Three years to get debt free

CRANKY40

I hope DD is feeling better soon. 

Willowtree222

CRANKY40 said:

I hope DD is feeling better soon. 

She’s ok in herself mostly but just has a couple of moments. Early night tonight and then she’ll be fine. X

Sun_Addict

Kids soon pick up when they’re poorly, I bet she’s fine tomorrow. 

I used one of those foot peels and thought it hadn’t worked. A few days later I thought I had some cellophane stuck to my feet - it was skin and peeled right off - sounds 🤮 I know.

Willowtree222

Sun_Addict said:

Kids soon pick up when they’re poorly, I bet she’s fine tomorrow. 

I used one of those foot peels and thought it hadn’t worked. A few days later I thought I had some cellophane stuck to my feet - it was skin and peeled right off - sounds 🤮 I know.

I’m wondering if this will do the same. I put it on for the full 90 minutes. My skin on my feet hasn’t been the best recently x

Willowtree222

Morning everyone,

I’m really not feeling it these last few days. DD is okay I did her a test just to make sure and it was negative so we are free to wander the world again.

I was talking to a couple of people yesterday and the level of negativity just dragged me down and I went to bed wanting to actually cry. One was a totally criticism of my beliefs and the other was a moan about something else that in the grand scheme of the world isn’t they important.

One just kept repeating their view and I was uncharacteristically forceful and quite rude. I think it became apparent I wasn’t happy and the subject got changed but it did leave me feeling quite rubbish. There’s also something quite huge on the horizon about something I’ve always wanted to achieve and I mentioned it to be faced with all the negatives associated with it. In the end I realised that telling people positive things doesn’t always get people being genuinely happy for you. It was the same person when I said about the bike that listed everyone recently they knew that had a crash and I shouldn’t do it. 

I couldn’t sleep so texted a friend to meet for a coffee next week. It was strange as we meet all the time but interestingly they knew straight away something was wrong even over text. All I asked was if they were free for a coffee, which isn’t unusual. 

Cinema with DD today. Then the weather looks lovely so hopefully a chill out afternoon. I still want her to have relax time x

CRANKY40

It sounds like you'd be better off without the negative person but if you can't get rid (family) then stop sharing your plans and stick to telling the people that will be pleased for you when you achieve something. My sister can be a bit like that and every time that she has a problem herself there are also at least five reasons why she can't take the quickest, easiest and most sensible route to fix whatever is going wrong. 

If the weather is still good after the cinema, then maybe grab yourselves some paper and a pen, a snack and a drink and head for the garden to make some bucket lists. It would be interesting for you to see what is on your DDs. You don't have to do everything on them and ours change quite often as new ideas and enthusiasms appear but they can be a good incentive to get things done. 

Willowtree222

CRANKY40 said:

It sounds like you'd be better off without the ngative person but if you can't get rid (family) then stop sharing your plans and stick to telling the people that will be pleased for you when you achieve something. My sister can be a bit like that and every time that she has a problem herself there are also at least five reasons why she can't take the quickest, easiest and most sensible route to fix whatever is going wrong. 

If the weather is still good after the cinema, then maybe grab yourselves some paper and a pen, a snack and a drink and head for the garden to make some bucket lists. It would be interesting for you to see what is on your DDs. You don't have to do everything on them and ours change quite often as new ideas and enthusiasms appear but they can be a good incentive to get things done. 

That’s a really good idea, thank you Cranky. I think I’ll try it.

unfortunately, I can’t escape either of the people. Normally I can just get through it though and usually ignore it but this time I couldn’t. I think because I was already feeling a bit upset then this just happened. It was just a barrage of it. It links back with what we were saying last week about when you’re with someone. I really hate the idea of going out for food in a date or with someone. My intolerances and allergies are embarrassing in restaurants fans I will go out for good but it’s usually tried and trusted places. This person thinks that you should be going out for meals at beginning of relationships (just to clarify I’m not in a relationship we were talking in general). My idea of getting to know someone is not sitting in a restaurant worrying about whether I’m going to react. I’d much rather be at home, cooking, or talking or going for walks. All they kept repeating was “I don’t get that” I didn’t mention my allergies being the reason as I shouldn’t need to. They were saying they still did it with their wife. That’s fine, you’re comfortable and know someone well enough to not get embarrassed with them if the food isn’t right.

Can you imagine me on a date with someone who doesn’t know me in some posh restaurant? The part where it says “do you have any allergies” or me ensuring my long list of foods I can’t have isn’t in any of what I’m eating. The guy would run a mile 😂😂😂

I’m ok about it now. Just was upset last night that I can’t like what I like without someone thinking it’s appropriate to say it’s wrong. Not even listening and just saying, I disagree but it’s up to you. Out and out saying it’s the wrong way.

x

CRANKY40

I'd much rather go for a walk and a chat for dates with maybe a coffee somewhere. I don't like eating in front of people that I don't know well. The HT has only ever been for a coffee and a walk with his partner due to covid closing down all of the possible eating venues that they could have gone to. They have eaten out together since things reopened but have either had me, the other mother or both of us mothers with them.

It seems a bit narrow minded to refuse to see that the way that they do things doesn't suit everyone or that times have changed and things don't have to be done that way any more.  It's like saying that all houses should be the same as the one that they live in (good comparison for next time if you're in the mood to ever argue your point again).

Willowtree222

The person is always critical or negative. Sees the bad in everything and over the years we’ve crashed heads a couple of times. They changed the subject when I started to reassert my point. I think at one point I said that I couldn’t think of anything worse when they were describing what would be nice 😂. I once went on a date in a restaurant that I’d researched before and had a really good free from menu. Four times they returned to the table checking and going through and it was just embarrassing. I wanted to leave in the end. That was well over two years ago now and I haven’t done it since. I haven’t been on a date since 😆. 

I’m surprised people are so obsessed with my life. I think they need to have a focus of their own x

CRANKY40

My best friend is a dairy free zone and I know for a fact if we were out anywhere he would eat dairy rather than make a fuss. I usually cook for him at home - cheaper and safer.