Vendor is insistent on visiting after completion

paulj2021

On the subject of writing RTS on an envelope, I once briefly worked in a post room for a large financial company, the post they received was machine opened, the contents quickly stapled together and the envelopes immediately discarded, so anything written on the envelopes would probably not have been noticed. So if you keep receiving post from the same places that might be why. Mind you that was several years ago so things might be different now…

kdotdotdotdot

This sounds like a tale of culture clash.  Some people are very 'my home is my castle and no one uninvited is allowed to tread on MY ground' while others are more of the 'hail-fellow-well-met' type with a front door that's always open to everyone and anyone.  

The vendor is an older man, who's probably been very happy in that house and part of the local community for some time.  It's only been since April that he's moved away, so no wonder he's having a hard time letting go.  I'm surprised at all the posters who imagine that it's easy to let go of long friendships in just a matter of months, and just move on in life.  

It's not really that irksome to have someone popping round to pick up post, and if it is, just tell him so.  The decent thing to do is return to sender his post, and it's really not that difficult.  You don't have to do it immediately if you're busy and he'll soon get the message.  

Emmia

RatInACage said:

Emmia said:

GaleSF63 said:

Emmia said:

Or if he keeps going to the neighbour, leave his mail there.

That could just pass the problem on to the neighbour who might not be happy already that he keeps coming back to see them. 

And it won't put a stop to the mail arriving in the first place. 

On several occasions on this thread I've advocated returning the mail to sender - but many people seem to think this won't work. 

The OP wants the mail to stop. IMO they need to RTS by writing that on the envelope and putting them back in the post box  - not offering a redirection (the vendor can pay the cost of the RM service) but if the previous vendor is visiting neighbours it could offer a "softer" option for them (if RTS is unpalatable) if the neighbours will agree.

I hope you didn't think I was suggesting the OP does the RM redirection and updating the various companies. The hard boundary was telling the lazy ex-vendor to do it. Between using the OP's house as a storage unit and expecting the OP to deliver his mail to him or be available whenever he turns up for two months, he's really taking the pee at this point. I don't think the OP should be rude to him, but anything less than a polite but firm statement with no alternatives is going lead to him continuing to take advantage.

I'm not - other posters suggested they readdressed mail to the new address, rather than RTS. That is what the service offered by RM is for and the vendor needs to set it up themselves.

lookstraightahead

I think the poor fella has some issues, so op carry on being kind, but why don't you say you have sent everything RTS so you have nothing for him? 

Sometimes people don't know what to do. I went for a job interview yesterday. They wanted me to set up an app on my phone for a work thing. They just assumed I had an up to date phone and knew how to install an app. The job I went for does not require me to have any technology. 

The point is, he might not know what to do. 

lookstraightahead

kdotdotdotdot said:

This sounds like a tale of culture clash.  Some people are very 'my home is my castle and no one uninvited is allowed to tread on MY ground' while others are more of the 'hail-fellow-well-met' type with a front door that's always open to everyone and anyone.  

The vendor is an older man, who's probably been very happy in that house and part of the local community for some time.  It's only been since April that he's moved away, so no wonder he's having a hard time letting go.  I'm surprised at all the posters who imagine that it's easy to let go of long friendships in just a matter of months, and just move on in life.  

It's not really that irksome to have someone popping round to pick up post, and if it is, just tell him so.  The decent thing to do is return to sender his post, and it's really not that difficult.  You don't have to do it immediately if you're busy and he'll soon get the message.  

This is how I feel.

I do see the op's side and there is a cut off point, but the man might be going through all kinds of things. 

Op aside, we seem to have this unhealthy attachment to our castles. 

MovingForwards

Just RTS and drop them in the post box when passing.

It's the stance I took and the frequency of replacement letters is slowing. It's mainly mobile phone letters now, all the debt ones have stopped, most of the financial institution ones have stopped.

user1977

lookstraightahead said:

Sometimes people don't know what to do. I went for a job interview yesterday. They wanted me to set up an app on my phone for a work thing. They just assumed I had an up to date phone and knew how to install an app. The job I went for does not require me to have any technology. 

The point is, he might not know what to do. 

The concept of getting the Royal Mail to redirect your mail (or just telling your correspondents that you've moved house) is hardly a novel one or something requiring technical knowledge. The OP says they have advised him to set up a redirection.

teachfast

If you want to be gentle and efficient, get his address and forward a few asking him to ensure each one of those are told of his new address. It will soon trickle to a stop and you won't have him coming around.

ka7e

If the chap isn't tech-savvy enough to arrange redirection online. The process of getting the form from a PO ( many older people have baulked at the idea of entering one due to Covid) and filling it in can seem quite daunting. You have to produce proof of the old address (dated within the last 6months, so that window is closing) and ID and pay £69 for a year's redirection. But maybe if the OP gave him a copy of the printed form he might be more inclined to arrange it himself.

elsien

This is a gentleman who sounds fairly active and is happy to turn up at the door of an almost complete stranger and have regular ongoing contact with the neighbours. 
Really can’t see entering a post office as being a huge stumbling block in the circumstances.