said:

I'm not sure what is legally correct or incorrect in these circumstances and it seems that many others are not sure either but after 11 pages what is clear is that there are some who consider even a minor inconvenience to help others such a significant burden that they should not and will not extend a courtesy of giving a little.

It's endemic behaviour; manners and courtesy towards others seem to be of a bygone era, on the roads, in shops, travelling on public transport, in all aspects of daily interaction, selfishness takes over.

How do we get to the stage where we are so far detached from other people and are unwilling to tolerate and give a little time and empathy for others?

OP said in one of their posts that he gets annoyed when they're not home to give him his post.

He has a sense of entitlement that the OP shouldn't have to pander to. Why should the OP go out of their way to help him when he's too lazy to sort his own affairs and is rude to others who he expects to sort his post for him.

Redirection is a very basic thing to do. While it's not perfect and the odd letter can slip through, the op can pop it back in the post box when it suits them to do so. The previous home owner isn't entitled to expect the OP to be home when it suits him to give him his post.  

The_Real_Cheddar_Bob

It's entitlement. Possibly the gent has moved to a larger place, or see the op as inferior to him in some way. Regardless, id cut this crap out now.