Vendor is insistent on visiting after completion

Josiea

Just a little update, he has now text me asking if I have had a voucher for a specific item of food as his best friends partner likes it…..

OH, and he knocked on our door at 9.30pm telling us he’s expecting a parking fine coming through the door and that if we didn’t give it to him when it arrived that we could end up with bailiffs at our door.

it just gets strange at this point. I wish he could just leave us alone. I thought that the message telling him to get a redirection set up and telling him to change all his addresses with providers would have been enough to give him a wake up call.

elsien

Block his number so you don’t get any texts. Stop answering the door to him. 

Any CCJs he gets because of not telling people he’s moved are his problem, not yours. 

Stopping responding and sending his post back as return to sender does sound like your best bet. 

What did you say when he knocked on the door - sounds to me like a blunt “sort your own post out because we’re not holding it for you or passing it on any more; any consequences are down to you” is the only message that is likely to get through. 

I suspect you’re still being polite to his face. You don’t need to be rude. You do need to be assertive and very clear indeed. 

user1977

Josiea said:

OH, and he knocked on our door at 9.30pm telling us he’s expecting a parking fine coming through the door and that if we didn’t give it to him when it arrived that we could end up with bailiffs at our door.

Did you ask him why that is? Has he failed to tell the DVLA of his new address several months after moving out? If he doesn't sort it out then presumably any bailliffs are still going to come to your door...

elsien

If bailiffs turn up, all OP has to do is show it’s nothing to do with them and they will go away again. 

Josiea

elsien said:

Block his number so you don’t get any texts. Stop answering the door to him. 

Any CCJs he gets because of not telling people he’s moved are his problem, not yours. 

Stopping responding and sending his post back as return to sender does sound like your best bet. 

What did you say when he knocked on the door - sounds to me like a blunt “sort your own post out because we’re not holding it for you or passing it on any more; any consequences are down to you” is the only message that is likely to get through. 

I suspect you’re still being polite to his face. You don’t need to be rude. You do need to be assertive and very clear indeed. 

I told him he needs to change his details with the dvla, he made up some excuse why he couldn’t, i offered to help him with it and he declined. Then I told him he needs to get a redirection, which he clearly hasn’t as he’s texting me asking for me to keep vouchers that he gets in the post. He is just a strange strange strange man who thinks he can take advantage of two 20 year olds that are clearly too kind 😂. 

Wyndham

Josiea said:

elsien said:

Block his number so you don’t get any texts. Stop answering the door to him. 

Any CCJs he gets because of not telling people he’s moved are his problem, not yours. 

Stopping responding and sending his post back as return to sender does sound like your best bet. 

What did you say when he knocked on the door - sounds to me like a blunt “sort your own post out because we’re not holding it for you or passing it on any more; any consequences are down to you” is the only message that is likely to get through. 

I suspect you’re still being polite to his face. You don’t need to be rude. You do need to be assertive and very clear indeed. 

I told him he needs to change his details with the dvla, he made up some excuse why he couldn’t, i offered to help him with it and he declined. Then I told him he needs to get a redirection, which he clearly hasn’t as he’s texting me asking for me to keep vouchers that he gets in the post. He is just a strange strange strange man who thinks he can take advantage of two 20 year olds that are clearly too kind 😂. 

I think you are kind, good, people. But sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind. I've read the thread, and to be honest, he's approaching harassment. Please be careful.

You need to be firm. Tell him that you will not keep any post for him. And (whether you do this or not) tell him that you do feel harassed, and if he continues you'll have no choice but to involve the police. To be honest, it sounds like you've tried everything else, and I commend you for that. But I also think you're approaching the point where you have no other alternative.

OK, maybe mean...?
 

olgadapolga

He's taking advantage of your kindness and needs to be told to stop bothering you. His behaviour is not reasonable  and it's unfair on you.

It's no longer his home and he needs to be told as he doesn't seem to realise this. He chose to sell the house, after all!

Personally, I'd have blocked his number long ago. 

I would also refuse to answer the door to him any more. 

All post marked return to sender.

His (potential) debts aren't your problem. If the baliffs do turn up, give them his solicitor's details. Or the neighbour's, who wanted his post (or was that another thread?)

Marvel1

Josiea said:

Just a little update, he has now text me asking if I have had a voucher for a specific item of food as his best friends partner likes it…..

OH, and he knocked on our door at 9.30pm telling us he’s expecting a parking fine coming through the door and that if we didn’t give it to him when it arrived that we could end up with bailiffs at our door.

it just gets strange at this point. I wish he could just leave us alone. I thought that the message telling him to get a redirection set up and telling him to change all his addresses with providers would have been enough to give him a wake up call.

Block number.

Don't answer the door.

Return mail to sender.

HampshireH

Next time he says bailiffs will come just say,

"Thankyou not a problem we will let them know when they arrive. Goodnight"

Stop trying to help - you have offered enough times

You have given him all relevant advice.

He obviously wasn't the one asking for you to give the neighbour the post else he wouldn't be knocking your door he would be knocking theirs for it.

Just return to sender and after a few weeks bin it

He won't get the message until he doesn't get the post he is expecting. 

Swasterix

elsien said:

Block his number so you don’t get any texts. Stop answering the door to him. 

Any CCJs he gets because of not telling people he’s moved are his problem, not yours. 

Stopping responding and sending his post back as return to sender does sound like your best bet. 

What did you say when he knocked on the door - sounds to me like a blunt “sort your own post out because we’re not holding it for you or passing it on any more; any consequences are down to you” is the only message that is likely to get through. 

I suspect you’re still being polite to his face. You don’t need to be rude. You do need to be assertive and very clear indeed. 

This…

By continually offering to help, you’re encouraging his behaviour. I know you’re trying to be nice, but it will continue as long as you do so.

You need to tell him in no uncertain terms to stop knocking on your door, texting or ringing and from X date in the future any further mail received will be going in the bin. I guarantee that will spur him into action.