OS Monday 10th Dec 07

HariboJunkie

Cat....I think you have done the right thing. I can't believe they took their prezzies!!!
If and when you speak to your mum why don't you just say that her partner was out of order and isn't welcome back. You can still have her to visit and keep in contact with her and hopefully she will realise that no man should come between a mother and daughter.
It would be a shame to lose contact with her though so I would try to keep the lines of communication open a bit, even if it's stilted, until she realises what he put you through.

Take care

Haribo x

Edited to say Welcome Miss Eyre :hello:

csarina

Morning everyone ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))) if you need one.

Catowen: How rude to speak to you like that in your own house, and how very cheeky to remove presents from under your tree whilst you were out, he obviously is a complete nerd. There is no way I would accept behaviou like that from anyone let alone a live in what ever he is.......

Re the hugs etc, I had an uncle who was like that, he liked to try and turn you away so no-one could see him squeeze your breast at the same time.....
I bested him, when I saw the car draw up outside I went and put a pair of shoes on with heels, as expected the grab came, I lifted my foot and brought it down the inside of his leg and then put all my weight onto his foot!!!!!!!!! Boy did he yell, but he never tried it again. I was also concerned incase he tried it with my two daughters...........but they kept well away from him.

Regarding parents, yes it is hard, as someone said you can choose your friends but not your family.............you could speak to your mother and tell her that she is welcome in your house but not him!! I guess she will say if he doesn't come neither will she, in which case I am afraid you will have to live with it...........its not nice I know, but I am sure you would not behave in the same way in someone else's house....................

My mother re-married when I was 16, I loved my step father dearly, and was devasted when he died just after my youngest son was born.

I am lucky too in that my children accept their step father and my grandchildren all think the world of him.........infact even now my 12year old grandson asks to sit near him at the dinner table and the pair of them love computer games, they will shut themselves away whilst the rest of us chew the fat.............

I hope that by telling us what happened you feel better, keep your chin up girl, its their loss...........you have your lovely family. I know from reading the threads that you are having it difficult just now and I really hope that things improve for you soon.

Nice morning here but very cold, a quick trip to the lottie to empty the kitchen waste bin, it was very full, put a load of coloureds in the laundry when I went out, will have to nip down and put them in the dryer.

Not much on this week, we have a 'keeping safe' conference on Wednesday, lunch and taxi provided apart from that I am girding my loins ready for a busy week next week.

redruby

MissEyre wrote: »

Morning everyone, just wanted to say hi-have been lurking for a few months now, and decided to let you all know I'm here! Have taken lots of your advice already, and looking forward to joining the GC for the first time in January...

Welcome MissEyre (feel I should call you Pam or jane )

You will love it here. :santa2:

supposed to be doing me shopping, but get bored with trying to think what we will have for dinner next week, so keep being lured back on here

scuzz

catowen

I know how you feel to a certain degree. My Mum left my Dad for another man, who she'd been seeing for years behind all our backs - to this day she denies that. I won't have anything to do with this "man" and I've told her that if she marries him, or moves in with him, I'll stop having anything to do with her. At the moment I live with her, so it would be hard to inforce that now. But he won't come near me - he's scared of both me and my sister. However, just two weeks after Dad died, Mum told me she'd happily have nothing more to do with me and sis as long as she can be with this home wrecker. After watching my Dad go through heart ache twice - she pretended to come back to him until she bled him dry of his money - I can't forgive my Mum for what she did to our family.

So I know what it's like to despice someone so much you're prepared to cut someone else out of your life.

Hugs to you hun and keep putting you and your kids first.

Pooky

Joannasmum - Gret photos - looked busy and cold though, glad you had a nice time.

Cat - I'm gobsmacked that your mum didn't speak up - but good on you for speaking out - it's your house and why should you have to put up with that! Well done on the win, you've done so well this year with your wins, you're running your own business, you've got 2 gorgeous kids who I know you're very proud of and you've proved to your ex that you're able to survive without him, you'll get through this blip, your relationship with your mum will evolve in to the next phase and who knows, this might have made her sit up and realise what she wants from her life and how she wants to be involved in yours.

Well I got sidetracked this morning making a few calls and washing all the hard floors and didn't get my sewing out - Aussie - it's just a basic hexagonal patchwork throw that I'm working on - I suffer with carpol tunnel syndrome in both wrists and it effects how long I can grip a needle, so tend to keep my sewing basic and easy to come back to.

Freezing here today - actually put the heating on about 20 mins ago, don't normally have it on in the mornings when I'm here alone but just couldn't get warm, just had a bowl of very hot veggi chilli from the freezer which has started to defrost me on the inside.

mary43

Afternoon all.

Pooky get your carpel tunnel syndrome sorted. I did. I left it such a long time I could hardly cut my food up, let alone wash kitchen floot etc. (plus side to all things.............lol) but once I had it done, given a few months it was back to normal. Wished I gone about it sooner.

Shan't be about much today, need to go to the bank with a young lad to discuss bank charges and getting them back for him.............could be interesting.

Had every intention of following Flylady's routine for housework........fell down badly. Made some christmas cards and created more mess, sorted out tonights dinner and then came on here..................oh dear............my brain needs help !!!!!!

Have to go..................just realised the time and got this bank appt.........!!!

twink

morning all

its a bit chilly here, have been to the library and cleaned the house, just popped on to give big hugs to catowen and they had the cheek to take their presents too

hugs to your dh aussielass
welcome Mary and MissEyre
hugs to jayward and crazychik

love to all xx

hermoine_2

Hi all have not posted on here for ages and ages. Used to be called Jellycat but my account vanished!!!

Nice to see all the usual peeps on.

I am feeling a little bit fed up.

DH got a proper job - no longer self employed but money is tight. We are broke.

I have about £5 in my purse to the end of the week and about £50 to last until the end of the month!

Ho Hum and it is Christmas - most pressies got but no food in yet!

Any suggestions for cheap festive fayre?

Louise

dlb

Horrayyyyyyyyyyyyy the last of the kids xmas presents has finally been delivered!! Iv been waiting since September for it, so that means apart from some chocs and sweets for stockings im done!!!! What a weight off my mind that is.
Fogot to say to Catowen this morning WELL DONE on winning the psp, what a fantastic prize, wished i could have won a couple, iv bought 4 this year as thats the kids main presents!!! Hope you winning streak continues ((())
Right off to tidy the mess iv made looking for my phone charger i lost this morning finally found it under ds1 bed!!!LOL
Donna
x

Suesy_Sue

Catowen, I have been lurking on this site but your problems have prompted me to write. I too had problems with my step-dad, I didn't get on with him, I lived with him from the age of 13 and there was always something not quiet right. When I got kicked out of the family home at 18 and finally got in contact with my Dad and step mum (another long story) he told me that my step dad had been to court and found accused of being a peeping tom, when I was 16.

After 4 yrs of not speaking to my mum, due to her not standing up for me and going along with asking me to leave, she got in contact with me and we had intermittent contact. I am/and have always been a single mum now to a DS8. I won't go and visit my mum at her house because my step dad makes me feel uncomfortable. She won't meet me when I go to visit my Dad (they live in the same town and I live 2 hrs away) in a cafe so we haven't spoken for 3 yrs.

I came to the decision when DS was 5 that if she isn't prepared to make the effort then neither should I. It was the best decision I have made. I am sorry you are going through all your problems, but I am sure you will get some good advice from everyone on here.

Good luck with whatever you decide and remember you can survive, I have!!